Porn is not an option

Blondie

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Day 597!

Thank you @First_step_thousand_miles for that great comment. I think the gist of it is in general, we have no control of what or where this technology is going or taking us, but we do have control of when and how we use it, and that's key.

Well today I got on the scale and it was sad sight to see. I'm about ten lbs. more than I should be and I'm not happy about that at all. Two or three months ago, I remember telling everyone here I was going to lose pounds and try to get around 15% body fat, well, I did the exact opposite! It seems life's stresses have got to me and I let it take its course. Right now, getting down to 20% would feel absolutely fantastic and I know it's something totally within reason. Over the last two and half years I lost forty-eight pounds, and now I've gained about twenty of that back, though I know for sure some of that is muscle. The reason I feel so bad is that I promised myself I would never allow myself to get over 20% body fat again for health reasons. Three months ago I wanted to get down to 15% for aesthetics reasons, and obviously some health benefits too, however, 20% is utterly healthy for my age and considerably better than most in America unfortunately. Either way, over the last forty-eight hours, after becoming tired of making so many excuses I've finally decided it's time to start kicking ass in this department again and not letting life get me down.

I've been living in denial

However, this brings me to my point for this post. Over the last two months, I've noticed all the same bullshit in my head that I'm so familiar with when it came to my past porn habit. The constant breaking promises to myself, saying I would binge "one more night" or "one more weekend" then I would "stop and get back on track". Naturally, after doing this, I would feel even more shame afterwards over my over-indulgence, not only because I had broken my promise to myself, but also because I was not admitting my problem, thus, falling deeper and deeper right back into it again. Needless to say, I'm fully convinced that a true and healthy confidence comes from within our conscious and rightful actions, and it's nothing we can "bypass" with any particular meditation or positive self-talk. Sure, these things might help, but deep down the conscience knows it's bullshit. True confidence comes from sticking with your values and promises to yourself, no matter the difficultly, and when you continually break these promises, you will lose any semblance of true confidence because the cognitive dissonance is just to much to be otherwise. Nature demands everything to be in balance, how could it be otherwise? Also, nature demands a decision, not just a "good" feeling, but a decision backed up with actions.

Thus, I will get back to a healthy lifestyle again.

I hope you all are well.

Porn and Popcorners are Not an Option ;)
 
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WinkTinkTillium

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Your reflection is powerful @Blondie correlating prior behavior patterns to current concerns is something that many struggle with. Its a behavior practice we all need for continued growth. It is what i find to be my personal necessary step one to be successful in changing the negative behaviors or patterns that lead to the bad behaviors and practices and i thin many of us probably feel the samr way. Whether its Porn, Food, Technology, discipline etc etc insert any trend or pattern we struggle with in this thought process. It is so difficult to balance it all or to find a way to put more energy, more of ourselves out there to drive change/success.

I can understand your disappointment in the weight gain, and a missed goal. Its been a 15 year struggle of my own. However I have a different look at your post above. I am incredibly happy to hear/see you are re-engaging your efforts and discipline at this mark. 10 lbs is better than self realization at plus 30 or 40 or 50. Achieving your 10lbs change goal could be as quick as 5 weeks from now. Controlled eating or a 500 calorie deficit plus walking and exercising at least 4 times a week?

Yeah you are going to kick its butt. You've got this Blondie. Live up to that promise to yourself and own the adventure., the ups and the downs.

Not sure your time zone or climate but where I am on the east coast today its 60 degrees/Sunny and I cannot wait for my 30 minute lunch walk at 1pm!
 

Androg

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If you're snacking between meals, try to delay your snack a half hour (or even 20 minutes). Then longer and longer each subsequent day...and in a short time you'll be able to eat only at mealtimes without much inner conflict.

This also works if you want to move toward intermittent fasting.

Also try stopping eating before you feel "stuffed." Then brush your teeth and wait a half hour before you ask yourself if you're still hungry. If you're honest with yourself, you'll realize that you are no longer hungry...even if a few bothersome cravings are still floating around.
 

First_step_thousand_miles

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Day 597!

Thank you @First_step_thousand_miles for that great comment. I think the gist of it is in general, we have no control of what or where this technology is going or taking us, but we do have control of when and how we use it, and that's key.

