Porn is not an option
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EarthWalker
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Merry Christmas legend!
Blondie
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Merry Christmas to you guys! @SmokenMirrors, @swimmer97 and @EarthWalker
I hope you're having a great one.
I hope you're having a great one.
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First_step_thousand_miles
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Good stuff man, it really does get easier over time to distinguish between the urge that controls you and you in control of the urge. Sounds like you're firmly in latter camp, hell yeah!
Blondie
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Thank you @GBS.
Best to you!
Thanks @First_step_thousand_miles.
I definitely feel that is the direction I'm heading. Let us hope so!
Best brother.
The promise land is where we're all heading! Just one day at a time and we'll get there.
Best to you!
Thanks @First_step_thousand_miles.
I definitely feel that is the direction I'm heading. Let us hope so!
Best brother.
Blondie
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Recovery lies in the middle of paradoxes. – Therapy lesson
I found myself getting into some black and white thinking today. This quote from my book helped me a lot.
There are many paradoxes to recovery if you think about it.
For example...
We must love ourselves, but never bullshit ourselves. Which one are you?
You cannot successfully quit porn unless you love yourself first, but, you cannot love yourself while being a wanker can you?
Do not look at porn subs, porn subs here and there are just fine.
Five minutes of porn is better than an hour of porn, but five minutes of porn is worse than ten hours of porn subs!
Embrace your God-given righteous sexuality, but learn how to control it for its proper end.
90 days is everything, 90 days is just the beginning.
Respect and honor the female sex, but never be ashamed that you have the power to bend the world over.
We must embrace the two-second rule, but goddamn women are amazing!
Life is not about excessive pleasure, but, pleasure IS a good thing.
Triggers are everywhere, but only if you think so.
Porn is cheating, porn is NOT cheating.
It's good to tell your partner the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, however, they don't need to know every last detail. This isn't the Nuremberg trials. Or is it?
Don't masturbate, masturbation is okay
Recovery is not JUST about your dick, but yes it is!
Yes, you are more than your day count, but your day count does say something.
A relapse does not set you back to square one, but it DOES set you back. "Yes doctor, I ate an entire fucking wedding cake by myself, but my diet goals are still on target" WTF?
Counting your days is prideful, not counting your days could also be prideful.
Recovery should only be for yourself, but, we must do it for our relationships as well.
Tell your partner you're sorry and own up to your shit. Period. However, your shit should never let them become the "moral judge" for the remainder of the relationship.
Actions, not words, is what is needed now in the relationship, but, partners love affirming words too.
Set boundaries for yourself, but don't live under a rock for fucks sake!
Your relapse was NOT a failure, but it was, if you did not learn anything from it.
Recovery is about quitting porn, No, recovery is about starting your life.
Recovery is ALL about finding balance, peace and harmony with the universe, fuck no, you must extricate this shit from your life right now before it kills you!
Love yourself first, and let us all hold hands in brotherly love and sing kumbaya together, no you worthless porn-induced maggots, this is your last warning, you're dying a little everyday so wake the fuck up!
If you read this far God bless you, truly I mean that. However, don't you have anything else better to do with your life?
I love you all.
Please find your balance and harmony, and yes ex-wankers, please wake the fuck up, for the clock is ticking...
Best
Blondie
I found myself getting into some black and white thinking today. This quote from my book helped me a lot.
There are many paradoxes to recovery if you think about it.
For example...
We must love ourselves, but never bullshit ourselves. Which one are you?
You cannot successfully quit porn unless you love yourself first, but, you cannot love yourself while being a wanker can you?
Do not look at porn subs, porn subs here and there are just fine.
Five minutes of porn is better than an hour of porn, but five minutes of porn is worse than ten hours of porn subs!
Embrace your God-given righteous sexuality, but learn how to control it for its proper end.
90 days is everything, 90 days is just the beginning.
Respect and honor the female sex, but never be ashamed that you have the power to bend the world over.
We must embrace the two-second rule, but goddamn women are amazing!
Life is not about excessive pleasure, but, pleasure IS a good thing.
