Pondering on the lack of women here

forestwater

Member
I've noticed that I'm pretty much the only woman posting here on a regular basis. That seems strange to me, given how high the statistics are for porn use in women. Why is this forum mostly men?

My hypotheses:
  • Women aren't expected by society to use porn, so women who have this problem are too ashamed to admit it
  • Women aren't expected by society to use porn, so women who have this problem are considered feminist and sex-positive for having "sexual agency" and thus don't even realize it's a problem
  • This forum is so geared towards men (talk of erectile dysfunction, etc.) that women with this problem feel like this isn't a good space for them
  • Women experiencing PISD (porn-induced sexual dysfunction) are told that it's because female sexuality is just "so complicated" and that they just need to try harder*, thus obscuring the real issue at hand
I'm lucky to have stumbled across this place, and I hope that by spreading more awareness, more women will find this forum and be helped by it. Men aren't the only ones who struggle with porn use, and they shouldn't be the only ones getting help for it, either.

*Can confirm this is a thing that happens. Before I realized my problem was PISD, all the advice I found for how to orgasm with a partner was condescending tripe like "just relax" and "love your body" as if that's gonna work on any but the mildest of cases
 

k-fff

Active Member
I've noticed that I'm pretty much the only woman posting here on a regular basis. That seems strange to me, given how high the statistics are for porn use in women. Why is this forum mostly men?

My hypotheses:
  • Women aren't expected by society to use porn, so women who have this problem are too ashamed to admit it
  • Women aren't expected by society to use porn, so women who have this problem are considered feminist and sex-positive for having "sexual agency" and thus don't even realize it's a problem
  • This forum is so geared towards men (talk of erectile dysfunction, etc.) that women with this problem feel like this isn't a good space for them
  • Women experiencing PISD (porn-induced sexual dysfunction) are told that it's because female sexuality is just "so complicated" and that they just need to try harder*, thus obscuring the real issue at hand
I'm lucky to have stumbled across this place, and I hope that by spreading more awareness, more women will find this forum and be helped by it. Men aren't the only ones who struggle with porn use, and they shouldn't be the only ones getting help for it, either.

*Can confirm this is a thing that happens. Before I realized my problem was PISD, all the advice I found for how to orgasm with a partner was condescending tripe like "just relax" and "love your body" as if that's gonna work on any but the mildest of cases
The forum is geared towards men because it is the main body of people coming forward saying that they have a problem. It is also likely something like PIED makes it obvious that something isn’t working right. You’re right though the amount of info out there for women is really not much and given that amount of women that enjoy things like erotica it’s likely that a lot women have PISD. It’s depressing we live in such a pro-p society that basically shoves this stuff into everything. It’s destroying relationships and people’s ability to enjoy healthy sexual activity.
 
I've noticed that I'm pretty much the only woman posting here on a regular basis. That seems strange to me, given how high the statistics are for porn use in women. Why is this forum mostly men?

My hypotheses:
  • Women aren't expected by society to use porn, so women who have this problem are too ashamed to admit it
  • Women aren't expected by society to use porn, so women who have this problem are considered feminist and sex-positive for having "sexual agency" and thus don't even realize it's a problem
  • This forum is so geared towards men (talk of erectile dysfunction, etc.) that women with this problem feel like this isn't a good space for them
  • Women experiencing PISD (porn-induced sexual dysfunction) are told that it's because female sexuality is just "so complicated" and that they just need to try harder*, thus obscuring the real issue at hand
I'm lucky to have stumbled across this place, and I hope that by spreading more awareness, more women will find this forum and be helped by it. Men aren't the only ones who struggle with porn use, and they shouldn't be the only ones getting help for it, either.

*Can confirm this is a thing that happens. Before I realized my problem was PISD, all the advice I found for how to orgasm with a partner was condescending tripe like "just relax" and "love your body" as if that's gonna work on any but the mildest of cases
I’m a guy but I think you nailed it. Womens sexuality is dismissed as too complicated to solve and its much easier to disguise sexual dysfunction when you’re not the one who needs to be erect to have penetrative sex, even if it requires a lot of lube and ends up being painful as a result. These days it’s more in fashion for women to champion the idea of making an onlyfans and become an amateur porn star than it would be to recognize porn can be damaging
 

Chuckles

Active Member
I'm curious if there's a fear of "woman on the internet surrounded by dudes"
How many guys would become that guy if they, a porn addict, encountered a woman who was also an admitted porn addict?
Just my 2 cents
 
I'm curious if there's a fear of "woman on the internet surrounded by dudes"
How many guys would become that guy if they, a porn addict, encountered a woman who was also an admitted porn addict?
Just my 2 cents
Yeah I agree. I think a lot would take it as an opportunity to meet a women who’s as hypersexualized they are, since they’re probably wanting that in general. When I was younger I was always infatuated with girls who were just as into porn as me and I took it as a sign we were compatible when in actuality we probably were just both addicted. Entire relationships build around sex and fantasy with no deeper connection.
 

tydurden

Member
Thank you for sharing and maybe making this space better for women, there definitely should be more women here! I loved your last hypothesis female sexuality is just "so complicated". :ROFLMAO: Spot on! I have had female partners who had skewed their sexual preferanses heavily towards pornographic material but who did not see it as a problem themselves.
 

joepanic

Well-Known Member
Yeah I agree. I think a lot would take it as an opportunity to meet a women who’s as hypersexualized they are, since they’re probably wanting that in general. When I was younger I was always infatuated with girls who were just as into porn as me and I took it as a sign we were compatible when in actuality we probably were just both addicted. Entire relationships build around sex and fantasy with no deeper connection.
And perhaps vice versa addiction is addiction
 
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