Porn is not an option

Phineas 808

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Indeed, the Gauls even overthrew Rome, almost- maybe 2x! I may go to visit his statue soon, in honor of the Gauls. They were Brittonic Celts, as opposed to Goidelic, which is more Irish and Scottish. But, you're right, French sounds so different for those reasons...!

I think Welsh is very similar to what they may have spoke before the Romans 'Romanized' them. In fact, the word for 'Wales' in French means 'the land of the Gauls'.
 

Blondie

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I may go to visit his statue soon, in honor of the Gauls.
That would be awesome. To bad the Romans wiped away so much of their history.
They were Brittonic Celts, as opposed to Goidelic, which is more Irish and Scottish
Indeed you're right. But I believe a "similar" culture and unfortunately one that's practically lost to time.
In fact, the word for 'Wales' in French means 'the land of the Gauls'.
I didn't know that. That's fascinating! I'm mostly English, so I'm more on the Germanic side of things, aka, a barbarian lol
 
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Blondie

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I needed this today.

Know and acknowledge your red flags. –Therapy lesson

Red flags are warning signs. As addicts, we all have them. Some examples are realizing that we have not eaten lunch, noticing that we are driving recklessly, the desire to "flirt" with an addiction, and isolating ourselves from others. Anything that lets us know we are "off" or going in a problematic direction is a red flag. It is not a problem that we have red flags, nor is it a problem that we run into them. It is a problem when we see them and continue on the same path. When we ignore our red flags, we are minimizing or denying the consequences of our choices and actions. That allows the chaos our addiction creates in our lives to continue. By paying attention to our red flags, we give ourselves the opportunity to make changes. Am I aware of my red flags? Am I open to seeing new red flags that I have not previously recognized? What gifts await me as I acknowledge my red flags and make changes?

Stein, Timothy. Gifts of Recovery: Daily Meditations for Men and Women in Recovery from Sex & Porn Addiction (p. 290). Kindle Edition.
 

Blondie

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Am I BIG enough??

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So today my Lady and I did a "little" experiment for shits and giggles. After almost 40 years of living on this planet, I can honestly say I've never measured my manhood before. I don't know why I've never done this, it seems like a perfectly reasonable and rational thing to do for a man, nevertheless, the fact remains. 📏📐

However, yesterday I made a joke about measuring my dick after my Lady asked me why I was looking so vigorously for the tape measure. She laughed, I laughed, end of conversation. Anyhow, after fooling around a bit this morning, I had the brilliant idea to actually get some data on my dick, thus, we grabbed the tape measure and started to count! I must say, I was surprised by the inches. Don't get me wrong ladies and gentlemen, I'm no stallion, and hell, it's nothing to even brag about, but the fact remains, I had no idea!

I've always thought my dick size was a little below average. To be sure, my girlfriend seems to love it, nevertheless, I've always thought it was hanging somewhere around the upper regions of small to medium.

Why is this so?

Well, after this "small discovery" we started to laugh, and she asked me why I thought it was semi-small? I thought for a moment then realized that the only dicks I've ever seen are the ones in porn! 🤦‍♂️ Holy shit, all this fucking time I've been comparing my dick size to the Clydesdales in porn videos, of course I thought my dick was small! 🐎10"🐎

Funny enough, I can honestly say I've never felt self-conscious about my member. My sense of it was, it's "just the facts ma'am" and there was nothing I could do about it. But here I am, a year out from porn, and I'm still learning what it means to be and live in the real world, and not in porn world!

So for all of you out there thinking your junk is small and does not add up in the real world, I would suggest you get your head out of your ass (and certainly off of Pornhub) and see the world as it really is. Porn not only fucks up our ideas about what women should look like, but it completely destroys us guys in what we think a "normal" dick should look like.

Here's some hard facts for you.


Most dudes do not have a porn sized pecker, such as 8, 9 or 10 inches. The sizes of these cocks are not even considered large, a large dick is 6 to 7 inches long, which is something 5 out of 100 guys have. But these porn dicks are completely abnormal, and almost no one in the population has a dick that size. It's also imperative to remember that porn actors are literally hired because of the size of their junk. Plus, don't forget all the special camera angles they do to make it look bigger, and the drugs and bullshit that goes along with making porn videos in general.