Triggers are everywhere, but only if you think so.
Porn is cheating, porn is NOT cheating.
It's good to tell your partner the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, however, they don't need to know every last detail. This isn't the Nuremberg trials. Or is it?
Don't masturbate, masturbation is okay
Recovery is not JUST about your dick, but yes it is!
Yes, you are more than your day count, but your day count does say something.
A relapse does not set you back to square one, but it DOES set you back. "Yes doctor, I ate an entire fucking wedding cake by myself, but my diet goals are still on target" WTF?
Counting your days is prideful, not counting your days could also be prideful.
Recovery should only be for yourself, but, we must do it for our relationships as well.
Tell your partner you're sorry and own up to your shit. Period. However, your shit should never let them become the "moral judge" for the remainder of the relationship.
Actions, not words, is what is needed now in the relationship, but, partners love affirming words too.
Set boundaries for yourself, but don't live under a rock for fucks sake!
Your relapse was NOT a failure, but it was, if you did not learn anything from it.
Recovery is about quitting porn, No, recovery is about starting your life.
Recovery is ALL about finding balance, peace and harmony with the universe, fuck no, you must extricate this shit from your life right now before it kills you!
Love yourself first, and let us all hold hands in brotherly love and sing kumbaya together, no you worthless porn-induced maggots, this is your last warning, you're dying a little everyday so wake the fuck up!
If you read this far God bless you, truly I mean that. However, don't you have anything else better to do with your life?
I love you all.
Please find your balance and harmony, and yes ex-wankers, please wake the fuck up, for the clock is ticking...
Best
Blondie
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jonazo91
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Here's another few,Recovery lies in the middle of paradoxes. – Therapy lesson
I found myself getting into some black and white thinking today. This quote from my book helped me a lot.
There are many paradoxes to recovery if you think about it.
For example...
We must love ourselves, but never bullshit ourselves. Which one are you?
You cannot successfully quit porn unless you love yourself first, but, you cannot love yourself while being a wanker can you?
Do not look at porn subs, porn subs here and there are just fine.
Five minutes of porn is better than an hour of porn, but five minutes of porn is worse than ten hours of porn subs!
Embrace your God-given righteous sexuality, but learn how to control it for its proper end.
90 days is everything, 90 days is just the beginning.
Respect and honor the female sex, but never be ashamed that you have the power to bend the world over.
We must embrace the two-second rule, but goddamn women are amazing!
Life is not about excessive pleasure, but, pleasure IS a good thing.
Triggers are everywhere, but only if you think so.
Porn is cheating, porn is NOT cheating.
It's good to tell your partner the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, however, they don't need to know every last detail. This isn't the Nuremberg trials. Or is it?
Don't masturbate, masturbation is okay
Recovery is not JUST about your dick, but yes it is!
Yes, you are more than your day count, but your day count does say something.
A relapse does not set you back to square one, but it DOES set you back. "Yes doctor, I ate an entire fucking wedding cake by myself, but my diet goals are still on target" WTF?
Counting your days is prideful, not counting your days could also be prideful.
Recovery should only be for yourself, but, we must do it for our relationships as well.
Tell your partner you're sorry and own up to your shit. Period. However, your shit should never let them become the "moral judge" for the remainder of the relationship.
Actions, not words, is what is needed now in the relationship, but, partners love affirming words too.
Set boundaries for yourself, but don't live under a rock for fucks sake!
Your relapse was NOT a failure, but it was, if you did not learn anything from it.
Recovery is about quitting porn, No, recovery is about starting your life.
Recovery is ALL about finding balance, peace and harmony with the universe, fuck no, you must extricate this shit from your life right now before it kills you!
Love yourself first, and let us all hold hands in brotherly love and sing kumbaya together, no you worthless porn-induced maggots, this is your last warning, you're dying a little everyday so wake the fuck up!
If you read this far God bless you, truly I mean that. However, don't you have anything else better to do with your life?
I love you all.
Please find your balance and harmony, and yes ex-wankers, please wake the fuck up, for the clock is ticking...
