31 days no P / 17 no MO - and first morning wood!

[reboot_8716]

After a month without porn and 2.5 weeks without any MO, I finally had, at least for a few minutes, real morning wood today.

it went away once I sort of recognized it was there and felt for it but man, it was the strongest morning wood I’ve had in a long time. My dick was rock hard, it felt firmer and fuller overall than it has in months.

this gives me the confidence to know that it’s not a joke and there can really be benefits from doing a reboot. While I’ve always been optimistic it’s tough sometimes to think it will ever change and you wonder if it’s just you, but this gave me the bit of confidence to know that it’s not hopeless.

 

[Tryinghere]

I’ve been there. Thinking it’s all bullshit and you’re just broken. You are not. You will heal. It’s going to be a long road sir and there will be plenty of times you question the validity of the whole thing. But believe, if you stick with it you will get better.

way to go making it to one month! What an accomplishment!

 

[reboot_8716]

I’ve been there. Thinking it’s all bullshit and you’re just broken. You are not. You will heal. It’s going to be a long road sir and there will be plenty of times you question the validity of the whole thing. But believe, if you stick with it you will get better.

way to go making it to one month! What an accomplishment!

It’s also definitely not linear. Case in point - no morning wood today. But I know it’ll keep moving overall in the right direction. And even if it doesn’t — porn isn’t the answer. I think that’s been my biggest reflection over the last month. I don’t need porn in my life to be happy. I don’t even need masturbation. I may want to do it sometimes, but it’s not the be all end all that I thought it was when I felt overwhelmed at even the idea of quitting. I think this is the longest I’ve gone without fapping since I was 13 years old. And my life didn’t end, the world didn’t explode, I feel fine.

 

[Kwinki21]

Congratz!
For how long did you lose your morning wood. I can't remember I had any in the last years =\ If I can get one it will give me some motivation to keep going.

 

[Tryinghere]

It’s also definitely not linear. Case in point - no morning wood today. But I know it’ll keep moving overall in the right direction. And even if it doesn’t — porn isn’t the answer. I think that’s been my biggest reflection over the last month. I don’t need porn in my life to be happy. I don’t even need masturbation. I may want to do it sometimes, but it’s not the be all end all that I thought it was when I felt overwhelmed at even the idea of quitting. I think this is the longest I’ve gone without fapping since I was 13 years old. And my life didn’t end, the world didn’t explode, I feel fine.

Definitely not linear. I learned that the hard way. After a month or so I had sex every day for a week then my dick broke again. It'll play with your mental health that's for sure. But you're doing the right things. Keep it up

 

[Tryinghere]

Congratz!
For how long did you lose your morning wood. I can't remember I had any in the last years =\ If I can get one it will give me some motivation to keep going.

How long have you been rebooting for? Everyone is different but I started seeing noticeable differences about a month in. Then flatline with a shriveled dead dick for about a month or so. Somewhere between months 3-4 things started “normalizing”.

 

[Kwinki21]

I am on my first ever streak (13 days no pmo) after 10+ years daily addiction. Only thing I notice is depression and concentration problems after I quit pmo for over 2-3 days, but I think It's a good thing and confirms I have an serious issue.

 

[reboot_8716]

I am on my first ever streak (13 days no pmo) after 10+ years daily addiction. Only thing I notice is depression and concentration problems after I quit pmo for over 2-3 days, but I think It's a good thing and confirms I have an serious issue.

I felt like that around the same time as you. It takes a while to feel better but keep at it. I still have days like that but it’s definitely improved and continues to do so

 

[Kwinki21]

I felt like that around the same time as you. It takes a while to feel better but keep at it. I still have days like that but it’s definitely improved and continues to do so

Good to hear. Corona lockdown does not really help for me. Forced to work at home 5 days a week lol.

 

[Tryinghere]

I am on my first ever streak (13 days no pmo) after 10+ years daily addiction. Only thing I notice is depression and concentration problems after I quit pmo for over 2-3 days, but I think It's a good thing and confirms I have an serious issue.

You’ll get there dude. There will be good and bad days. For me, I felt depressed as fuck for a long time. Still do from time to time but it’s much less frequent now. You’ve stopped after ten years. Your brain is throwing a tantrum wondering what the fuck happened to all those “girls” it used to fuck daily. You will get better. Just stick to it. 2 weeks is a great accomplishment. Remember when going for two weeks seemed impossible? You’re doing great. Keep it up

 

[reboot_8716]

Another update - while I didn’t have much MW yesterday it was rock hard this morning. I felt like my dick was going to explode there was so much pressure. And I found the fantasy that was running in my head was simply me having sex with my wife. Nothing crazy or outlandish, just me taking my confident member and going to town on her.

I know it’s great progress. I also know that I shouldn’t expect the moon next time we try to have sex, because I’m still early in this journey and it’s possible that anxiety will get the better or me or things won’t go as I hope. But that doesn’t mean I’m not making progress toward that eventual goal. So I’m feeling energized and ready to keep on trucking!