It's all an illusion fellas.

A regular size dick is a little over 5 inches when fully erect. This is considered average and is what most guys have in their pants. There is nothing wrong with regular, in fact, it's pretty cool. Of course, if your man downstairs is smaller, don't fear, your life is not over. At the end of the day, and from what I've read, you only need 3 inches to basically get the job done. If your woman loves you, and your doing your job right, you're all set! This shit is not nearly as important as we think it is, especially if we've been watching porn for so many years.

Best to you gents.

Addendum: I have officially used up my dick discussion quota for at least 3 months!
 
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Blondie

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Day 371

I hope you all have a wonderful day!

Another great one from my book today.

"We will stumble and fall in the learning process, but success can only be reached when we are prepared to take those steps, all of them, even the ones where we fail." –Bob Proctor

In recovery, the idea that someone recognizes that they are an addict, gets sober, and moves smoothly and consistently into recovery is a myth. The success of sobriety comes with steps forward and steps backward. It is easy to appreciate moments of success and learning. However, there is much to be gained from our struggles and failures as well. We slow or eliminate our growth and progress when we deny our struggles and failures. When we acknowledge and learn from our struggles and failures, we make future success possible. While aiming for failure is counter-productive, it is important to acknowledge and learn from our struggles and failures in sobriety and recovery.

Stein, Timothy. Gifts of Recovery: Daily Meditations for Men and Women in Recovery from Sex & Porn Addiction (p. 291). Kindle Edition.
 

Blondie

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@EarthWalker: This is true, especially when it comes to the size of body parts, which one has literally no control over (boobs, dick etc.).

I don't think about porn these days, so I might be forgetting these details, however, from what I can recall, there were many different body types for women: slim, thin, round, yes even fat, plus big boobs, little boobs and everything in between; nevertheless, I don't remember ever seeing a normal size dick on a dude, I mean literally, I can't think of one time! Even just a "normal" big dick like seven inches I don't recall ever seeing lol.

What a clusterfuck of so called entertainment! We not only objectify women, but we objectify ourselves or what we think a "real man" should be and look like lol. No wonder everyone feels like shit these days.

As they say, garbage in garbage out.

Fuck, writing this makes me hate it even more. I'll just add one more thing to my list for reasons of why porn sucks and is never entertaining or pleasurable.

Life is always better without it!
 
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@EarthWalker: This is true, especially when it comes to the size of body parts, which one has literally no control over (boobs, dick etc.).

I don't think about porn these days, so I might be forgetting these details, however, from what I can recall, there were many different body types for women: slim, thin, round, yes even fat, plus big boobs, little boobs and everything in between; nevertheless, I don't remember ever seeing a normal size dick on a dude, I mean literally, I can't think of one time! Even just a "normal" big dick like seven inches I don't recall ever seeing lol.

What a clusterfuck of so called entertainment! We not only objectify women, but we objectify ourselves or what we think a "real man" should be and look like lol. No wonder everyone feels like shit these days.

As they say, garbage in garbage out.

Fuck, writing this makes me hate it even more. I'll just add one more thing to my list for reasons of why porn sucks and is never entertaining or pleasurable.

Life is always better without it!
The crazy thing is what makes a 'real man' is just moving goalposts in 2022. Everyone's got an opinion and even positive masculinity is frowned upon. I think the only right answer is ultimately looking back to our roots and seeing what defined men. I like to say all the things one needs to live a content / happy life has already been discovered thousands of years ago by our ancestors, whatever we have in the current era is either a) going the wrong direction or b) just repackaging what others have already discovered millennia ago. Naturally we can all imagine where porn falls on this spectrum...
 

Blondie

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Day 372

Thanks @searching4good, that made my day yesterday. Keep on crushing it yourself man. Porn is never the answer.

@First_step_thousand_miles:
The crazy thing is what makes a 'real man' is just moving goalposts in 2022. Everyone's got an opinion and even positive masculinity is frowned upon.
Thanks man, all truth!

