Finally, I'm doing this…

Alexey

Member
While eradicating the addiction is the best choice, reducing its rate is also good. Counting days is good, especially at the beginning. But just getting to the 100 days at once is very tough, man! It’s obviously not about everyone.

I count every relapse and keep track of how often I did it for the last 30/90 days. So I just urge you not to consider yourself on the very first step again.

Good luck on the ongoing journey, Ezel!

One day is a Time
 

Simon2

Active Member
my brain was like " no wonder you are back to porn, cuz you try so hard to get it out from your mind, if i tell you Don't think about elephants, then what are you thinking about, yeah right freaking elephants 🐘!" and i did for 10 days and back at it again, and after that for 3days and i relapsed again.

I actually agree that this CAN be a problem. You come here and after a while you ARE thinking about porn, because, well that's what this forum is about. Quitting it obviously - but still...

I think one way to go about it would be to have an ironclad rule that you come to the forum WHEN you are about to go look at porn. That moment when your brain says "fuck it". Then come here. Take a break from your animal instinct and see if this community can get you back on track. Then, having that rule in place, you could stay away from the forum and try to not engage with the thoughts of porn at all the rest of the time.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Respected Member
I think one way to go about it would be to have an ironclad rule that you come to the forum WHEN you are about to go look at porn. That moment when your brain says "fuck it". Then come here. Take a break from your animal instinct and see if this community can get you back on track. Then, having that rule in place, you could stay away from the forum and try to not engage with the thoughts of porn at all the rest of the time.
Yes, a short-term tactic is very important when things get difficult. I believe is one of the keys to success. We need to find our short-term tacting to use. For me is what I like to call "dopamine management", actually better said "porn dopamine management". It makes complete sense. If porn releases wild levels of dopamine, trying to keep this as low as possible is the thing to do. Porn thoughts/fantasies management is very important if you try to use this tactic.
 

Alexey

Member
Keep going. My advice is to limit screen time -- no many hours streaks in front of the TV, pad, laptop or alternating them. Find and insert substitutes -- walking, reading, exercising. Yet don't over-stress yourself at the same time.

Also probably it would be useful to write a little bit more at least in early days.
 

Ezel

Well-Known Member
Keep going. My advice is to limit screen time -- no many hours streaks in front of the TV, pad, laptop or alternating them. Find and insert substitutes -- walking, reading, exercising. Yet don't over-stress yourself at the same time.

Also probably it would be useful to write a little bit more at least in early days.
Thanks my man, i will give it a shot. I appreciate your support. Keep doing your thing champ, God bless.
 

Ezel

Well-Known Member
Day 4, no po, no mo, (monk mode).
It won’t hurt to say that you’ve done about 130 days hard mode with one tiny blip. You’re fixing yourself. You are a real man.
Thanks GBS i needed to hear that, i was thinking 🤔 about this 3 months curse where I always relapse, i can only recall once when I reached 4 months of no pmo, telling myself you will never surpass 3,4 months and then back at it. But you are right, every day away from porn is a win in and of itself.
Thanks my man, you are the real deal.
 

GBS

Well-Known Member
Is it not possible just to have the occasional MO and do your best for that to be mindful I.e.. you focus purely on the physical sensation and pleasure you give yourself. I say that knowing I find that very difficult to do but the fantasy I use is the softest one I can and it’s my wife. You aren’t married I know that, but there will surely be a soft image you can imagine. Careful (and ideally mindful) occasional masturbation I think is a really essential part of the long term reboot where porn becomes totally absent.

You inspire me so much, you have no idea. I owe you, pal.
 

Simon2

Active Member
Really, if you use porn once every 3 months and it doesn't get worse than that, you are no longer in the pattern of an addict.

Counting days is great, but can also get misleading. Progress is more than "how many days since". What is our mental state? Do we think of porn a lot? Do we have frequent urges? Do we use it to self-medicate? Are we hiding our use from a partner? Do we fall into a binge whenever we do give in? Etc.

That's the real questions to be accountable for.
 
Last edited:

Escapeandnevercomeback

Respected Member
Really, if you use porn once every 3 months and it doesn't get worse than that, you are no longer in the pattern of an addict.

Counting days is great, but can also get misleading. Progress is more than "how many days since". What is our mental state? Do we think of porn a lot? Do we have frequent urges? So we use it to self-medicate? Are we hiding our use from a partner? Do we fall into a binge whenever we do give in? Etc.

That's the real question to be accountable for.
I agree, man. If you go a longer period of time without porn and don't return back to the same frequency/routine, it's actually great.
 

Ezel

Well-Known Member
How's the journey been going so far @Ezel? Any bad cravings or urges?
I'm in a flatline right now, i really don't feel any urges when it comes to porn or masturbation. I'm at peace with myself. Man, i love flatlines 😂😂. I really wish if it could go on like this forever, that way i won't have to battle the demons sleeping inside my brain when they wake up.
I know guys in here that experience months of flatline, they are dying inside to feel just a bit of a sexual sensation of any sort. I'm not mocking them or anything, I'm just saying in my complicated case, i would prefer if i can't feel anything sexual or have urges about porn. so I can get more shyt done during the day.
But we all know that's not how it works 😂 😉.
Thanks @FreedomFromTheStruggle_11 for passing by, God bless you my friend 🙂.
 
I'm in a flatline right now, i really don't feel any urges when it comes to porn or masturbation. I'm at peace with myself. Man, i love flatlines 😂😂. I really wish if it could go on like this forever, that way i won't have to battle the demons sleeping inside my brain when they wake up.
I know guys in here that experience months of flatline, they are dying inside to feel just a bit of a sexual sensation of any sort. I'm not mocking them or anything, I'm just saying in my complicated case, i would prefer if i can't feel anything sexual or have urges about porn. so I can get more shyt done during the day.
But we all know that's not how it works 😂 😉.
Thanks @FreedomFromTheStruggle_11 for passing by, God bless you my friend 🙂.
Keep going man. You'll get to where you wanna be in time.
 
Top