Porn is not an option

[Blondie]

Day 484

All I can think about recently is getting past my longest streak. But I need to remind myself that this battle is not out in some distant future, but it happens day by day.

You all have a great porn-free Tuesday!

 

[Daybyday1988]

Thats right bro, it isnt about streaks. Instead this is a permanent lifestyle

 

[GBS]

@Blondie boy, I love your post. Love it. Hope for everyone. I totally relate to the BJ thing and how, in the past, the sensations were greatest. Maybe, just maybe, I will get to have good sex again some day.

Keep inspiring.

A question- last time you did a near 500 day streak and fell off the wagon, did you also go through these physical changes?

 

[Blondie]

Truth, thank you @Daybyday1988.

@GBS:

Hope for everyone. I totally relate to the BJ thing and how, in the past, the sensations were greatest.

You definitely will get there, and I can attest that you have totally forgotten what it feels like to have a functional, working, sensing dick again. I still believe I have more healing to go, and I'm very much looking forward to it. It's so fucked up, we do this stuff for "pleasure", but ironically, it takes it all away from us.

A question- last time you did a near 500 day streak and fell off the wagon, did you also go through these physical changes?

I would say yes, though I do think I'm a little further along this time around. Two things have helped me go further this time.

1. I have taken this even more seriously than I did before, cutting out all types of porn subs etc. This time around, when watching movies with my girl, I obviously skip the sex scenes, but I also don't even check out the ladies clothed and keep my eyes on their pretty faces and nothing more (obviously this is NOT 100% perfect). Is this over kill? Probably. Will I ever go back to some middle ground? Possibly. However, I do know that movie watching with my Lady the first time around was kind of a substitute for the real thing and this time around, I really wanted to give my brain a break from all digital sources of "pleasure". I've alreadly cut back on this to some extent, but in general, I'm still staying pretty strict with it.

For example, we watched a cheesy shark movie last night (We love those!) and this movie had four attractive women in bathing suits and tight surfing gear. Did I notice their bodies? Of course I did, I am red-blooded male, however, I didn't use the "opportunity" to get some light porn into my brain, and just focused on their faces in general and nothing more. Maybe that's too much, but it's working, so I really can't complain. Besides, what is really more important, checking out some girls you'll never get a chance to be with, or staying the course and staying the hell away from porn. I know my answer. If I've learned anything this time around it's this. I didn't "Miss" anything last night from not checking out their bodies.

2. I've definitely gotten off less than I did the first time around, and I know this has helped me heal too. I know I've done at least twice a full month of abstaining from orgasm and that was great and very helpful. The first time around I was just getting off all the time (she was trying to help me lol) and that definitely slowed down my recovery. Maybe I should ball up and do that again, but I'm lazy.

I can't wait to get past day 517 and see what else is in store for me, both mentally and physically.

Best to you sir. Thanks for inspiring.

 

[GBS]

Thanks. Helpful research. It seems obvious, doesn’t it, that although you’re high 400’s in recovery, there are still physical improvements to come? I mean, we harmed our brains and our dicks for many years, and expecting back to normal in roughly a year and a half seems too good to be true. I think it’s so rewarding to hear what’s going to happen in the future. Keeps us on the straight and narrow. You, my good man, are the straightest and narrowest.

 

[Blondie]

Yes, I keep telling myself just to enjoy every step of the way, because I still think I have a ways to go. And you're right, is it really reasonable to think I can be completely healed from this in just 500 days when I've been doing this off and on since I was thirteen? I think not. Although true I never got into any extreme genres (thank god!), the fact remains, I've been doing this nonsense for 27 years. That's a lot of damage I've done to my brain. I think two years will see me mostly healed, but who knows, maybe three to be completely out of the zone.

You, my good man, are the straightest and narrowest.

Thanks. However, when you've been down all the other roads and valleys, there really only one option left!

Best to you @GBS. You get those banners ready for our celebration.

 

[Ezel]

Bless you Blondie boy, keep doing your thing champion , you got this.

