Keep on ... In my case I stop watching porn and masturbating 6 days Ago, I start feeling good sensation in my pênis, It seems I want real sex. But in recent days, I only get erections If touch my wife skin, Kiss her and smell her skin. But when I see her body It seems I am excited enough yet. Strange in my case, when my wife is not in a mood for It and I keep trying touching her without knowing If she Will allow me to have sex , I have strong erections. But she is calling me and Very easy , I am no excited. Is It normal?Day 2 of not using porn
Couldn't finish with my wife again so I jerked off into a cup again
But this time I just used my imagination, no porn
I guess we are about done for this fertile window.
One relapse (PMO), one good sexual experience, one DE (resulting in MO)
Not great but now I can focus on my reboot again
Work stress
+ stress related to money and car
(basically need to get a new car, which I hadn't planned for)
But I went snowboarding this morning and haven't looked at porn for a couple of days, so overall I can't complain
Next target - 3 days (tomorrow)
Also, I haven't looked at Reddit for two weeks, which is a nice bonus.
ColdTurkeyBlocker is working out great, so thank you again @Thanatos
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particularly_respecting
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Day 11 of not using porn
Thanks @Blondie !
And @logicprox - that sounds helpful. Looking forward to reading it
Had very strong urges today but I had so much work.
I was imagining Goggins shouting at me in my head - it actually kinda worked and I got through it
Totally agree it's about taking back control of our own lives and how we spend our time and use our bodies
@Rcgarcia thanks also!
Yes, lately I have noticed I am thinking more about my wife when I have urges
Still early days but it seems like a positive sign
Regarding you being more excited when you are pursuing your wife than when she pursues you
I think that's normal
Just my personal experience, but I find some people prefer to be the initiator and some people prefer to be asked
(like a scale, of course, where people have some degree of preference, not a binary)
Personally I think I prefer to be the initiator
But I'm not sure if that's my natural preference, or a self-defense mechanism I developed from PIED
(i.e. wait to initiate until I feel I can perform - less pressure)
On to the next day
Stay strong brothers!
Thanks @Blondie !
And @logicprox - that sounds helpful. Looking forward to reading it
Had very strong urges today but I had so much work.
I was imagining Goggins shouting at me in my head - it actually kinda worked and I got through it
Totally agree it's about taking back control of our own lives and how we spend our time and use our bodies
@Rcgarcia thanks also!
Yes, lately I have noticed I am thinking more about my wife when I have urges
Still early days but it seems like a positive sign
Regarding you being more excited when you are pursuing your wife than when she pursues you
I think that's normal
Just my personal experience, but I find some people prefer to be the initiator and some people prefer to be asked
(like a scale, of course, where people have some degree of preference, not a binary)
Personally I think I prefer to be the initiator
But I'm not sure if that's my natural preference, or a self-defense mechanism I developed from PIED
(i.e. wait to initiate until I feel I can perform - less pressure)
On to the next day
Stay strong brothers!
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You're about to roll over 2 weeks. You are progressing very well. don't give up keep going
particularly_respecting
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Day 12 of not using porn
Thanks @Resurrection!
That's some great encouragement right there
Wife came back today, which I'm glad about
(her visit to her mother's was a short one this time)
I'm overworked, sleep-deprived, and have barely been outside for three days
Honestly I should feel like shit right now
But I haven't looked at porn for 12 days and haven't been on Reddit for 25 days
All things considered, I'm actually feeling okay
Plus after tomorrow I'll be over the worst of it and almost at my target of 2 weeks
Thank you to the community - it's a huge inspiration reading everyone's journals
Thanks @Resurrection!
