Blondie
Respected Member
Good comment DownHill.
Yes, these are all good points. I think every couple should have their our own definition of what cheating is, which is why it's so important to have that figured out beforehand so no one gets hurt.
For my partner and I, right from the beginning, we always said any cheating done by us, that is defined as "dick in vagina or even kissing" would officially announce the end of our relationship. Both of us never thought twice about given any cheater a second chance - life's just too short. Porn was okay because she knew I looked at it once in a while and had no problem with it, thus it wasn't a secret, which is the main problem in general. However, camgirls for obviously reasons were never in that discussion, which is why shit hit the fan when I mentioned to her my six cam sessions spread over the course of a year. She had every reason to be hurt and pissed.
At first she thought it was cheating, but after the emotions cooled off, she didn't think so anymore. I didn't think it was cheating, but I definitely thought it was in the "gray zone", which was why I was so afraid to tell her, I knew I went beyond what we had agreed on.
Moral of the story is: get your shit together so you don't have to worry about this stuff in your future, and always have an agreement of what cheating is with your partner, and then most importantly, stick with it!
Yes, these are all good points. I think every couple should have their our own definition of what cheating is, which is why it's so important to have that figured out beforehand so no one gets hurt.
For my partner and I, right from the beginning, we always said any cheating done by us, that is defined as "dick in vagina or even kissing" would officially announce the end of our relationship. Both of us never thought twice about given any cheater a second chance - life's just too short. Porn was okay because she knew I looked at it once in a while and had no problem with it, thus it wasn't a secret, which is the main problem in general. However, camgirls for obviously reasons were never in that discussion, which is why shit hit the fan when I mentioned to her my six cam sessions spread over the course of a year. She had every reason to be hurt and pissed.
At first she thought it was cheating, but after the emotions cooled off, she didn't think so anymore. I didn't think it was cheating, but I definitely thought it was in the "gray zone", which was why I was so afraid to tell her, I knew I went beyond what we had agreed on.
Moral of the story is: get your shit together so you don't have to worry about this stuff in your future, and always have an agreement of what cheating is with your partner, and then most importantly, stick with it!
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