 

[Blondie]

Day 485

Thank you @Ezel. Keep killing it my boat burning brother!

So after thinking about this yesterday, I've decided to up my game a little until my big day of 517. Since I mentioned that having no Os really helped me out in my recovery, I will be refraining from orgasm for the next 32 days. This is always hard for me, but I will give it my best. I know this is a big part of recovery and it's something I haven't partaken in as much as others, so I'm excited to see what other results are in store for me. We had sex last night and it truly is the ultimate form of self control known to man. It's like you can start off with the resolve of the greatest bad-ass of all time, then after two minutes of sex, all resolve goes out the window and you're thinking "Maybe I can start this tomorrow!" Also, I will skip all alcohol as well and absolutely no cheating on my diet goals, thus, I will eat really lean for the next 32 days.

I was watching some of Trish Leigh's videos yesterday (which I would highly recommend) and she mentions how porn takes the driver's seat of our brain if we allow it, so as it feels like we almost have no control on our actions. I really liked this analogy and I remember many times feeling like I had zero control of my actions in the heat of the moment. Of course, this doesn't stop us from not taking responsibility for our actions, but it does show the power porn can have and how it really can take the driver's seat if we allow it to. I immediately thought of this scene from T2 and thought I'd make a meme.

You all have a great porn-free Wednesday!

 

[swimmer97]

Day 485

So after thinking about this yesterday, I've decided to up my game a little until my big day of 517. Since I mentioned that having no Os really helped me out in my recovery, I will be refraining from orgasm for the next 32 days. This is always hard for me, but I will give it my best. I know this is a big part of recovery and it's something I haven't partaken in as much as others, so I'm excited to see what other results are in store for me. We had sex last night and it truly is the ultimate form of self control known to man. It's like you can start off with the resolve of the greatest bad-ass of all time, then after two minutes of sex, all resolve goes out the window and you're thinking "Maybe I can start this tomorrow!" Also, I will skip all alcohol as well and absolutely no cheating on my diet goals, thus, I will eat really lean for the next 32 days.

Blondie is going full "Monk Mode".

I love it.

 

[First_step_thousand_miles]

Day 485

Thank you @Ezel. Keep killing it my boat burning brother!

So after thinking about this yesterday, I've decided to up my game a little until my big day of 517. Since I mentioned that having no Os really helped me out in my recovery, I will be refraining from orgasm for the next 32 days. This is always hard for me, but I will give it my best. I know this is a big part of recovery and it's something I haven't partaken in as much as others, so I'm excited to see what other results are in store for me. We had sex last night and it truly is the ultimate form of self control known to man. It's like you can start off with the resolve of the greatest bad-ass of all time, then after two minutes of sex, all resolve goes out the window and you're thinking "Maybe I can start this tomorrow!" Also, I will skip all alcohol as well and absolutely no cheating on my diet goals, thus, I will eat really lean for the next 32 days.

I was watching some of Trish Leigh's videos yesterday (which I would highly recommend) and she mentions how porn takes the driver's seat of our brain if we allow it, so as it feels like we almost have no control on our actions. I really liked this analogy and I remember many times feeling like I had zero control of my actions in the heat of the moment. Of course, this doesn't stop us from not taking responsibility for our actions, but it does show the power porn can have and how it really can take the driver's seat if we allow it to. I immediately thought of this scene from T2 and thought I'd make a meme.

You all have a great porn-free Wednesday!

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Love it man! Just remember if you feel things going the wrong way, an MO / sex is waaaay better than relapsing. If you think thought that it'll make the 517 day milestone even more special and you can do it, then hell yeah get after it!

The sickness that is porn is losing it's hold over you, no last ditch effort from that crap can hold a beast like you back. I'm psyched to see you get to 500, maybe that's a nice mini milestone before getting to your more meaningful 517 days. After that bud -- it's gravy!