That's some great encouragement right there
Wife came back today, which I'm glad about
(her visit to her mother's was a short one this time)
I'm overworked, sleep-deprived, and have barely been outside for three days
Honestly I should feel like shit right now
But I haven't looked at porn for 12 days and haven't been on Reddit for 25 days
All things considered, I'm actually feeling okay
Plus after tomorrow I'll be over the worst of it and almost at my target of 2 weeks
Thank you to the community - it's a huge inspiration reading everyone's journals
particularly_respecting
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Day 13 of not using porn
Difficult day today
Strong urges + strong desire to procrastinate
Then our house suffered more damage that I will need to get fixed
Experiencing some negative emotions
Would be easy if it was just one thing
Instead everything is piling up - work, car, house, and a bunch of other stuff
But I'm still hanging in there
I'm like Rocky in the last round
Bashed up but still in the fight
(Except I don't plan to lose)
Thank you again to all the brothers reading this and writing in your own journals
It's good to know people are going through similar struggles
One more day to target (2 weeks)
Difficult day today
Strong urges + strong desire to procrastinate
Then our house suffered more damage that I will need to get fixed
Experiencing some negative emotions
Would be easy if it was just one thing
Instead everything is piling up - work, car, house, and a bunch of other stuff
But I'm still hanging in there
I'm like Rocky in the last round
Bashed up but still in the fight
(Except I don't plan to lose)
Thank you again to all the brothers reading this and writing in your own journals
It's good to know people are going through similar struggles
One more day to target (2 weeks)
Escapeandnevercomeback
Respected Member
I feel you, man. I'm going through some stress + panic about the curse of my life and the desire to self-medicate creates strong urges. But just like you say: We must be very stubborn and refuse porn. Otherwise porn wins, we have no other option.Day 13 of not using porn
Difficult day today
Strong urges + strong desire to procrastinate
Then our house suffered more damage that I will need to get fixed
Experiencing some negative emotions
Would be easy if it was just one thing
Instead everything is piling up - work, car, house, and a bunch of other stuff
But I'm still hanging in there
I'm like Rocky in the last round
Bashed up but still in the fight
(Except I don't plan to lose)
Thank you again to all the brothers reading this and writing in your own journals
It's good to know people are going through similar struggles
One more day to target (2 weeks)
particularly_respecting
Active Member
Day 14 of not using porn
Hit my target! Feels good
Next target is one month
This will be tougher - but also if I can do it, a sign of real positive change
If I achieve it I'm gonna buy a monitor arm
(btw I wrote no PMO (except O with wife), but I decided MO (no P) is okay if it's for purpose of conceiving)
Thanks also @Escapeandnevercomeback!
I left a comment on your journal - but let's never forget we are doing this to make a positive change in our lives
No matter how difficult it is right now
Actually somehow felt better today
I guess because work stress eased a bit
Hoping to get out and get some exercise in the next few days
But may be stuck doing work around the house with some of the things that went wrong in the past couple of weeks
Stay strong brothers - we all have our ups and downs, but overall this community is making a big positive change in many people's lives
Not just our own, but everyone around us - partners, family, friends, etc.
Hit my target! Feels good
Next target is one month
This will be tougher - but also if I can do it, a sign of real positive change
If I achieve it I'm gonna buy a monitor arm
(btw I wrote no PMO (except O with wife), but I decided MO (no P) is okay if it's for purpose of conceiving)
Thanks also @Escapeandnevercomeback!
I left a comment on your journal - but let's never forget we are doing this to make a positive change in our lives
No matter how difficult it is right now
Actually somehow felt better today
I guess because work stress eased a bit
Hoping to get out and get some exercise in the next few days
But may be stuck doing work around the house with some of the things that went wrong in the past couple of weeks
Stay strong brothers - we all have our ups and downs, but overall this community is making a big positive change in many people's lives
Not just our own, but everyone around us - partners, family, friends, etc.
particularly_respecting
Active Member
Day 15 of not using porn
I was busy and moving around most of today, so no real time for urges etc.
Discovered I have more work than I thought so exercise this weekend will be minimal
oh well
Can't complain though because I just got through another porn-free day
Halfway to my target
Stay strong brothers
I was busy and moving around most of today, so no real time for urges etc.
