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im 35...im in the last few minutes of the game and want to give it my last shot!
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Escapeandnevercomeback
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Try to avoid "playing porn" in your head. It might help. Keep the dopamine to the minimum.
today was tough! im working from home and my mind tricked me and i edged for about 3 minutes but not to porn, just to nothing....my brain tricked me and i stopped myself after a few minutes...... lately i have been feeling this...the need to fap/edge in short spurts!!! this is maybe my brain yerning for the dopamine......but i stop myself before it escalted to any PMO or proper mastubation with finishing.....this time i caught myself after a few minutes and stopped!!!! this is a struggle
Escapeandnevercomeback
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That's true, it's the addicted beast in you trying to obtain dopamine (pleasure). Try to focus on something else, don't focus on it, don't give it attention. I know it is easier said than done but you have to try. Also, if you use to imagine porn try not to engage with it. Keep the dopamine to the minimum and it could help. Even if it might feel like an urgency, it is not, avoiding edging is very possible. Great job in stopping early.today was tough! im working from home and my mind tricked me and i edged for about 3 minutes but not to porn, just to nothing....my brain tricked me and i stopped myself after a few minutes...... lately i have been feeling this...the need to fap/edge in short spurts!!! this is maybe my brain yerning for the dopamine......but i stop myself before it escalted to any PMO or proper mastubation with finishing.....this time i caught myself after a few minutes and stopped!!!! this is a struggle
so tonight i have been asked to go to a woman's house for 5th date. she is going to make us dinner at her house....it has been heating up and we have been sexting, and i know it will be on later on tonight in the bedroom, but i am worried this will ruin my progress, because i have to ask myself can i see this woman walking down the isle, can i see a future with her and i dont want to fall into the trap i have always put myself into which is dating/sleeping with woman that in my own mind i cant see a future with.....i want to do it right and date a woman i want to spend the rest of my life with......but my mind thinks....ooo...'i may get sex tonight'...yes...do it do it do it""...but i dont just want to sleep around and i dont want to lie to myself or her about a future! do i see a future with her? maybe! maybe not! but maybe porn addiciton has also over the years for me morphed into sex addiction....so im conflicted here.....
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Yes. I have similar thoughts about sex with a woman I should really just get to know first. And after sex, it feels cheap and I am not interested in the person anymore. I hate this, and I have no solution yet.so tonight i have been asked to go to a woman's house for 5th date. she is going to make us dinner at her house....it has been heating up and we have been sexting, and i know it will be on later on tonight in the bedroom, but i am worried this will ruin my progress, because i have to ask myself can i see this woman walking down the isle, can i see a future with her and i dont want to fall into the trap i have always put myself into which is dating/sleeping with woman that in my own mind i cant see a future with.....i want to do it right and date a woman i want to spend the rest of my life with......but my mind thinks....ooo...'i may get sex tonight'...yes...do it do it do it""...but i dont just want to sleep around and i dont want to lie to myself or her about a future! do i see a future with her? maybe! maybe not! but maybe porn addiciton has also over the years for me morphed into sex addiction....so im conflicted here.....
im feeling mixed emotions today. i feel a bit flat. i feel a bit of a failure. i feel like how do i get to this situation. how do i regain control of my mental state...how do i reset my mind to healthy levels....how do i change my perceptions....will i be able to do hard mode? will i be able to abstain from PMO? how will i eliminate triggers? how will i deal with past failure memories. how will i deal with my anxieties. i want to won but i need to skills to win!!!
I feel very flat today- very reflective and a little quiet...i feel my mind is levelling off a bit...i have gone about 20 days no porn. the highest i have ever gone before. also i am on a path of hard mode now....i feel that i am most vulnerable in the morning and late at night when i am in my bed....that is when i feel closest to failling----but so far so good i have stopped myself with triggers and got out of bed quickly....so on reflection i am proud. today will be the 3 week milestone and and a very good progression for me personally.....