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SmokenMirrors

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I have a question gentlemen. How do you guys cope with the seemingly limitless sexual energy? This question is more aimed at the celibates like me (ouch) but any answer is appreciated!
 
I have a question gentlemen. How do you guys cope with the seemingly limitless sexual energy? This question is more aimed at the celibates like me (ouch) but any answer is appreciated!
Man this is a rough one, MO is definitely what I've been using as an outlet (which is why the 90 day no MO challenge has been so hard). Hopefully others have more enlightened answers

Guess the other thing is just going out and finding a partner. Which is the goal I think for many of us here, right now in addition to my healing I'm working to shed a lot of weight and be prouder of my body a bit before really getting back out there w/ dating. The apps are obv one big way to do it
 

Blondie

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Hey @SmokenMirrors, that's a good question. I've only done 60 day streaks of no orgasm twice in my life, but I was still having sex during that time, which is different, so I don't really have an answer for you. I know @GBS will be at day 90 tomorrow, so maybe you could ask him.

Have you ever read anything about Sexual transmutation? There's plenty of articles you can find online about it, but the practice addresses what you're asking about: that is, learning how to transfer your sexual energy to other things besides just sex. Some of it is pretty new-agey and cheesy, however, its basic principles do go back to ancient traditions in the old world religions, mostly eastern ones. Maybe you can find something there to help you out. Just be careful as far as the pictures go, I never personally saw anything bad or racy, but just a heads up to be safe.

I know when I was doing my 60 days with no orgasming, my sexual energy was just off the charts. 📈 I remember once being at a coffee shop with my girlfriend, and a waitress had just set us down at a table, and as she bent down to pick up something off the floor, I literally started to get an uncontrollable hard on like I was in middle school! "Quick Blondie, find the nearest object to awkwardly put in front of your crotch!" Funny thing is, I didn't check her out (I'm not an ass) and I kept my eyes on my girl, but her bending down right in front of me was enough to get me going, must of been all that semen pouring through my veins. :cool: I told my girlfriend about it afterwards and she just laughed her ass off, saying something alone the lines of "Oh my god you men are ridiculous!" (Side note: find a lady who won't judge you for a being a sexual man and in whom you can have conversations such as these. Of course, she knew I wasn't checking this girl out, thus, she respected me because of it, and thus, we could have fun conversations like this). But I digress.

The only advice I can give you is what I learned when having tantra sex and not getting off with my partner. The basic concept is like this: when you're about to O during sex, that "energy" you feel below your stomach and in your crotch, well, take a deep breath and try to visualize it moving up your back and away from your loins. Over the course of two months I did get better at doing this, and it did seem to work. I also started to do this during my day at work with any attractive ladies I saw or worked with. I would just take a deep breath, and let that energy flow up my back, thus, their female energy would energize and inspire me, but not distract me. Obviously, I didn't do any of this perfectly - I would say I had at least a 20% success rate :cool: - but it did work for a time, and even just writing about it now is making me rethink how I could incorporate it back into my life.

I hope some of that helps.

Best King
 
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SmokenMirrors

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Sitting here I've realised that I've managed to amass a streak that I never believed I could achieve! I remember reading up on @Blondie thread when I began in February, and he was on circa 150 days and I was in awe of the streak he achieved. It's crazy, what you can achieve when you are determined and you generate a formidable willpower. Apologies if it sounds like I'm gloating or something, I don't mean it this way, I'm simply reflecting. Keep fighting the good fight, kings.

Day 263 no porn
Day 9 no MO
 

Blondie

Respected Member
Apologies if it sounds like I'm gloating or something, I don't mean it this way, I'm simply reflecting. Keep fighting the good fight, kings.
No apologies brother. There's a big difference between gloating and having an ego about your accomplishments etc., instead of just being in awe of how far you've come in your progress and just feeling proud of yourself for the changes you've made. You are most definitely the latter.

Keep shooting for the stars @SmokenMirrors!
 
Sitting here I've realised that I've managed to amass a streak that I never believed I could achieve! I remember reading up on @Blondie thread when I began in February, and he was on circa 150 days and I was in awe of the streak he achieved. It's crazy, what you can achieve when you are determined and you generate a formidable willpower. Apologies if it sounds like I'm gloating or something, I don't mean it this way, I'm simply reflecting. Keep fighting the good fight, kings.

Day 263 no porn
Day 9 no MO
You've earned the right to be proud many times over my friend. Keep up the good fight!

There's an amazing future out there, you and I will both make it
 

SmokenMirrors

Well-Known Member
How are you my British cousin? Life across the pond going well?
Bo'lle of wa'er mate!😂 Things are going well thank you king! Broke my keyboard the other day, hence why I havent been saying anything! Still get the urges to watch porn sometimes but I think it's just because I'm a celibate haha; again, happy 6 months to you king!
 
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