 

[GBS]

@Blondie - now you’re talking my language. Hard core monk mode means no sex with girl as well? So you have to do a full month. Go for it. I am so impressed. You know this is my speciality. And it’s so good for your brain. Keep a record, maybe on here, of what your emotional state is like.

And good luck. For good measure I am on about two weeks I think without MO, and I will go hard core until I am at 365 days….so another 35 days. Looking up cake recipes.

 

[Blondie]

Day 486

Day 4 of no O

Thanks @swimmer97. Keep killing it yourself brother!

Thanks @First_step_thousand_miles. Yes, I will be cautions in this and keep that O with sex option open in mind if need be. I'm hoping this will pull me a little further along the path of recovery. It's always done wonders before! One day at time. Love you bud.

Thank you sir @GBS. So I'm planning on having sex just not going to orgasm. I guess they call that Naughty Monk Mode? I can't wait for what's going to happen, it has always been enjoyable to refrain and see what benefits come my way. I will definitely journal my thoughts as I go along.

Nice job on your two weeks. Let's do this together, and go all the way to our glorious celebration days. I'll start baking the cake .

Best to you sir.

 

[SmokenMirrors]

All hail king Blondie! Great stuff brother

 

[Winnerwhoabstains]

Truth, thank you @Daybyday1988.

@GBS:

You definitely will get there, and I can attest that you have totally forgotten what it feels like to have a functional, working, sensing dick again. I still believe I have more healing to go, and I'm very much looking forward to it. It's so fucked up, we do this stuff for "pleasure", but ironically, it takes it all away from us.


I would say yes, though I do think I'm a little further along this time around. Two things have helped me go further this time.

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Way to go! I have found this to be very true as well. The level of the reboot makes a big difference. The quality. I noticed when I'd not fantasize about sex at all, when I actually had it, it was incredible. Not to mention that increased level of focus.

Haven't been quite at that level lately - so good to hear you talk about it. Because it reminds me of those times of that incredible level of mental clarity and calm attraction I could feel

 

[Nico]

Naughty monk mode...love it

 

[Blondie]

Day 487

Day 5 of no O

@SmokenMirrors, there's room enough in Sparta for both of us king . Keep killing it.

Hey @Winnerwhoabstains, thanks brother. I definitely concur, while no porn is a gigantic part of our recovery, what goes on behind the veil (our minds) is equally as important. It's just all apart of us trying to pull back all those layers of bullshit that we've acquired over the years and get back to our true natural selves again. I pulled out a picture of myself recently when I was a young kid before all the nonsense, the young Blondie before porn, I want to be that kid again. The innocence in my eyes, the constant wonder at the world. I will get there, as we all will!

Keep killing it man.

Yesterday I could feel the virility starting to pour into my veins again, nothing crazy mind you, but it's there nonetheless. I've been getting off twice a week on average during sex forever it seems, so it won't take me long to start feeling the difference. Yesterday I was a little more aggressive, a little more sexual with my Lady, and little more goal oriented in general, all signs of a healthy masculinity. Even though I know all of this because I've been down this road before, it always amazes me how easy I forget it. Just think if all men in the West did what we're doing here at RN. Just think about what would happen.

The Romans to appease the mob, gave out bread and circuses to the people, so as to keep them fat and satiated with vacuous entertainment, while their world feel to pieces around them. Porn is the new bread and circuses. Just like cheap bread, it is full of high sugar with no sustenance, and like a gladiator in the arena, it will kill you with every click you take. Ironically, I just Googled virility, and this is the picture that first shows up.

Some censor hasn't done their job properly!

Awe yes, my favorite hero as a child, Maximus Decimus Meridius, the great Roman general in the film Gladiator. Honorable, warrior, manly, faithful, goal oriented, lover of his family, avenger of his family's death, and in every way, not a Roman wanker. What would happen if all men of the world stopped being entertained by the modern bread and circuses? It's an interesting thought indeed, because it's clear to see what porn has done to the masculine spirit. In two words, utter devastation. In place of honor and loyalty, lies and deceits, in place of virility and strength, obsession with the feminine (in the bad sense of the term), and wiling to do whatever it takes for the next hit. And in place of the manly virtue of fighting and protecting your family or mission in life, self degeneracy and utter selfishness.