Yes it's a crazy time to live as a man. We're told all the world's problems are because of us, and we're practically made a laughing stock daily in the media. How you ever watched a modern sitcom? Don't! That will positively make your dick small! lol To say us men even have a problem or struggle is often a point of contempt for many. The frantic mob will scream out "Are you fucking serious dude? Only women can have problems, so grow the fuck up!" On the totem pole of importance, us men are at the bottom of existence, somewhere between a future criminal and a shit stain left in Billy Bob's whitey tighties, but hell, at least a criminal gets free housing! Funny enough, we have all the same responsibilities as the olden days but with none of the respect that use to come with it. We're told to "man up" constantly by our enemies, and shamed if we don't follow the "script", even though no one will ever thank us if we happen to get to the finish line. If women leave their marriage, it's "you go girl!", but if men do, he's having "a midlife crisis and should learn to grow up!" Ironically, 70-90% of all divorces are initiated by women! Talk about Peter Pan syndrome! Or is that Wendy syndrome.

I'm sure many people reading this might think Blondie's a bitch for saying such things and that he must cry himself to sleep at night like a little bitch boy! Obviously they haven't got the message, didn't you hear, us men aren't supposed to cry either? The same women and culture who tell us men in one sentence that men should be more emotional, is the same society that tells us to "man the fuck up" when we don't fellow their orders, and if you resist them, they will shame you and shout "Stop crying!" Seriously, you can't make this shit up! :cool:

So yes @First_step_thousand_miles, us men should return to our roots and how men use to define themselves in the olden days. Obviously we can go too far the other way too, but at this point, we're a long ways from that!

Us men literally built the entire world, and if we stopped suddenly doing so and had a man strike, or worse a war, all the women who think they don't need us or complain that we're not "emotional enough", would be running right back to us and loving our stoicism when shit hits the fan. I mean really, how long could the world function if us men said fuck it for even a few days and collectively sat on our asses for one week? All jobs that fix or build things are done by men. Ironically, many women with educations look down on these men as if they are better than them. Only in a world so "civilized" and mostly "safe" from threats would women think such stupid thoughts. In third world countries, no woman has such delusions. Modern women and society need us way more then they would like to admit it. And yes, us men need women too, but generally, you don't find men saying stupid shit like that. So this isn't a hate women piece, just stating the facts as I see it.

We live in crazy times, and yes, porn is most definitely a part of the problem!

Stay strong boys, this is a fight for your life.

Did you really believe there was any other option?

Addendum: Even though a modern man is told he should do more chores around the house, and that all women will say "It's soo sexy, when men wash the dishes!" this propaganda denies the differences between the sexes and evolutionary biology or God in general. To be honest, I have no problem with being more equal, and I always do the dishes after dinner. However, I will tell you this, although my girlfriend "loves" that I do the dishes, she's never once wanted to fuck me after I finished them. But holy shit, when I build something for her or fix the car, I literally have to watch me back. :cool: Why is this the case? This is so, because no amount of societal conditioning could override women's biological imperatives and what all women have looked for in a man throughout the ages. Washing the dishes is what women have done for all of history, and it doesn't need a man's extra strength to do it; however, fixing something, building something, was always men's work, and usually took the extra muscle we men have to get the job done. Unfortunately, this modern "religion" of equality denies these basic biological facts.

The lesson learned, we should never try to fuck with mother nature.

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I finally wrote a "man" piece @Phineas 808 and @SmokenMirrors, so I thought I'd tag you guys! ;)
 
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Day 372

Thanks @searching4good, that made my day yesterday. Keep on crushing it yourself man. Porn is never the answer.

@First_step_thousand_miles:

Thanks man, all truth!

Yes it's a crazy time to live as a man. We're told all the world's problems are because of us, and we're practically made a laughing stock daily in the media. How you ever watched a modern sitcom? Don't! That will positively make your dick small! lol To say us men even have a problem or struggle is often a point of contempt for many. The frantic mob will scream out "Are you fucking serious dude? Only women can have problems, so grow the fuck up!" On the totem pole of importance, us men are at the bottom of existence, somewhere between a future criminal and a shit stain left in Billy Bob's whitey tighties, but hell, at least a criminal gets free housing! Funny enough, we have all the same responsibilities as the olden days but with none of the respect that use to come with it. We're told to "man up" constantly by our enemies, and shamed if we don't follow the "script", even though no one will ever thank us if we happen to get to the finish line. If women leave their marriage, it's "you go girl!", but if men do, he's having "a midlife crisis and should learn to grow up!" Ironically, 70-90% of all divorces are initiated by women! Talk about Peter Pan syndrome! Or is that Wendy syndrome.

