Intermittent flatline and erectile failure

[BigM]

Well I have been rebooting for the past 3 months, I've had sex countable times. The thing is I'm no longer confident around women, I don't have the confidence to approach a stranger. I know I shouldn't give it a thought, but I'm young (24 yrs) and you understand I am at the exploration stage. I should be able to destroy women that I'm attracted to. For the past three months I was completely programed to hard mode , unfortunately I had a relapse the last week of December in 2021. I jerked to porn. Early this month I have noticed I'm back to this crazy flat line. I no longer feel the urge to watch porn , I'm however worried. Is it PIED or normal ED. I had to M twice to convince my self it's not ED, but PIED. Honestly this is frustrating. By 90 days I should be heading for the mt top, I should be at the peak of my recovery. Any one who underwent what I'm going through and got better please advice.

 

[Stiffy999]

Well I have been rebooting for the past 3 months, I've had sex countable times. The thing is I'm no longer confident around women, I don't have the confidence to approach a stranger. I know I shouldn't give it a thought, but I'm young (24 yrs) and you understand I am at the exploration stage. I should be able to destroy women that I'm attracted to. For the past three months I was completely programed to hard mode , unfortunately I had a relapse the last week of December in 2021. I jerked to porn. Early this month I have noticed I'm back to this crazy flat line. I no longer feel the urge to watch porn , I'm however worried. Is it PIED or normal ED. I had to M twice to convince my self it's not ED, but PIED. Honestly this is frustrating. By 90 days I should be heading for the mt top, I should be at the peak of my recovery. Any one who underwent what I'm going through and got better please advice.

90 days is just a myth friend.It is good goal for the begining of your journey,now you need to stay on track and go for higher goals

 

[Fappy]

you might just need more time. the flatline could be related to the relapse, too. even though it was only once in three months, your brain might not yet be fully recovered and sensitive to any artificial porn-related stimuli. i found that the flatlines come and go regardless of if youve passed the three month point. just keep in mind tht porn has damaged your brain considerably and that 90 days isnt a magical number

 

[rebootingyogi]

The 90 day challenge is a myth.

Reboot looks different for each person based on:
1. Personality and genetic make-up
2. Cultural and religious upbringing
3. Age at which you started using porn
4. Duration and frequency of porn use
5. Additional dependencies/ addictions like alcohol, drugs etc
6. How much knowledge you have gathered about rebooting and how you approach the reboot concept

Regarding the last point, why I say that is it appears you are having a set goal " After X days, I must be able to do so-and-so thing". If that's your outlook, chances of failing are high.

Look at reboot not as a challenge but as a journey, a healing process that you are going to continue lifelong. Learn to think positively, along the lines of " Each day porn-free is a small but important victory in my life" .

 

[Tryinghere]

Well I have been rebooting for the past 3 months, I've had sex countable times. The thing is I'm no longer confident around women, I don't have the confidence to approach a stranger. I know I shouldn't give it a thought, but I'm young (24 yrs) and you understand I am at the exploration stage. I should be able to destroy women that I'm attracted to. For the past three months I was completely programed to hard mode , unfortunately I had a relapse the last week of December in 2021. I jerked to porn. Early this month I have noticed I'm back to this crazy flat line. I no longer feel the urge to watch porn , I'm however worried. Is it PIED or normal ED. I had to M twice to convince my self it's not ED, but PIED. Honestly this is frustrating. By 90 days I should be heading for the mt top, I should be at the peak of my recovery. Any one who underwent what I'm going through and got better please advice.

I get it dude. It’s the worst. I have to agree with the others here. Nothing magical happened at 90 days for me. I was in a deep flatline actually. But it has gotten better since. Few steps forward and a step or two back. Keep your eye on the prize my dude. You’ll get there

 

[BigM]

What really makes it insane , is how I'm able to achieve an erection ( though it takes time for me to be fully aroused ) when I have any sexual fantasy but can't get attracted to a lady. Back in the days I would easily get attracted to a lady, I had the confidence that I would walk in the room with a lady and no fear nor worry of having a limp dick would occur. I understand the process is never going to be linear, but I'm worried and scared that I might never have full recovery and the confidence I had prior PIED.

 

[rebootingyogi]

What really makes it insane , is how I'm able to achieve an erection ( though it takes time for me to be fully aroused ) when I have any sexual fantasy but can't get attracted to a lady. Back in the days I would easily get attracted to a lady, I had the confidence that I would walk in the room with a lady and no fear nor worry of having a limp dick would occur. I understand the process is never going to be linear, but I'm worried and scared that I might never have full recovery and the confidence I had prior PIED.

Dude just stop worrying.
Assuming you have no anatomical deformity of the penis and no diseases (such as diabetes etc) that can affect erections, your entire problem is PIED-"Porn Induced"

That is a very important concept, and the foundation of all reboot: Staying away from porn will lead to rewiring of your brain. You have to keep your faith in the process. you have to believe in the capacity of your brain to transform.

Simple reasoning: If porn caused a mess in my brain, staying away from porn will help me clean up the mess.

The brain is an incredibly flexible entity. It's adaptability is the reason why human beings not only survive, but are able to script success stories and achieve impossible tasks.
So if you got addicted to porn, your brain has the capacity to reverse that addiction too.

Your PIED will disappear one day.But don't focus on that as the central theme of reboot, else you will be disheartened and annoyed, which will easily lead to relapse. Focus on more on building a holistic life porn-free.

I suggest you read up on both PIED and the science of porn addiction on YBOP website. Tons of information as well as personal stories of people with PIED. By reading other's accounts there, you will begin to understand how to recover from not just from PIED but from the totality of porn addiction.

 

[Takeoff]

I'm no longer confident around women, I don't have the confidence to approach a stranger

it happens, during my last 121 day streak there was times when I felt like a superhero and times when I didn't have any interest in talking to anyone but closest friends.

is how I'm able to achieve an erection ( though it takes time for me to be fully aroused ) when I have any sexual fantasy but can't get attracted to a lady

happened to me when I was at the beginning of he streak I mentioned above. I think you worry too much, rather consider the reboot as a part of your lifestyle - not a goal that you have to keep pursuing everyday trying hard. you won't notice the change between one day and another, it comes with time. you didn't get PIED and didn't get addicted within 1 day too.

As Fappy said, 90 days is no magic milestone for PIED and all addiction symptoms to go away.