Day 223
The day we understand to the bottom of our core that porn isn't some greet leviathan from the deep that is too strong for us to conquer, is the day we start to win.
Our problems are only as big as we me make them out to be.
No one gets to Everest by just wanting to get to the top. Getting to the top takes years in the making. First you have to train your body for the task at hand, then you have to have the money to even get to base camp, and of course, then you have to climb the mountain step by step to the summit. None of these steps just happen by accident, it all follows from that initial decision.
Decision, what a beautiful word. A beautiful word full of action. When you make a decision, it's like pushing off the first domino in a line of following chain reactions. Actions continuously flow from it, and it can't be any other way but forward.
Wishing to get to Everest will never get you there. Wishing to get to Everest, won't get you out of bed at 4 am in the morning to train your ass off. Wishing to get to Everest, but never changing your life and schedule and suffering a little, will never get you to the top to see that amazing life changing view.
Wishing is simply for losers. Sure, a climber might lose his financing and have to start over again, or he might have a training injury and be out for a few weeks. However, if he has made that initial decision, then none of these short term lapses matter, and the end goal only remains in sight.
If you knew someone who always talked about wanting to climb Everest but never made the changes and sacrifices to get there, what would you honestly think of that person? I would think him a silly fool with no courage or self discipline. And the reason I can say this harsh sentiment is because I know a man like that extremely well, for he is me.
Once upon a time I was that foolish man when it came to my porn habit. I always wanted to get to the glorious summit of Mount Porn-Free, but I never made the actual decision to quit, and in the end, I was just fantasizing about not fantasizing.
Wishing and dreaming can be done on your couch, but a real decision followed by action, is done in the real world.
And If I happen to fall off the trail again on my way to that beautiful summit, I know I will be loved and encouraged here at RN, and for that I am extremely grateful. However, If I start falling again and again (like the days of old), and start making excuses and start treating Mount Everest like it's Olympus Mons on Mars, then I would hope someone would kindly yet firmly remined me and say "Blondie, what the hell are you doing son? You alreadly know the way to Mount Porn-Free, and you don't get there by wishing and making it bigger than it actually is. Now get up son, the glorious summit lies there just beyond the next ridge! One step at a time, that's all that matters now. Action, action, action!"
Let us all make the decision today to climb to the tops of Mount Porn-Free, and follow the necessary steps to get to that sublime peak.
Couches are for dreamers, the summit is for believers.
With love
Blondie
"Tough love often enough will save a man, if only his friend would have the courage to say it"