I'm sure many people reading this might think Blondie's a bitch for saying such things and that he must cry himself to sleep at night like a little bitch boy! Obviously they haven't got the message, didn't you hear, us men aren't supposed to cry either? The same women and culture who tell us men in one sentence that men should be more emotional, is the same society that tells us to "man the fuck up" when we don't fellow their orders, and if you resist them, they will shame you and shout "Stop crying!" Seriously, you can't make this shit up! :cool:

So yes @First_step_thousand_miles, us men should return to our roots and how men use to define themselves in the olden days. Obviously we can go too far the other way too, but at this point, we're a long ways from that!

Us men literally built the entire world, and if we stopped suddenly doing so and had a man strike, or worse a war, all the women who think they don't need us or complain that we're not "emotional enough", would be running right back to us and loving our stoicism when shit hits the fan. I mean really, how long could the world function if us men said fuck it for even a few days and collectively sat on our asses for one week? All jobs that fix or build things are done by men. Ironically, many women with educations look down on these men as if they are better than them. Only in a world so "civilized" and mostly "safe" from threats would women think such stupid thoughts. In third world countries, no woman has such delusions. Modern women and society need us way more then they would like to admit it. And yes, us men need women too, but generally, you don't find men saying stupid shit like that. So this isn't a hate women piece, just stating the facts as I see it.

We live in crazy times, and yes, porn is most definitely a part of the problem!

Stay strong boys, this is a fight for your life.

Did you really believe there was any other option?

Addendum: Even though a modern man is told he should do more chores around the house, and that all women will say "It's soo sexy, when men wash the dishes!" this propaganda denies the differences between the sexes and evolutionary biology or God in general. To be honest, I have no problem with being more equal, and I always do the dishes after dinner. However, I will tell you this, although my girlfriend "loves" that I do the dishes, she's never once wanted to fuck me after I finished them. But holy shit, when I build something for her or fix the car, I literally have to watch me back. :cool: Why is this the case? This is so, because no amount of societal conditioning could override women's biological imperatives and what all women have looked for in a man throughout the ages. Washing the dishes is what women have done for all of history, and it doesn't need a man's extra strength to do it; however, fixing something, building something, was always men's work, and usually took the extra muscle we men have to get the job done. Unfortunately, this modern "religion" of equality denies these basic biological facts.

The lesson learned, we should never try to fuck with mother nature.

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I finally wrote a "man" piece @Phineas 808 and @SmokenMirrors, so I thought I'd tag you guys! ;)
This is truth bro. Men and women are certainly equal but frankly we bring different things to the table in some respects. I like the example you gave of fixing the car, at the end of the day men & women both have 'factory settings' (like Apple phones) of stuff that we are wired for in a primal level. Though the media is damn well trying to, you cannot program that away permanently

Totally get that building an equal society is important but the pendulum is not shifting to equal, it's shifting far left to women-elevating and man-bashing. I can't see how this is healthy, it seems more like grievance politics!

Though I think on that point in returning to our roots, I've been growing more & more interested in Stoic philosophy (and I generally think philosophy is self-wanking btw!). Esp for men in this era, really helps you put the world in perspective, taking things as they come, and move on. There's what you can control and what you can't -- most people can't distinguish between the two and make themselves miserable. Highly recommend Meditations by Marcus Aurelius, I'm going through that piecemeal.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

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This is truth bro. Men and women are certainly equal but frankly we bring different things to the table in some respects. I like the example you gave of fixing the car, at the end of the day men & women both have 'factory settings' (like Apple phones) of stuff that we are wired for in a primal level. Though the media is damn well trying to, you cannot program that away permanently

Totally get that building an equal society is important but the pendulum is not shifting to equal, it's shifting far left to women-elevating and man-bashing. I can't see how this is healthy, it seems more like grievance politics!

