Thank you guys for checking in. yeah the book is peculiar in and of itself. When the author speaks, there are a lot of I think, people say, some say. with no scientific evidence or a respected study to show for it. I don’t know if he speaks out of intuition or from experience. When he talked about chakra energy nonsense and things like that my mind just went shut and I skipped the whole paragraph.
Other than that a lot of what he said makes some sense to some extent. I’m just halfway through the book so I will see how it turns out in the end.
He’s a religious person for sure, and gives a lot of importance to the married life and that a man and woman have to stop masturbation and channel that energy in a purposeful way to get things done in life and that the two should get married ASAP so they can express their sexuality in a healthy way. You might disagree with me on this, but it’s just my opinion and I can tell that the author sees it from the same angle.
I remember some verses related to this like :
tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do.
The believers have succeeded. Those who are humble in their prayers. . Those who avoid nonsense.. Those who work for charity.. Those who safeguard their chastity.. Except from their spouses, or their dependents—then they are free from blame.. But whoever seeks anything beyond that—these are the transgressors.
I know I sound like a hypocrite, someone who speaks about chastity, modesty, and morality but at the same time jerks off to porn. I think it went down for me when I went astray from the teaching of the book and said to myself you will be fine, and I entered that world full of an unlimited harem and since then I'm trying to find my way back, break the pattern, and set myself free.
My recent failure was yesterday when i played with fire on YouTube and soon after I relapsed. So there you go…
I know what the author is talking about in the book sounds too good to be true, i mean you have to possess a freakin strong willpower to not masturbate from your adolescence till you get married (especially is this day and age with all the social media and soft porn everywhere), and only god knows when it’s going to happen. In islam there are some schools of thought that say you can masturbate if you feel like you’re going to have sex outside of marriage so here it’s permissible just so you won’t go down that path… I think that’s a moderate way to look at it.
There are a lot of guys who pulled it off and didn’t go down that path, and the common thing about them all is they were pious. According to some islamic literature I read. One beautiful woman wanted to seduce this handsome young man, so she tricked him into coming to her house and after she offered him herself he refused, and she said if you don’t do it, I will scream so the people can gather and accuse you of something. There was no way out at this point so he requested that he go first to the toilet then she can have what she wanted. When he came out his body was all covered in shit and she eventually got repulsed by it and kicked him out of the house. And after that incident as a reward for his piety his sweat turned a musk that was very strong smelling you can actually know that he went from this ally or that one
I know it sounds like a fairytale or some science fiction genre but this is just one of the many true stories out there.
To feel the presence of god in situations like this is something very few people can pull off. It’s a very personal experience. I’m sure God loves the strong believer more than he loves the weakest believer. I can say I'm one of the weakest ones, I can't even control my desires at this point. But having sex outside of marriage is something that I can not do. That I didn't screw up.
I remember
@Androg rog once said to me with good intentions to go out and seek potential partners, but as long as i don’t get my shit together so i can be up to the task of marrying a woman and raising a family, i’m afraid i won’t drag a woman with me just to get my fix from her and break her heart at the end. That whole hookup culture isn’t really my thing… Like
@Phineas 808 said, once i view things in white and black, i think it’s a bad habit of mine and should be getting rid of.
Sorry for the long rant guys.
@Blondie @GBS @Androg I appreciate your support so much, I truly do. With that day 1 begins.
Peace.
Ezel.