Bread and circuses! Bread and circuses! That's what the people want, says the modern day emperors. I'm beginning to wonder, is that what WE really want, or is that what THEY want? Docile men, the remedy for every tyrant in history. Just because this new "entertainment" is free, doesn't mean it's free from the same death that washed that famous arena with blood two thousand years ago. @First_step_thousand_miles asked me a few days ago, what are my goals for this year. A great question indeed from a great man. I've been thinking about this question the last two days, and all I can say is. "Fuck porn!" I'm serious, I'm not being theatrical here, that is still my one great goal and asperation for this year. Yes I want to do good in school. Yes I want to be healthy. Yes I want to be a good partner. But beyond all of that, never looking at porn again is at the top of my list. I fucking hate it with a passion that knows no bounds. So Firststep, that's my answer for you king .

In the film, before Maximus has his first fight in the arena, Proximo, the gladiator trainer (my second favorite character) says this to the men, who almost all are about to face a terrible death.

Not only is this possibly the greatest line in movie history, it also incapsulates our war in the modern arena with porn. Like slaves sold into Gladiator schools to fight to the death, we too have been robbed of our freedom and independence. Though all of us might not be completely innocent, we are not guilty either. So now the choice remains, how will we fight to the death? Because eventually death will stare at us all, but it's how we face that death, is how we will be remembered as men. Will we go into the arena slashing our way through every brandishing of temptation, or will we go in as docile as a sheep set out for the slaughter? The choice is ours, the choice has always been ours.

Today marks a month away from my longest streak ever, I need not say anymore about that.

I will see you all in the arena.

 

[swimmer97]

Day 487

Day 5 of no O

@SmokenMirrors, there's room enough in Sparta for both of us king . Keep killing it.

Hey @Winnerwhoabstains, thanks brother. I definitely concur, while no porn is a gigantic part of our recovery, what goes on behind the veil (our minds) is equally as important. It's just all apart of us trying to pull back all those layers of bullshit that we've acquired over the years and get back to our true natural selves again. I pulled out a picture of myself recently when I was a young kid before all the nonsense, the young Blondie before porn, I want to be that kid again. The innocence in my eyes, the constant wonder at the world. I will get there, as we all will!

Keep killing it man.

Yesterday I could feel the virility starting to pour into my veins again, nothing crazy mind you, but it's there nonetheless. I've been getting off twice a week on average during sex forever it seems, so it won't take me long to start feeling the difference. Yesterday I was a little more aggressive, a little more sexual with my Lady, and little more goal oriented in general, all signs of a healthy masculinity. Even though I know all of this because I've been down this road before, it always amazes me how easy I forget it. Just think if all men in the West did what we're doing here at RN. Just think about what would happen.

The Romans to appease the mob, gave out bread and circuses to the people, so as to keep them fat and satiated with vacuous entertainment, while their world feel to pieces around them. Porn is the new bread and circuses. Just like cheap bread, it is full of high sugar with no sustenance, and like a gladiator in the arena, it will kill you with every click you take. Ironically, I just Googled virility, and this is the picture that first shows up.
View attachment 998
Some censor hasn't done their job properly!

Awe yes, my favorite hero as a child, Maximus Decimus Meridius, the great Roman general in the film Gladiator. Honorable, warrior, manly, faithful, goal oriented, lover of his family, avenger of his family's death, and in every way, not a Roman wanker. What would happen if all men of the world stopped being entertained by the modern bread and circuses? It's an interesting thought indeed, because it's clear to see what porn has done to the masculine spirit. In two words, utter devastation. In place of honor and loyalty, lies and deceits, in place of virility and strength, obsession with the feminine (in the bad sense of the term), and wiling to do whatever it takes for the next hit. And in place of the manly virtue of fighting and protecting your family or mission in life, self degeneracy and utter selfishness.