Though I think on that point in returning to our roots, I've been growing more & more interested in Stoic philosophy (and I generally think philosophy is self-wanking btw!). Esp for men in this era, really helps you put the world in perspective, taking things as they come, and move on. There's what you can control and what you can't -- most people can't distinguish between the two and make themselves miserable. Highly recommend Meditations by Marcus Aurelius, I'm going through that piecemeal.
Definitely. Men and women have their differences. I was watching Jordan Peterson on Joe Rogan podcast where he pointed out some interesting facts about what men tend to gravitate towards and what women tend to gravitate towards when it comes to interests and stuff like that. The idea is, men and women should complement each other, not be against each other. Both man and woman coming together they form a whole. But this fact is not promoted. Do I want women to have rights and chances? Of course. But here is the thing, even though the agenda presents some pertinent problems that I agree with, it can easily be used to obtain power (as Jordan Peterson pointed out). You can come asking for some things and then you get them but you keep pushing. All this stuff about toxic masculinity etc. The only thing toxic are people who are toxic. Masculinity is not toxic as femininity is not toxic, only people are toxic. Both genders have individuals who do bad things. Not only men. As well as both genders having great people. What I don't like is how all those things, sometimes subtle, about men are pushed in media. Forget about me for a second but what I'm afraid is the kids who watch that and grow up being trained to believe that. I see things in TV series, in movies, even commercials. And I don't think it's okay. Society doesn't benefit from men being weak and not masculine. As well as society doesn't benefit from women not being feminine and trying to be "manly". But anyway, there is a whole discussion about this, listen to Jordan Peterson, he can explain it way better than I could ever could.
 

Blondie

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Day 373

Great comments gentlemen, @First_step_thousand_miles, @Escapeandnevercomeback
I like the example you gave of fixing the car, at the end of the day men & women both have 'factory settings' (like Apple phones) of stuff that we are wired for in a primal level.
That's a good example as well.

I'm definitely not trying to get into politics here, because this place isn't for that, nor would I want it to be, but yes, men and women are entirely different. This difference is what makes the genders beautiful and unique. I would even go on to say that men and women AREN'T equal, but equally important!
man-bashing. I can't see how this is healthy, it seems more like grievance politics!
Yes, the man-bashing has to stop, because that's no different than the misogynists that hate women, it's just more people yelling over each other and never having a real discussion. I think there will always be some aspects that both sexes will not like or understand about the other, and that's okay.

I really have a passion for these subjects, not only because they're amazing and fun to think about, but also because they're so important for a good society, and I think our porn problems stem a great bit from these modern issues.
There's what you can control and what you can't -- most people can't distinguish between the two and make themselves miserable.
I love stoic philosophy, I definitely hear you there. Just don't tell the ladies about this, I hear they like soft men these days!;)
The idea is, men and women should complement each other, not be against each other. Both man and woman coming together they form a whole. But this fact is not promoted.
This is so true @Escapeandnevercomeback. It's crazy that something like this is so controversial to say these days, when it's so basic and simple to understand that even a child could grasp it. Have you ever been around a beautiful feminine women? Talk about having power! However, it's not the same power that a man has: it's motherly, maternal, empathetic, nurturing, ephemeral. That shit is like cocaine for a man, it makes any thoughts of porn vanish in an instant! There is no weakness in being feminine, and I don't understand why it has to be banished from our society for it to be more "equal". The day when all femininity dies from this planet, will be the day when all beauty vanishes forever. Then there will be nothing for us men to fight for, thus, nothing beautiful to die for. Yes femininity is not as "physically" strong as us men, nor maybe as assertive, but it's just as strong in a general sense, and it literally births the world we live in - talk about having power!

Us men build the world, and women bring us into it.
All this stuff about toxic masculinity etc. The only thing toxic are people who are toxic.
Absolutely true. Which is why I talk about this stuff constantly at RN, because the last thing us men need trying to get over porn, is to have that toxic anti-men nonsense stuck in our brains! Everyone can be toxic, and the people who shout that stuff from the rooftops are the most toxic of all - they are literally destroying society and the beauty and differences of both sexes.

