How you doing Ezel?
you just saved my life man. you know what, after the relapse, I said to myself to take a break from the reboot for a week and binge-watch porn instead.How you doing Ezel?
@Phineas 808 you are right man, i was so hardcore committed that it backfired on me, I need to relax and breathe, and take a step back to see the full picture of why did this happen...Sorry for that, Ezel! Don't focus on it too much, except to learn whatever lessons you can from it. List off (for yourself) the reasons for the lapse, then modify your plan in a way that will help you going forward.
You've got heart, man- and your signature proves it! 'Go all in' as you say, but don't 'white-knuckle' it, learn how to relax into your abstinence. Have you ever heard the term 'dry-drunk'? That's what white-knuckling is.
You got this, brother, we're standing with you.
well said partner, and i was in all of the states at the same time that you wrote(horny, triggered, tired).I'm sorry to hear that brother. But you have to know deep down inside that it doesn't stop any progress you've made. You just accomplished an amazing feat,100 days without porn is a fantastic beginning. All you can do is pick yourself back up and get moving again. I know it sucks, I really do, but learn what made you relapse and go on from there. Analyze it, and grow from it.
Were you horney? Did you see something that triggered you? Were you tired? Whatever it is, ask yourself these questions and grow from them.
At the end of the day, there's only two things you can do, sit on the ground and throw yourself a pity party, or get back up and get moving again. I know it might look like my streak currently is amazing, blah blah blah, however, I'm just getting things figured out, but if you could only see all the fuck ups I've had before starting here at RN, you would understand my journey fully, with all its ups and its many many downs.
You got this man, you really do. Pat yourself on the back and get back up.
Don't do it, man! Been there, done that. The twisted idea is that you might as well, and I'll give this up later. Get back on the right track, monk mode, whatever it takes. Like Blondie says, you're making progress.after the relapse, I said to myself to take a break from the reboot for a week and binge-watch porn instead.
thanks man, i really appreciate your support.Sorry to hear about the relapse brother - but your progress has been inspiring to read and as others have said - one slip definitely does not undo it
This is a good and supportive community - everyone is wishing for your success
Phineas 808 you are right man, i was so hardcore committed that it backfired on me, I need to relax and breathe, and take a step back to see the full picture of why did this happen...
Well said, I like your perspective on this one, thanks Phineas.Commitment is good, needed, but it's not that you're so tightly wound up trying NOT to do something- instead (if I can suggest), think of it this way: your default is that you're a man who does not use porn. That's who you are- doesn't matter about yesterday, or even a moment of weakness, you're a man who does not use porn.
Just relax into who you are, live your life, and don't think about it. Sure- "monk mode"- don't put yourself in situations that will cause you to stumble, but reverse the mentality. You're NOT a porn user trying not to be one, rather you're a person who is clean, who doesn't use that stuff, and being careful to not put yourself in compromising situations. That's it.
Enjoy your freedom.