Bread and circuses! Bread and circuses! That's what the people want, says the modern day emperors. I'm beginning to wonder, is that what WE really want, or is that what THEY want? Docile men, the remedy for every tyrant in history. Just because this new "entertainment" is free, doesn't mean it's free from the same death that washed that famous arena with blood two thousand years ago. @First_step_thousand_miles asked me a few days ago, what are my goals for this year. A great question indeed from a great man. I've been thinking about this question the last two days, and all I can say is. "Fuck porn!" I'm serious, I'm not being theatrical here, that is still my one great goal and asperation for this year. Yes I want to do good in school. Yes I want to be healthy. Yes I want to be a good partner. But beyond all of that, never looking at porn again is at the top of my list. I fucking hate it with a passion that knows no bounds. So Firststep, that's my answer for you king .

In the film, before Maximus has his first fight in the arena, Proximo, the gladiator trainer (my second favorite character) says this to the men, who almost all are about to face a terrible death.
View attachment 999
Not only is this possibly the greatest line in movie history, it also incapsulates our war in the modern arena with porn. Like slaves sold into Gladiator schools to fight to the death, we too have been robbed of our freedom and independence. Though all of us might not be completely innocent, we are not guilty either. So now the choice remains, how will we fight to the death? Because eventually death will stare at us all, but it's how we face that death, is how we will be remembered as men. Will we go into the arena slashing our way through every brandishing of temptation, or will we go in as docile as a sheep set out for the slaughter? The choice is ours, the choice has always been ours.

Today marks a month away from my longest streak ever, I need not say anymore about that.

I will see you all in the arena.

Great Post. I loved that movie and character as well. The best scene: when he turns around and puts of his mask off in the arena revealing his true self. Chills.

Regarding Porn being a slow death to us men. Fully agree. Fuck this pest. It took many what could have been great nights with women from me but no more. We will all get our true mojo back. Lets get it done together

 

[First_step_thousand_miles]

Day 487

Day 5 of no O

@SmokenMirrors, there's room enough in Sparta for both of us king . Keep killing it.

Hey @Winnerwhoabstains, thanks brother. I definitely concur, while no porn is a gigantic part of our recovery, what goes on behind the veil (our minds) is equally as important. It's just all apart of us trying to pull back all those layers of bullshit that we've acquired over the years and get back to our true natural selves again. I pulled out a picture of myself recently when I was a young kid before all the nonsense, the young Blondie before porn, I want to be that kid again. The innocence in my eyes, the constant wonder at the world. I will get there, as we all will!

Keep killing it man.

Yesterday I could feel the virility starting to pour into my veins again, nothing crazy mind you, but it's there nonetheless. I've been getting off twice a week on average during sex forever it seems, so it won't take me long to start feeling the difference. Yesterday I was a little more aggressive, a little more sexual with my Lady, and little more goal oriented in general, all signs of a healthy masculinity. Even though I know all of this because I've been down this road before, it always amazes me how easy I forget it. Just think if all men in the West did what we're doing here at RN. Just think about what would happen.

The Romans to appease the mob, gave out bread and circuses to the people, so as to keep them fat and satiated with vacuous entertainment, while their world feel to pieces around them. Porn is the new bread and circuses. Just like cheap bread, it is full of high sugar with no sustenance, and like a gladiator in the arena, it will kill you with every click you take. Ironically, I just Googled virility, and this is the picture that first shows up.
View attachment 998
Some censor hasn't done their job properly!

Awe yes, my favorite hero as a child, Maximus Decimus Meridius, the great Roman general in the film Gladiator. Honorable, warrior, manly, faithful, goal oriented, lover of his family, avenger of his family's death, and in every way, not a Roman wanker. What would happen if all men of the world stopped being entertained by the modern bread and circuses? It's an interesting thought indeed, because it's clear to see what porn has done to the masculine spirit. In two words, utter devastation. In place of honor and loyalty, lies and deceits, in place of virility and strength, obsession with the feminine (in the bad sense of the term), and wiling to do whatever it takes for the next hit. And in place of the manly virtue of fighting and protecting your family or mission in life, self degeneracy and utter selfishness.