Best
Blondie
Reducing the number of times I slip up (per week or month) is positive progress, but every slip up takes me right back to square one.
I feel absolutely disgusting for what I just did, uh oh, time to shower myself with love and acceptance!
I'm doing this to save my relationship, and if were 100% honest about how bad my problem has gotten, my relationship might be over
Winnerwhoabstains
Active Member
Way to go Blondie! Merry christmas and inspiring to see your continued progress
Blondie
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Thank you King @Ezel! Bless you brother. I'm glad it helped.
Thank you @jonazo91, those are some good ones. I really appreciate it. Best to you.
Thank you @Winnerwhoabstains. Merry Christmas to you and happy New Year! Keep killing it.
Thank you @jonazo91, those are some good ones. I really appreciate it. Best to you.
Thank you @Winnerwhoabstains. Merry Christmas to you and happy New Year! Keep killing it.
Blondie
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Day 460
Thanks @GBS.
Sometimes I need drill-like sergeant getting me out of my complacency, and sometimes I need a Jesus-like figure to tell me I'm loved and accepted, and sometimes I need both in the same day!!
You all have a great porn-free New Year!
Thanks @GBS.
Yes this is the truth. I definitely was more hardline about certain things when starting this journey, but as time goes on, I often find myself living within those paradoxes on a day to day basis and I'm learning that's okay.
Sometimes I need drill-like sergeant getting me out of my complacency, and sometimes I need a Jesus-like figure to tell me I'm loved and accepted, and sometimes I need both in the same day!!
You all have a great porn-free New Year!
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Ezel
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That's what I'm talking about, that's why he's the mvp (most valuable member), that's why he's the goat, the goooooat
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TryingHarder
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Love yourself first, and let us all hold hands in brotherly love and sing kumbaya together, no you worthless porn-induced maggots, this is your last warning, you're dying a little everyday so wake the fuck up!
I know it's important to not be too harsh with yourself, but I also firmly believe you can't be too soft with yourself either. My sense of humour sees me having an inner voice much like the latter part of that sentence.
"I don't think so fatso, keep walking!" (in the grocery store walking past the potato chip aisle)
"No, you loser, you are not going to have a sexual fantasy about that porn sub model you were looking at yesterday."
"Why the fuck do you want to remember your favourite porn girls? They're not real, they were never real, you zero."
Sarcasm helps.
I know it's important to not be too harsh with yourself, but I also firmly believe you can't be too soft with yourself either. My sense of humour sees me having an inner voice much like the latter part of that sentence.
"I don't think so fatso, keep walking!" (in the grocery store walking past the potato chip aisle)
"No, you loser, you are not going to have a sexual fantasy about that porn sub model you were looking at yesterday."
"Why the fuck do you want to remember your favourite porn girls? They're not real, they were never real, you zero."
Sarcasm helps.
Blondie
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Day 462
Thanks @Ezel. I'm definitely no more valuable than anyone else here, but I do what I can do. Just look in the mirror, you're pretty damn valuable yourself!
Best brother.
Thanks @TryingHarder. I definitely agree. Self-deprecation is a great way to get yourself through a bad day, however, loving yourself is the magic bullet in all of this.
That inner dialogue is funny as hell and I'm all too familiar with it! Happy new year brother.
Thanks @swimmer97, happy new year to you, and may you have a great porn-free year.
Many people here have been posting their real pictures of themselves, so I thought I do it too. Here's a younger version of myself, I know, pretty handsome, however, @GBS has me beat by far.
Thanks @Ezel. I'm definitely no more valuable than anyone else here, but I do what I can do. Just look in the mirror, you're pretty damn valuable yourself!
Best brother.
Thanks @TryingHarder. I definitely agree. Self-deprecation is a great way to get yourself through a bad day, however, loving yourself is the magic bullet in all of this.
That inner dialogue is funny as hell and I'm all too familiar with it! Happy new year brother.
Thanks @swimmer97, happy new year to you, and may you have a great porn-free year.
Many people here have been posting their real pictures of themselves, so I thought I do it too. Here's a younger version of myself, I know, pretty handsome, however, @GBS has me beat by far.