SmokenMirrors
Well-Known Member
You're an inspiration, king
Thank you for this.Thanks @Ezel, @Shreezy, @SmokenMirrors, @WestCoast and @downhillfromhere, you guys are great. I'm glad I could help a little.
Day 278
Well today is a big day for me. I've been working on a goal and project of mine for many years and today it's finally coming into fruition. They say hard work pays off and I can definitely attest to this fact. I'm so happy and proud of myself for putting in the effort these last four or five years and seeing what can happen when you put your shit behind you (mostly) and get on with life and your goals. And if you're wondering what I'm talking about, yes, the shit I'm talking about is porn.
At the end of this year I'll be turning 40 which is crazy to believe! But I want to let you all know that it's never too late to start or quit this shit and move on with your life. I see a lot of people worrying and anxious that it's too late because they're 30, 35 or even late 20s, but it's simply not true, it's never too late to start. I was a little over 35 when I decided to officially quit porn and today my world is completely different than it was then. Although it hasn't been a perfect run, I've had my relapses here and there, the amount of time and focus I've been able to achieve is only because of that simple decision back in April 18th 2018.
So if you're kicking yourself and feeling blue because you think your life is over at 30 something, I'm living proof that your life CAN be turned around! Thus, don't listen to those stupid thoughts running around in your head or society or whatever. Be yourself, accept it and move on with your life. You got this! And if you're older, then the same applies to you. I would rather die with five years of peace behind me than die a wanker, knowing I gave it all for nothing. It's never too late to make a change and turn your life around!
I'll be missing in action here at RN for the next few weeks, I'll just be too busy to write much or respond. I'll probably still post my days though because that keeps me accountable, but who knows, maybe not. There's a part of me that thinks if I don't post my days, I might screw up, and I think I might want to test that and prove to myself that that isn't so. Needless to say, I won't have time to post on anyone else's wall, but please know that I'm with you all in spirit. I will definitely be back, it's not time for me to leave yet.
I wrote this poem when I first started writing here six months ago. It encapsulates everything I wrote here today. Quitting porn is just the beginning of this journey, because in the end, it's about finding your true self and starting a new life.
Anyone can refrain from porn for 90 days,
all it takes is resolve and a little action.
But to accept life on its own terms for the rest of one's days,
takes everything you have, with no strong reactions.
It requires a new paradigm shift, a new way of thinking,
because real life is no five hour dopamine high in the making!
They say absence makes the heart grow stronger,
but abstinence from porn often makes the brain scream "No longer!"
This is why it's incumbent on us to completely change our lives,
so that we no longer hear porn's knocking, nor realize it even survives.
To quit is a great thing, but to completely change one's life, is even more desirable,
because at the end of the day, we must know, deep in our hearts, that a new life is acquirable.
This is a great community, we all got this!
Best
Blondie
hey Blondie, no rush as I know you're busy but you mentioned your life is totally different from when you initially vowed to quit P. What are the biggest improvements / benefits / positives you've noticed now that you have the perspective from it all?Thanks @Ezel, @Shreezy, @SmokenMirrors, @WestCoast and @downhillfromhere, you guys are great. I'm glad I could help a little.
Day 278
Well today is a big day for me. I've been working on a goal and project of mine for many years and today it's finally coming into fruition. They say hard work pays off and I can definitely attest to this fact. I'm so happy and proud of myself for putting in the effort these last four or five years and seeing what can happen when you put your shit behind you (mostly) and get on with life and your goals. And if you're wondering what I'm talking about, yes, the shit I'm talking about is porn.
At the end of this year I'll be turning 40 which is crazy to believe! But I want to let you all know that it's never too late to start or quit this shit and move on with your life. I see a lot of people worrying and anxious that it's too late because they're 30, 35 or even late 20s, but it's simply not true, it's never too late to start. I was a little over 35 when I decided to officially quit porn and today my world is completely different than it was then. Although it hasn't been a perfect run, I've had my relapses here and there, the amount of time and focus I've been able to achieve is only because of that simple decision back in April 18th 2018.
So if you're kicking yourself and feeling blue because you think your life is over at 30 something, I'm living proof that your life CAN be turned around! Thus, don't listen to those stupid thoughts running around in your head or society or whatever. Be yourself, accept it and move on with your life. You got this! And if you're older, then the same applies to you. I would rather die with five years of peace behind me than die a wanker, knowing I gave it all for nothing. It's never too late to make a change and turn your life around!
I'll be missing in action here at RN for the next few weeks, I'll just be too busy to write much or respond. I'll probably still post my days though because that keeps me accountable, but who knows, maybe not. There's a part of me that thinks if I don't post my days, I might screw up, and I think I might want to test that and prove to myself that that isn't so. Needless to say, I won't have time to post on anyone else's wall, but please know that I'm with you all in spirit. I will definitely be back, it's not time for me to leave yet.
I wrote this poem when I first started writing here six months ago. It encapsulates everything I wrote here today. Quitting porn is just the beginning of this journey, because in the end, it's about finding your true self and starting a new life.
Anyone can refrain from porn for 90 days,
all it takes is resolve and a little action.
But to accept life on its own terms for the rest of one's days,
takes everything you have, with no strong reactions.
It requires a new paradigm shift, a new way of thinking,
because real life is no five hour dopamine high in the making!
They say absence makes the heart grow stronger,
but abstinence from porn often makes the brain scream "No longer!"
This is why it's incumbent on us to completely change our lives,
so that we no longer hear porn's knocking, nor realize it even survives.
To quit is a great thing, but to completely change one's life, is even more desirable,
because at the end of the day, we must know, deep in our hearts, that a new life is acquirable.
This is a great community, we all got this!
Best
Blondie
Today I'm facing my fears.