Bread and circuses! Bread and circuses! That's what the people want, says the modern day emperors. I'm beginning to wonder, is that what WE really want, or is that what THEY want? Docile men, the remedy for every tyrant in history. Just because this new "entertainment" is free, doesn't mean it's free from the same death that washed that famous arena with blood two thousand years ago. @First_step_thousand_miles asked me a few days ago, what are my goals for this year. A great question indeed from a great man. I've been thinking about this question the last two days, and all I can say is. "Fuck porn!" I'm serious, I'm not being theatrical here, that is still my one great goal and asperation for this year. Yes I want to do good in school. Yes I want to be healthy. Yes I want to be a good partner. But beyond all of that, never looking at porn again is at the top of my list. I fucking hate it with a passion that knows no bounds. So Firststep, that's my answer for you king .

In the film, before Maximus has his first fight in the arena, Proximo, the gladiator trainer (my second favorite character) says this to the men, who almost all are about to face a terrible death.
View attachment 999
Not only is this possibly the greatest line in movie history, it also incapsulates our war in the modern arena with porn. Like slaves sold into Gladiator schools to fight to the death, we too have been robbed of our freedom and independence. Though all of us might not be completely innocent, we are not guilty either. So now the choice remains, how will we fight to the death? Because eventually death will stare at us all, but it's how we face that death, is how we will be remembered as men. Will we go into the arena slashing our way through every brandishing of temptation, or will we go in as docile as a sheep set out for the slaughter? The choice is ours, the choice has always been ours.

Today marks a month away from my longest streak ever, I need not say anymore about that.

I will see you all in the arena.

My man, you are too kind! Hey that's an awesome goal, ultimately porn is one of those central issues that can subtly and not so subtly screw up a lot of things in our lives. So staying porn-free should naturally be at the top of the list. Definitely good to see though that you're pairing that with being a good partner, doing well at school, etc. There's been times in my life where I feel I can only handle 1 goal at a time, and other times where I feel I can tackle a bunch (guess we'll see how that turns out this year!). No right answer here, all comes down to the person at that particular point in their life. Very proud to see you crush it, sounds incredibly primal when you talk about true virility. Can't say I've gotten to that level but you inspire me and many others into joining you there. Much love my man!

 

[Blondie]

Day 488

Day 6 of no O

Thanks @swimmer97. Yes it's a great movie. Yes that is one of the better scenes, and yes, fuck this pest!

Love you brother.

@First_step_thousand_miles: Yes, the further I get along, I see how things are changing, both mentally and physically, with these changes affecting every part and aspect of my life, thus, all of my other goals. Therefore, quitting porn as my greatest goal this year, is really putting my whole life first, if that makes sense.

Very proud to see you crush it, sounds incredibly primal when you talk about true virility. Can't say I've gotten to that level but you inspire me and many others into joining you there. Much love my man!

I can definitely attest that this time around I'm feeling it considerable more at six days than I did last time, which was at the beginning of summer 2022. Thus, even though I've been having orgasms throughout this entire time period, I'm still recovering, although probably slower than what it might have been.

Love ya!

 

[Blondie]

Day 489

Day 7 of no O

Well I had the best sex I've ever had last night. It was simply amazing, and that is not hyperbole.

We went for an hour, both tantric style and normal (though I can't do that for long ) and my man worked like a machine. Furthermore, after she dozed off to sleep, I was left sitting there with my dick still ready and UP for more. And since I didn't orgasm, I was riding a literal high without the lethargy of a post orgasm state. All I could think about in those moments before dozing off was what Gabe and Noah always say, why would we go back to porn, when there is literally nothing positive in it? There are no negatives, only positives on this side of the fence.

You all have a great porn-free Sunday.