How to rewire to real sexual encounters?

cookiemonster

Active Member
I've made a lot of progress in my reboot. I haven't watched porn in months and my ability to get an erection has improved astronomically to the point where PIED isn't a huge issue. Hooray!

However, I've spent the last decade of my life where all of my sexual gratification has come from masturbation (generally with porn). I genuinely enjoy intimacy so that's not the problem.

What I mean is, a blowjob for example just doesn't feel that good? I'm really into it, but I just can't feel the blowjob that much? I feel like I'm used to much more friction and grip from masturbation?

How can I make it so that a blowjob and the like will be more enjoyable?
 

Stiffy999

Active Member
I've made a lot of progress in my reboot. I haven't watched porn in months and my ability to get an erection has improved astronomically to the point where PIED isn't a huge issue. Hooray!

However, I've spent the last decade of my life where all of my sexual gratification has come from masturbation (generally with porn). I genuinely enjoy intimacy so that's not the problem.

What I mean is, a blowjob for example just doesn't feel that good? I'm really into it, but I just can't feel the blowjob that much? I feel like I'm used to much more friction and grip from masturbation?

How can I make it so that a blowjob and the like will be more enjoyable?
First of all continue with reboot,you are obviously doing a great job.About that bj you mentioned,maybe you could give some instructions to your partner and assist her during bj so that she can get what exactly makes you feel good.In my experience,bj also wasn't as good as I expected,most of the time I would just lose it while it's in mouth,but i was able to do the things I mentioned above and now it feels drastically better,I could even finish from it,so with time it will get better I assure you.
 

cookiemonster

Active Member
First of all continue with reboot,you are obviously doing a great job.About that bj you mentioned,maybe you could give some instructions to your partner and assist her during bj so that she can get what exactly makes you feel good.In my experience,bj also wasn't as good as I expected,most of the time I would just lose it while it's in mouth,but i was able to do the things I mentioned above and now it feels drastically better,I could even finish from it,so with time it will get better I assure you.
I appreciate it stiffy. I don't really know what it is that will make it feel better for me at the time being but I guess you can always explore and find out.

And thanks for sharing, I was a little worried that I'd just be destined to not feeling blowjobs but sounds like I'll get there.
 

Stiffy999

Active Member
I appreciate it stiffy. I don't really know what it is that will make it feel better for me at the time being but I guess you can always explore and find out.

And thanks for sharing, I was a little worried that I'd just be destined to not feeling blowjobs but sounds like I'll get there.
Well,the position and angle of head makes big difference.You will figure out what works for you just be patient and enjoy the moment.
 

Carpaccio

Member
What I mean is, a blowjob for example just doesn't feel that good? I'm really into it, but I just can't feel the blowjob that much? I feel like I'm used to much more friction and grip from masturbation?

How can I make it so that a blowjob and the like will be more enjoyable?

I’ve had the same exact experience. Even thinking she wasn't doing it right.
But pretty sure its in the brain. Dopamine is what gets a BJ epic, so just need time to rewire.
 

cookiemonster

Active Member
I’ve had the same exact experience. Even thinking she wasn't doing it right.
But pretty sure its in the brain. Dopamine is what gets a BJ epic, so just need time to rewire.

I’ve had the same exact experience. Even thinking she wasn't doing it right.
But pretty sure its in the brain. Dopamine is what gets a BJ epic, so just need time to rewire.
Good to know I'm not the only one and yeah I hope time rewiring will just make it better and better
 
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