1 year of Hard-Mode. Rewiring failure?

[JnanaYogiKarmaYogi]

Hey everyone! I have completed one year of hardmode reboot with no rewiring. Yesterday I was making out with a girl I liked and I didn't feel any erection at all. I don't think I was in a flatline. My morning wood over this one year has improved. But I am a virgin. I am very confused as I thought after 1 year of hardmode I would have hard erections just from making out (as it used to happen before PIED). Please help me out!!

 

[Ive Swornoff]

I have read it can take up to three years. It depends on how badly you fried that part of your brain on porn. I fried mine really badly, apparently, and looking back I'm not surprised.

I will hit 9 months tomorrow. I get night wood ... but truthfully I never stopped getting that. All it tells me is that all the physiology works just fine, it's just the connection between my brain's dopamine center and that physiology that is still messed up.

A year is a lot to invest. There's only one path out and you're on it. Keep going.

 

[JnanaYogiKarmaYogi]

I have read it can take up to three years. It depends on how badly you fried that part of your brain on porn. I fried mine really badly, apparently, and looking back I'm not surprised.

I will hit 9 months tomorrow. I get night wood ... but truthfully I never stopped getting that. All it tells me is that all the physiology works just fine, it's just the connection between my brain's dopamine center and that physiology that is still messed up.

A year is a lot to invest. There's only one path out and you're on it. Keep going.

Thank you! I see no option but to continue wondering if I'll ever be healed

 

[forestwater]

There's nothing wrong with you - just keep rewiring!

There are two parts to this process: 1. the Reboot, in which you starve the porn monster & heal your brain, and 2. the Rewire, in which you train your brain to find real-world sexual activity arousing.

You said you had been only Rebooting, not Rewiring. If this make-out session was your first rewiring experience, then it's not surprising that you might find it disappointing. Rewiring is a process that takes time and effort, not an instantaneous change. Keep spending time with the girl, appreciating her personality and her beauty, touching her, being kind to her, kissing her, etc. (Only if she wants, of course.) In time, you will notice the effects.

Good luck!

 

[JnanaYogiKarmaYogi]

There's nothing wrong with you - just keep rewiring!

There are two parts to this process: 1. the Reboot, in which you starve the porn monster & heal your brain, and 2. the Rewire, in which you train your brain to find real-world sexual activity arousing.

You said you had been only Rebooting, not Rewiring. If this make-out session was your first rewiring experience, then it's not surprising that you might find it disappointing. Rewiring is a process that takes time and effort, not an instantaneous change. Keep spending time with the girl, appreciating her personality and her beauty, touching her, being kind to her, kissing her, etc. (Only if she wants, of course.) In time, you will notice the effects.

Good luck!

Thanks you. That's what I've been wondering too. This was my first time even touching a girl after one year of complete abstinence. in this one year I have noticed signs- biggest ones being morning wood and random erections. But as soon as I was making out it felt like there was some kind of mismatch between what my brain found arousing and what I wanted it to find arousing. I guess I would have to rewire consistently without expectations. Thanks.

 

[Stiffy999]

Hey everyone! I have completed one year of hardmode reboot with no rewiring. Yesterday I was making out with a girl I liked and I didn't feel any erection at all. I don't think I was in a flatline. My morning wood over this one year has improved. But I am a virgin. I am very confused as I thought after 1 year of hardmode I would have hard erections just from making out (as it used to happen before PIED). Please help me out!!

Hey bro,
I think that your problem is that you were too much into your head instead of being into the moment.How could you get aroused if your mind is telling you let's make out with this girl to check my erection and then because you feel no erection you start worrying.You can go 10 years hardmode, however with that wrong mindset you won't get positive results.You need to relax and forget about your penis but rather enjoy the time you spend with that girl.Take a moment to appreciate her beauty and don't expect rock hard erections just from making out.Build a connection with her and also remember that sex isn't only about putting penis in vagina,you can do many other things that don't involve erection and still give her the best sex she has ever had.Wish you best of luck in your journey!