Well today I got on the scale and it was sad sight to see. I'm about ten lbs. more than I should be and I'm not happy about that at all. Two or three months ago, I remember telling everyone here I was going to lose pounds and try to get around 15% body fat, well, I did the exact opposite! It seems life's stresses have got to me and I let it take its course. Right now, getting down to 20% would fell absolutely fantastic and I know it's something totally within reason. Over the last two and half years I lost forty-eight pounds, and now I've gained about twenty of that back, though I know for sure some of that is muscle. The reason I feel so bad is that I promised myself I would never allow myself to get over 20% body fat again for health reasons. Three months ago I wanted to get down to 15% for aesthetics reasons, and obviously some health benefits too, however, 20% is utterly healthy for my age and considerably better than most in America unfortunately. Either way, over the last forty-eight hours, after becoming tired of making so many excuses I've finally decided it's time to start kicking ass in this department again and not letting life get me down.

I've been living in denial

However, this brings me to my point for this post. Over the last two months, I've noticed all the same bullshit in my head that I'm so familiar with when it came to my past porn habit. The constant breaking promises to myself, saying I would binge "one more night" or "one more weekend" then I would "stop and get back on track". Naturally, after doing this, I would feel even more shame afterwards over my over-indulgence, not only because I had broken my promise to myself, but also because I was not admitting my problem, thus, falling deeper and deeper right back into it again. Needless to say, I'm fully convinced that a true and healthy confidence comes from within our conscious and rightful actions, and it's nothing we can "bypass" with any particular meditation or positive self-talk. Sure, these things might help, but deep down the conscience knows it's bullshit. True confidence comes from sticking with your values and promises to yourself, no matter the difficultly, and when you continually break these promises, you will lose any semblance of true confidence because the cognitive dissonance is just to much to be otherwise. Nature demands everything to be in balance, how could it be otherwise? Also, nature demands a decision, not just a "good" feeling, but a decision backed up with actions.

Thus, I will get back to a healthy lifestyle again.

I hope you all are well.

Porn and Popcorners are Not an Option ;)
I know the frustration man, when you feel like you are doing two steps forward but one step back....that's just a sign to PUSH HARDER. If you lost 48lb before and crushed your last porn record (permanently this time!), what really is not in your power if you put your mind to it? May you be healthy is all ways my friend, mentally, physically, and spiritually
 

Blondie

Respected Member
Day 598


Thank you all for your encouragement yesterday, it meant tons to me.
I can understand your disappointment in the weight gain, and a missed goal. Its been a 15 year struggle of my own. However I have a different look at your post above. I am incredibly happy to hear/see you are re-engaging your efforts and discipline at this mark. 10 lbs is better than self realization at plus 30 or 40 or 50. Achieving your 10lbs change goal could be as quick as 5 weeks from now. Controlled eating or a 500 calorie deficit plus walking and exercising at least 4 times a week?
Thanks for this @WinkTinkTillium.

Yes, just knowing I've done this before, makes it all the more easy to accomplish, I think I'm too much of a perfectionist sometimes!

Bless you
You must always keep your promises to yourself, else your self respect takes a HUGE dive. Never lie to yourself, because most of the time you're the only person who backs you! Keep fighting, king
Truth.

I've learned this over and over again in life. The more I stray from that path, the more unhappy I become. As they say, no one is coming to rescue you, and those are the best words one can hear.

Keep killing it king!
If you're snacking between meals, try to delay your snack a half hour (or even 20 minutes). Then longer and longer each subsequent day...and in a short time you'll be able to eat only at mealtimes without much inner conflict.
Thanks for this @Androg. This is true. I've been eating a bulking diet for quite a while now, so I snack between meals everyday with protein shakes etc., none of that has changed over the last few months though. Unfortunately, I just added those popcorners in the nighttime, though not ever night! :cool: I'm just going to cold quit this shit, my body can cry if it wants to, and it has! Last night it was telling me I was starving to death right after dinner. It's kinda like porn withdrawals but with extra carbs being the culprit. No big deal, I've been here before, I just needed to decide to do it.

Best
I know the frustration man, when you feel like you are doing two steps forward but one step back....that's just a sign to PUSH HARDER. If you lost 48lb before and crushed your last porn record (permanently this time!), what really is not in your power if you put your mind to it?
Thanks @First_step_thousand_miles!

You're right, what has been done before can be done again.
May you be healthy is all ways my friend, mentally, physically, and spiritually
Same to you my friend!

Thanks all
 

swimmer97

Active Member
Either way, over the last forty-eight hours, after becoming tired of making so many excuses I've finally decided it's time to start kicking ass in this department again and not letting life get me down.
;)

Great that you want to kick ass here mate. What i can highly recommend to you because it works wonders for me and is easy to stick to is:

one good meal at 12:00 lunch (you can eat more or less what ever you want) and one healthy type of meal most optimal no carbs in the evening at around 19:00-20:00.