Society doesn't benefit from men being weak and not masculine. As well as society doesn't benefit from women not being feminine and trying to be "manly".
Absolutely.

Never forget this, only real men can destroy real manly assholes, not men who bitch and cry at the first signs of danger. Men who constantly shout their feelings from the rooftops, will be the men to first jump when shit hits the fan. Nature has always been a bitch, just try to live out in the woods for a few weeks! It is NOT civilized, it is NOT easy, NOR does it give a damn about your feelings. Crying doesn't make the grizzly bear stop attacking you. Can you imagine Leonidas crying to his wife the night before heading off to battle to die? Or worse, crying to his men before the battle? They would have killed him before the enemy got to him!

Here's an axiomatic truth for you: All men die, but all weak men die first.

"As well as society doesn't benefit from women not being feminine and trying to be "manly".

Yes, society needs feminine women like it needs air. Unfortunately, feminine women are becoming rarer and rarer these days. A feminine woman is almost like an endangered bird that we all know deep down will eventually leave this earth for good one day, thus, we hold on to it (even just the idea of it!), like a dying species, wishing we could change nature's course, but knowing we cannot.

We need a Hercules to save us from our sins.

Good conversation boys.
 
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Sammyjo

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Am I BIG enough??

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So today my Lady and I did a "little" experiment for shits and giggles. After almost 40 years of living on this planet, I can honestly say I've never measured my manhood before. I don't know why I've never done this, it seems like a perfectly reasonable and rational thing to do for a man, nevertheless, the fact remains. 📏📐

However, yesterday I made a joke about measuring my dick after my Lady asked me why I was looking so vigorously for the tape measure. She laughed, I laughed, end of conversation. Anyhow, after fooling around a bit this morning, I had the brilliant idea to actually get some data on my dick, thus, we grabbed the tape measure and started to count! I must say, I was surprised by the inches. Don't get me wrong ladies and gentlemen, I'm no stallion, and hell, it's nothing to even brag about, but the fact remains, I had no idea!

I've always thought my dick size was a little below average. To be sure, my girlfriend seems to love it, nevertheless, I've always thought it was hanging somewhere around the upper regions of small to medium.

Why is this so?

Well, after this "small discovery" we started to laugh, and she asked me why I thought it was semi-small? I thought for a moment then realized that the only dicks I've ever seen are the ones in porn! 🤦‍♂️ Holy shit, all this fucking time I've been comparing my dick size to the Clydesdales in porn videos, of course I thought my dick was small! 🐎10"🐎

Funny enough, I can honestly say I've never felt self-conscious about my member, my sense was it was just the "facts" and there was nothing I could do about it. But here I am, a year out from porn, and I'm still learning what it means to be and live in the real world, and not in porn world!

So for all of you out there thinking your junk is small and does not add up in the real world, I would suggest you get your head out of your ass (and certainly off of Pornhub) and see the world as it really is. Porn not only fucks up our ideas about what women should look like, but it completely destroys us guys in what we think a "normal" dick should look like.

Here's some hard facts for you.


Most dudes do not have a porn sized pecker, such as 8, 9 or 10 inches. The sizes of these cocks are not even considered large, a large dick is 6 to 7 inches long, which is something 5 out of 100 guys have. But these porn dicks are completely abnormal, and almost no one in the population has a dick that size. It's also imperative to remember that porn actors are literally hired because of the size of their junk. Plus, don't forget all the special camera angles they do to make it look bigger, and the drugs and bullshit that goes along with making porn videos in general.

It's all an illusion fellas.

A regular size dick is a little over 5 inches when fully erect. This is considered average and is what most guys have in their pants. There is nothing wrong with regular, in fact, it's pretty cool. Of course, if your man downstairs is smaller, don't fear, your life is not over. At the end of the day, and from what I've read, you only need 3 inches to basically get the job done. If your woman loves you, and your doing your job right, you're all set! This shit is not nearly as important as we think it is, especially if we've been watching porn for so many years.

Best to you gents.

Addendum: I have officially used up my dick discussion quota for at least 3 months!
Sharing this one with my husband! Maybe a good way to start our "date night" conversation:LOL:
 
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