downhillfromhere
Well-Known Member
Day 57
Hey downhill. Yes this can often cause that sensation for wanting more, for most of us anyway (but you knew that).Two days ago I MOed, and maybe I was craving more and wanted some image input.
Yeah, thanks for calling me out on that. Don’t misunderstand, I never said a word unless I was absolutely sure nobody could hear me. Then again - you’re right, it’s something I’m not going to make a habit out of. It’s cringy behaviour and I don’t want to be that sort of guy.Don't do that. It's rather creepy
You really are doing great, don't let go now.
I like this, but that's a really good way of saying it. I try to explain this to my lady, but it's sometimes hard to put into words exactly. But yes, less sexualized but more primal.I was always lusting after girls but not in that physical almost primal way.
I get it man. I remember when I was 30, probably a year or so before I met my current girl, I felt the same way. Previously, in my 20s, I had two long term relationships but I had practically stumbled into them by stupid luck lol. It's quite embarrassing to think about it now lol. But yes, learning how to face that fear of approaching a woman is quite the challenge. Another thing I learned to focus on was how great it would be to talk TO her and BE with her and NOT what would happen if she "rejected" me. One keeps you positive when about to talk to her, the other gives off negative vibes! The latter I was all too familiar with in my younger days.It’s just when you’ve never tried all your life, that first time especially at my age seems so difficult to go through with.
Yes it is!Looking forward to reaching two months without porn. This is just the start!
Thanks, that really helps! I think something will just click eventually and I’ll be able to do it. Imagining talking to her and thinking what will happen if it goes well, seems like a good way of thinking about it. I’ve certainly imagined all kinds of things, but focusing on the positive outcome is definitely good advice!I get it man. I remember when I was 30, probably a year or so before I met my current girl, I felt the same way. Previously, in my 20s, I had two long term relationships but I had practically stumbled into them by stupid luck lol. It's quite embarrassing to think about it now lol. But yes, learning how to face that fear of approaching a woman is quite the challenge. Another thing I learned to focus on was how great it would be to talk TO her and BE with her and NOT what would happen if she "rejected" me. One keeps you positive when about to talk to her, the other gives off negative vibes! The latter I was all too familiar with in my younger days.
Yes! After all, this is a huge part of why I’m doing this in the first place. Nobody pressured me into doing this, I’ve been single for years but I felt like I needed a change. To change the way I view people, to be more sociable and open, more honest and direct. For my own sake, and for everyone around me I want to be a better person.I think this is something to always keep in mind. While I do agree with @Blondie that you can't (and should not) blame all sexual urges on porn, I also think that 'the sort of guy' you want to be should be your main guide. In the end it doesn't mather wether something is caused by porn or not, it's about who you want to become. I think if you make your decisions based on that, it will be easier to differentiate (also in an early stage).
I appreciate that. Maybe it depends on what you mean by being a better person. I don’t think anyone needs to be perfect, our flaws are what make us unique.I know it sounds a bit hippy-is, but I just don't agree with all these people wanting to be a better person. That means they don't consider themselves good enough right now and I don't think that's the right motivation when it comes to changing your ways. For what it's worth, from what I have read on the forum you seem like a very decent person