Discovered I have more work than I thought so exercise this weekend will be minimal
oh well
Can't complain though because I just got through another porn-free day
Halfway to my target
Stay strong brothers
particularly_respecting
Active Member
Day 16 of not using porn
Stuck inside on a beautiful day
Wish I was out on the mountain
But I got a new computer
I didn't want to replace my old one, but it's nice to have a new one
And now I've got this fancy new computer I NEVER want to sully it with porn
Stay strong brothers
Keep writing in your journals. They are all good inspiration
Stuck inside on a beautiful day
Wish I was out on the mountain
But I got a new computer
I didn't want to replace my old one, but it's nice to have a new one
And now I've got this fancy new computer I NEVER want to sully it with porn
Stay strong brothers
Keep writing in your journals. They are all good inspiration
Blondie
Respected Member
New computer, new life, I like it! 16 days, nice job!Day 16 of not using porn
Stuck inside on a beautiful day
Wish I was out on the mountain
But I got a new computer
I didn't want to replace my old one, but it's nice to have a new one
And now I've got this fancy new computer I NEVER want to sully it with porn
Stay strong brothers
Keep writing in your journals. They are all good inspiration
particularly_respecting
Active Member
Day 17 of not using porn
Thanks @Blondie!
Yeah - my old one was like a trusty horse - and I kept dragging it into the mud
This one is staying pristine
Today was fine - just working
But I feel like my concentration is getting better
I haven't been on Reddit for a month - I think that helps too
Hopefully work will ease off and I can work on myself more next week
Get outside more and do some exercise
My wife is going away tomorrow
It'll be tough - but I've got plenty of fight left in me
Plan:
Keep screen time down when not working (good progress on this so far)
Try and get outside and do exercise
Do recovery-related things every day (e.g. listen to podcast, write here)
Speak to wife on phone at night
Keep guitar nearby and pick it up if I feel strong urges
Keep fighting brothers
Thanks @Blondie!
Yeah - my old one was like a trusty horse - and I kept dragging it into the mud
This one is staying pristine
Today was fine - just working
But I feel like my concentration is getting better
I haven't been on Reddit for a month - I think that helps too
Hopefully work will ease off and I can work on myself more next week
Get outside more and do some exercise
My wife is going away tomorrow
It'll be tough - but I've got plenty of fight left in me
Plan:
Keep screen time down when not working (good progress on this so far)
Try and get outside and do exercise
Do recovery-related things every day (e.g. listen to podcast, write here)
Speak to wife on phone at night
Keep guitar nearby and pick it up if I feel strong urges
Keep fighting brothers
Escapeandnevercomeback
Respected Member
Looks good. Don't lose focus.
particularly_respecting
Active Member
Day 18 of not using porn
Thanks @Escapeandnevercomeback!
Yes, not losing focus is important
In the past I always made some progress, then thought "I am on the right track now, I can manage a little peek here and there" "I can stop worrying so much about recovery"
This time I am trying to do things differently
I want to keep the recovery process front and center in my mind, and never lose sight of how important this is to me
Last night it rained for the first time in months (usually it is too cold for rain - just snow)
A lot of snow melted and suddenly I feel the end of the ski season is near
It goes so quickly. I have been busy with work this year so haven't been as much as I wanted
I wish I hadn't wasted so much of my life on porn and other bad choices
The time we have is precious and we must make the most of it
Otherwise, like the ski season, we wake up one day and realize the world has moved on and we have squandered our opportunities
Never lose sight of that fact brothers!
Our time is finite - use it on things that matter
Onto day 19
Thanks @Escapeandnevercomeback!
Yes, not losing focus is important
In the past I always made some progress, then thought "I am on the right track now, I can manage a little peek here and there" "I can stop worrying so much about recovery"
This time I am trying to do things differently
I want to keep the recovery process front and center in my mind, and never lose sight of how important this is to me
Last night it rained for the first time in months (usually it is too cold for rain - just snow)
A lot of snow melted and suddenly I feel the end of the ski season is near
It goes so quickly. I have been busy with work this year so haven't been as much as I wanted
I wish I hadn't wasted so much of my life on porn and other bad choices
The time we have is precious and we must make the most of it
Otherwise, like the ski season, we wake up one day and realize the world has moved on and we have squandered our opportunities
Never lose sight of that fact brothers!
Our time is finite - use it on things that matter
Onto day 19
Escapeandnevercomeback
Respected Member
Never forget: A little bit is too much. The addiction can be starved to death but it can't be starved to death if we feed it even a little. Fuck porn, choose life.