 

[reboot_8716]

You’ll get there dude. There will be good and bad days. For me, I felt depressed as fuck for a long time. Still do from time to time but it’s much less frequent now. You’ve stopped after ten years. Your brain is throwing a tantrum wondering what the fuck happened to all those “girls” it used to fuck daily. You will get better. Just stick to it. 2 weeks is a great accomplishment. Remember when going for two weeks seemed impossible? You’re doing great. Keep it up
Exactly Right. The reason one feels shitty around that time is because the previously elevated dopamine levels you were used to are Gone. You legitimately have lower dopamine than you’ve had in a long time and it makes you depressed. But it will rebalance itself eventually.

 

[reboot_8716]

Good to hear. Corona lockdown does not really help for me. Forced to work at home 5 days a week lol.

Yep I’m in the same boat. But if you sit there dwelling on how difficult it is you’re only keeping PMO more present in your mind. You gotta lean into other things and give yourself a mantra to remind you of why you’re doing this when temptations arise.

 

[Tryinghere]

Another update - while I didn’t have much MW yesterday it was rock hard this morning. I felt like my dick was going to explode there was so much pressure. And I found the fantasy that was running in my head was simply me having sex with my wife. Nothing crazy or outlandish, just me taking my confident member and going to town on her.

I know it’s great progress. I also know that I shouldn’t expect the moon next time we try to have sex, because I’m still early in this journey and it’s possible that anxiety will get the better or me or things won’t go as I hope. But that doesn’t mean I’m not making progress toward that eventual goal. So I’m feeling energized and ready to keep on trucking!

Keep on keeping on dude. What you're saying sounds a lot like what I went/am going through. When we first were able to have successful sex I always came quickly. Like the first 6 times or more I couldn't last long enough for her to get off. Two nights ago was the first time she was able to cum....then again last night. For time reference, I'm a little over 4 months since I started my reboot. You'll get there. I can tell I'm not where I used to be, but i'm way better than before.

 

[reboot_8716]

Keep on keeping on dude. What you're saying sounds a lot like what I went/am going through. When we first were able to have successful sex I always came quickly. Like the first 6 times or more I couldn't last long enough for her to get off. Two nights ago was the first time she was able to cum....then again last night. For time reference, I'm a little over 4 months since I started my reboot. You'll get there. I can tell I'm not where I used to be, but i'm way better than before.

Yeah I’ve been dealing with PE for a while now which I think was caused by always fapping to porn and rushing to cum. I’m talking like less than 30 seconds even if my wife just gives me a hand job

 

[Tryinghere]

Yeah I’ve been dealing with PE for a while now which I think was caused by always fapping to porn and rushing to cum. I’m talking like less than 30 seconds even if my wife just gives me a hand job

Yep. I feel you dude. I've came before penetration. Once, we were spooning in bed and she didn't do anything other than SLIGHTLY push her ass into my dick and I came.....all over her pajamas. It gets better. Before my dick stopped working I was pretty good at a moved I called the "trick". I could essentially get to the point of edging and let just a little cum come out. Not enough to lose my erection, but enough to allow me to keep going. As of two nights ago I seem to have regained that ability. Might be something to try.

 

[reboot_8716]

Yep. I feel you dude. I've came before penetration. Once, we were spooning in bed and she didn't do anything other than SLIGHTLY push her ass into my dick and I came.....all over her pajamas. It gets better. Before my dick stopped working I was pretty good at a moved I called the "trick". I could essentially get to the point of edging and let just a little cum come out. Not enough to lose my erection, but enough to allow me to keep going. As of two nights ago I seem to have regained that ability. Might be something to try.

Yeah I used to be able to basically slow down and give myself a few seconds to breath and then keep going, not even fully losing the erection.

i think it’s a combination of anxiety around performance and a learned habit for rapid masturbation. I’ve also cum before penetration before and every time it’s been where I’m very in my head about it. Either first time with a woman or if I’ve had a few unsuccessful attempts at penetration and as such I’m super focused on whether it’s working or not. I know that the sympathetic nervous system controls orgasm moreso than the parasympathetic, so your conscious thoughts can make a big difference. And even when she just jerks me off, I can’t help but start thinking about whether I’m close to cumming, which is what makes it happen faster.

 

[Tryinghere]

Yeah I used to be able to basically slow down and give myself a few seconds to breath and then keep going, not even fully losing the erection.

i think it’s a combination of anxiety around performance and a learned habit for rapid masturbation. I’ve also cum before penetration before and every time it’s been where I’m very in my head about it. Either first time with a woman or if I’ve had a few unsuccessful attempts at penetration and as such I’m super focused on whether it’s working or not. I know that the sympathetic nervous system controls orgasm moreso than the parasympathetic, so your conscious thoughts can make a big difference. And even when she just jerks me off, I can’t help but start thinking about whether I’m close to cumming, which is what makes it happen faster.

Ain't it a wicked game our minds play with us? I started my reboot not because of PE but PIED. So the situations are a little different, but the single biggest thing that helped me was having a raw conversation with my wife and removing any expectations of what happens during sex. Maybe just talking about it with her will take some of the pressure off and allow you to enjoy the moment rather than focusing on when you're going to nut.