Thats it, only these 2 meals maybe 1-2 snacks (but preferably no snacks and only in the 8 hour timeframe). You give your body 16hours of rest which is very healthy + you loose tons of weight and after 1 week you get used to it and you are never hungry. If you combine it with workout you keep your muscles and the fat is burning.🤝 (It is important to not take any calories in the 16 hours also no caloric drinks)
keep killing
 

Blondie

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Day 599! I can't wait for tomorrow. :cool:

Hey @swimmer97, thanks for this brother.
one good meal at 12:00 lunch (you can eat more or less what ever you want) and one healthy type of meal most optimal no carbs in the evening at around 19:00-20:00.
I've heard about doing this but never have tried it before, I feel like I would be so hungry and weak that I couldn't do anything during the day. I need to read and look into this, because I have a few questions off the top of my head. Could I eat bigger portions at lunch to make up for what I would have ate during breakfast and my mid-morning protein snack? Is it really more about the timeframe that you eat than how much you eat? I know my method works because I lost 48lbs using it, but I'm willing to try something different at least to shake it up a bit. Also, after I work out I'm so fucking hungry I always have to eat before and afterwards, and I can't imagine going to a workout in the morning without having food before, from previously experience I've been so weak doing that. Perhaps like you said I would get use to it, but it's still hard to imagine even if I got use to it, that it would be quite as productive. I'll look into this, either way feels great to be back on track. :)

Thanks again man, and fuck porn!
 
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WinkTinkTillium

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Day 599! I can't wait for tomorrow. :cool:
LETS GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

For the fitness/bodily health journey count me in! (been back at the gym for 2 weeks now, lifting 4 days a week. 30min walk per day on lunch break, controlled eating using weight watchers since i lost 75lbs on it before, just focusing high protein for muscle gain while losing fat)
 

Blondie

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Day 600! :cool:

LETS GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

For the fitness/bodily health journey count me in! (been back at the gym for 2 weeks now, lifting 4 days a week. 30min walk per day on lunch break, controlled eating using weight watchers since i lost 75lbs on it before, just focusing high protein for muscle gain while losing fat)
I like that we're both on the same page about our health. It feels really good to be back in the game. Keep at it @WinkTinkTillium. Thank you!
Brother, I am a few hours early here but I've gotta get up for a wedding tomorrow and so I may not be able to log in. Congrats on 600 days, fuck yeah!!! So proud and happy for you, and I'm damn well going to see you get to Day 730 and then Day 1000 soon enough!
@First_step_thousand_miles, thank you brother for stopping by and saying thanks, it means so much! We got this.
600 days, man. It’s one hell of a job. The best thing about it is that it basically says you’ve got the hang of it, and the chance that porn will invade your life again is minimal. You’re a total hero.
Thank you sir. It's been fun so far being on this journey with you. Keep inspiring @GBS.
600 days. What a number. What a Champion
Thanks @swimmer97, I really appreciate it. And thanks for the tip yesterday.

You all have a great porn-free weekend.
 

Ezel

Respected Member
Day 600! :cool:


I like that we're both on the same page about our health. It feels really good to be back in the game. Keep at it @WinkTinkTillium. Thank you!

@First_step_thousand_miles, thank you brother for stopping by and saying thanks, it means so much! We got this.

Thank you sir. It's been fun so far being on this journey with you. Keep inspiring @GBS.

Thanks @swimmer97, I really appreciate it. And thanks for the tip yesterday.

You all have a great porn-free weekend.
Blondie you are truly a force of nature partner. You are breaking records left and right. If Gabe deem ever wanted to change the logo of the forum, i suggest to put you as the new logo.

Stay blessed my brother. Keep doing your thing champ 🏆🥇.
 

Blondie

Respected Member
Day 601

Amazing job brother!!! Equally as impressive is the way you continually encourage and help others. Keep it up conqueror!
Thanks @AJ7! Same to you.
Blondie you are truly a force of nature partner. You are breaking records left and right. If Gabe deem ever wanted to change the logo of the forum, i suggest to put you as the new logo.

Stay blessed my brother. Keep doing your thing champ 🏆🥇.
Thanks @Ezel.

Keep killing it yourself.
 

TryingHarder

Well-Known Member
Over the last two months, I've noticed all the same bullshit in my head that I'm so familiar with when it came to my past porn habit.
Yes, me too. I haven't been doing any crazy anxiety eating, but my occasional indulgences have not been occasional. Like you, I want to snap out of this bad behaviour and get back on the right path.
 
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