You got this, man! 18 days is great!
particularly_respecting
Active Member
Day 19 of not using porn
@Escapeandnevercomeback totally agree
Great metaphor - starve the beast!
Slept in today - previously I would be annoyed I wasted most of the morning
Then I would procrastinate and end up wasting even more of the day
But today I tried to look at it as a blessing
It gave me the chance to tackle my work with renewed vigor
It meant the day was more positive than it would have been previously, and overall I think I got more work done
Kind of feel like I am in a dangerous zone though
Often in the past I kept getting to around 2-3 weeks then relapsing
Reading journals of the guys on here also, it seems many men can white knuckle it through a few weeks
Then there are lots of slip ups
But when guys hit around 30 days they often seem to go on to achieve much longer streaks
Stay vigilant brothers - one slip is all it takes to fall back into a dark pit!
@Escapeandnevercomeback totally agree
Great metaphor - starve the beast!
Slept in today - previously I would be annoyed I wasted most of the morning
Then I would procrastinate and end up wasting even more of the day
But today I tried to look at it as a blessing
It gave me the chance to tackle my work with renewed vigor
It meant the day was more positive than it would have been previously, and overall I think I got more work done
Kind of feel like I am in a dangerous zone though
Often in the past I kept getting to around 2-3 weeks then relapsing
Reading journals of the guys on here also, it seems many men can white knuckle it through a few weeks
Then there are lots of slip ups
But when guys hit around 30 days they often seem to go on to achieve much longer streaks
Stay vigilant brothers - one slip is all it takes to fall back into a dark pit!
particularly_respecting
Active Member
Day 20 of not using porn
Good day today
Strong focus on work
Wife also came back - it's always easier when she's around
I'm 2/3 of the way to my target (30 days)
If I hit this target I'm getting a monitor arm to celebrate
(Yes I am a geek)
Don't know if it's actual positive effects from the reboot or just coincidence/general ups and downs, but I've been feeling pretty good about things lately
Good motivation levels, urges present but under control, better focus at work
Still early in the process though, so I'm hesitant to ascribe it 100% to the reboot
Stay strong brothers - this community is a great help, and it is thanks to you reading this
Good day today
Strong focus on work
Wife also came back - it's always easier when she's around
I'm 2/3 of the way to my target (30 days)
If I hit this target I'm getting a monitor arm to celebrate
(Yes I am a geek)
Don't know if it's actual positive effects from the reboot or just coincidence/general ups and downs, but I've been feeling pretty good about things lately
Good motivation levels, urges present but under control, better focus at work
Still early in the process though, so I'm hesitant to ascribe it 100% to the reboot
Stay strong brothers - this community is a great help, and it is thanks to you reading this
particularly_respecting
Active Member
Day 21 of not using porn
@Blondie thanks! I know it's goofy but it genuinely kinda helps to have something to aim for
Another good day today
Weirdly I am getting strong urges - but I can feel myself not giving into them
Feel more powerful and in control
less procrastination & no porn = more time = more sleep = feel better and better focus = less procrastination & no porn
I am hoping this is a real change and not just temporary ups and downs
Stay strong brothers - it's a rough road but at least we've got company!
@Blondie thanks! I know it's goofy but it genuinely kinda helps to have something to aim for
Another good day today
Weirdly I am getting strong urges - but I can feel myself not giving into them
Feel more powerful and in control
less procrastination & no porn = more time = more sleep = feel better and better focus = less procrastination & no porn
I am hoping this is a real change and not just temporary ups and downs
Stay strong brothers - it's a rough road but at least we've got company!
particularly_respecting
Active Member
Day 22 of not using porn
Another good day
Work stress has eased off a bit
Urges still under control
I am quoting this passage from Dopamine Nation by Anna Lembke, originally recommended by @Chuckles
No explanation needed - I am sure anyone reading will see the relevance
On to day 23. Stay strong brothers!
Another good day
Work stress has eased off a bit
Urges still under control
I am quoting this passage from Dopamine Nation by Anna Lembke, originally recommended by @Chuckles
No explanation needed - I am sure anyone reading will see the relevance
On to day 23. Stay strong brothers!