I am new to this and this is my Day 1

I am ready to document and grow and love the fact that I am using this forum. It feels different. I want to say this is Day 1 and the goal is freedom. I want to at least make it to 7 days and really get on this reboot goal. I am tired of PMO and want to defeat the autopilot or the hijack that comes. I know with God and these tools I can make it. I have a question I am in the music industry and need Social Media to promote content but Social Media is like the perfect occasion for temptation and edging what am I to do?
 

Blondie

Respected Member
You got this man. I would say if you have to use social media for your job then you have to use it. But use it wisely (obviously easier said than done). As far as quitting goes, I read something that helped me tremendously when I got my first year and half streak. I can't remember where it came from. But anyways, just imagine that porn doesn't exist, and that you can't find it anywhere. It doesn't exist on your phone, social media, or the internet. For most of the history of human existence, there has never been such a thing as porn. Porn is completely unnatural in everyway. Our grandparents got along just fine without it, and anyone before them wouldn't even have a clue about it. I know that sounds silly because obviously porn exist now, and it's a fantasy to assume otherwise. But hey, we're porn addicts, thus, fantasy is our bread and butter! So why not use our fantasies for our betterment to overcome our addiction? Just a thought. When it comes down to it, it really is a decision on your part. Are you done with this shit or not? For me, I'm me done, and I will continue to fantasize that I can't find it anywhere! :)
 

nothing

Member
Best of luck on your quest Want2ChangeTruly. I think focusing on one week at a time is a good idea to get started. I might adopt it. I was initially hesitant about it because I've heard that having a specific target in mind might make it likely you'll relapse once you've reached the target and that the goal should be to leave behind PMO completely. However, I think at the beginning of the journey it might be helpful to start with a specific goal. Presumably after a while we will build confidence and be ready to take the big dive.
 

Blondie

Respected Member
On one hand, I think stopping cold turkey and with the goal in mind to never do it again is the best. However, I can see that having a goal for only a week could be okay, as long at it's a way to prove to yourself that you are really capable of not looking at porn for a whole week (which you are completely capable of!). Speaking from experience, I've had a one year and half streak, a six month streak, and now I can easily do 3 months no problem, although I'm sick of that as well. But needless to say those relapses have shown me that life is great and beautiful without porn (in fact, 100x better), and that I'm completely able to live without it. That is great knowledge to have and to know.

Thus, If a week truly does sound impossible to you, then by all means, go for it! But go for it all with all your heart, and don't half ass it. There are literally no excuses to not be able to go even one week without porn. Trust me on this, this shit is not nearly as hard as we make it out to be. One week without porn is nothing in the grand scheme of the universe. Plan out a schedule for this wonderful event, "I will not look at porn till the 14th of January, blah blah blah". And then do what you must to succeed, no excuses. Give your computer and phone to a trusted friend or family member, work 24/7, read 24/7, sleep 24/7. Hell, tie yourself to a mast with a blindfold on and a chastity belt wrapped around your dick for good measure! But whatever you do, do not look at porn.

Then, when the week is over, and the sirens have lost the beckoning power, you will realize that you are (and were) completely capable of not looking at porn. And then you will have the confidence to go forward. I would say good luck, but you really won't need it. All of this is really up to you, not me, or anyone here for that matter.
 

nothing

Member
Gotten through today. Was feeling some chaser effect from the relapse and ended up searching for porn. But didn't end up watching it. I am going to call that a win today. Of course in the future I want to do better.
 
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