 

[Dude09]

Good on you for doing 1 year hardmode. That’s quite an achievement. I’m porn free for 4.5 month and seeing improvements. My advice is don’t stress while rewiring with a real girl. It won’t happen on day 1. What you need to do is to open up with that girl and explain to her what you’re going through. It will take pressure off your back. I did same with my girl and then even if I don’t get erected, we both know it’s okay so there’s no stress. Now when we meet, sometimes I don’t get erected right away when we’re making out but I get erected later and do successful sex as well. Just take it easy, give yourself time and stop worrying about erection. Try pleasing your woman by other ways. You need to have a good connection with her and she needs to be understanding for you to overcome this. Try going out with her, cook together, watch movies, deepen your friendship. It all will help.

 

[Tryinghere]

Hey everyone! I have completed one year of hardmode reboot with no rewiring. Yesterday I was making out with a girl I liked and I didn't feel any erection at all. I don't think I was in a flatline. My morning wood over this one year has improved. But I am a virgin. I am very confused as I thought after 1 year of hardmode I would have hard erections just from making out (as it used to happen before PIED). Please help me out!!

The absolute best advice I could give you is this: Once you're close enough with your girl that you can talk to her about what's happening and what you're going through. Have a conversation with her and be open about what the deal is. Being a virgin, you don't need to REwire. You need to WIRE. Your brain is just trying to figure out how to react to a live person there. If you both know what's happening it might take a bit of the pressure off. Then you can relax and start exploring. Great job on a year hard mode dude. That's pretty impressive.

 

[JnanaYogiKarmaYogi]

Hey bro,
I think that your problem is that you were too much into your head instead of being into the moment.How could you get aroused if your mind is telling you let's make out with this girl to check my erection and then because you feel no erection you start worrying.You can go 10 years hardmode, however with that wrong mindset you won't get positive results.You need to relax and forget about your penis but rather enjoy the time you spend with that girl.Take a moment to appreciate her beauty and don't expect rock hard erections just from making out.Build a connection with her and also remember that sex isn't only about putting penis in vagina,you can do many other things that don't involve erection and still give her the best sex she has ever had.Wish you best of luck in your journey!

Thank you. I will surely be trying my best to just relax and be in the moment with her.

 

[JnanaYogiKarmaYogi]

Good on you for doing 1 year hardmode. That’s quite an achievement. I’m porn free for 4.5 month and seeing improvements. My advice is don’t stress while rewiring with a real girl. It won’t happen on day 1. What you need to do is to open up with that girl and explain to her what you’re going through. It will take pressure off your back. I did same with my girl and then even if I don’t get erected, we both know it’s okay so there’s no stress. Now when we meet, sometimes I don’t get erected right away when we’re making out but I get erected later and do successful sex as well. Just take it easy, give yourself time and stop worrying about erection. Try pleasing your woman by other ways. You need to have a good connection with her and she needs to be understanding for you to overcome this. Try going out with her, cook together, watch movies, deepen your friendship. It all will help.

That's great advice. I plan on telling her soon if we become more serious. I think honesty and vulnerability will help in this journey

 

[JnanaYogiKarmaYogi]

Thank you. I think wiring myself to that experience becomes essential since I've spent the formative teens of my life hooked to high speed internet porn with little real-person experience. I'll surely be telling her soon!

The absolute best advice I could give you is this: Once you're close enough with your girl that you can talk to her about what's happening and what you're going through. Have a conversation with her and be open about what the deal is. Being a virgin, you don't need to REwire. You need to WIRE. Your brain is just trying to figure out how to react to a live person there. If you both know what's happening it might take a bit of the pressure off. Then you can relax and start exploring. Great job on a year hard mode dude. That's pretty impressive.

 

[Fappy]

As far as the rebooting goes you’re doing great! You’re done with porn forever and have successfully eliminated it from your life. The REWIRE however, as another commenter mentioned, is a little different. You’ll have to concentrate on rewiring your brain to these real life sexual experiences, you’ve got the reboot down now just focus on the reining aspect.

 

[fenbendazole]

I think you need sexual stimulation in order to get erection. That worked for me at least