How do i stop thinking about porn to get an erection?

[Kleber Almeida]

I've stopped watching porn for 5 months but recently I've been thinking about porn during sex to get a stronger erection, but i want to stop thinking about porn for good!
I guess my brain is relating sex to porn, and i don't want this.
Will it stop eventually or i need to focus on that?

 

[BridgeTri]

Congrats on not watching p for 5 mths. Impressive! Im guessing you've made great progress in large parts of your life already!

Having no science or experience that backs my advice, I really think that thinking about p while having sex is a slippery slope. I try to remind my self that the connection and the moment is the important factors in sex, so I try to either focus on my partner (looking, hearing, feeling, smelling) or focus on my self - what do I feel right in this very moment.

Good luck, keep up the good work!

 

[Faith180]

I've stopped watching porn for 5 months but recently I've been thinking about porn during sex to get a stronger erection, but i want to stop thinking about porn for good!
I guess my brain is relating sex to porn, and i don't want this.
Will it stop eventually or i need to focus on that?

Focus on it, and by that I mean don’t do it! lol it seems harmless enough since “it’s just your imagination” and you’ll hear a lot to validate that, at least I did. But as the other poster mentioned it IS a slippery slope and I’m pretty sure imagining it and/or scenarios like it during m was a factor in my last relapse—I’d gone a little over 2 months prior (multiple other factors and not really entering into recovery played a part too though, so this is just one person’s advice). Best to you friend.

 

[Dude09]

I have the same question. I’m 6 months Porn free and have felt improvements. My Penis responds to touch and I can do sex but just in one position. It I change position, I’ll lose erection. I still think about porn when I’m alone or when having sex with my gf. How to stop it or what else to think about if not porn specifically when I’m alone? It feels like the hardest part. Stop watching porn is one thing but stop imagining it is another.

 

[Fappy]

sounds like you’re going fine with the rebooting, but perhaps lacking in the rewiring. It’s a twofold process.
You need to rewire your brain to respond to real life sexual experiences. Although you’ve done great with the no porn aspect (rebooting), you may need some catching up with responding to feelings of intimacy with your partner (rewiring).
Being intimate with your partner doesn’t only mean sex. Practicing this your body will respond better and you won’t think of porn

 

[Dude09]

That’s true. Thanks for your response. I’ll try more to be present in the moment. I’ll be away from her for 1 month so I’ll use this opportunity to go hard mode for a month. My level of horniness is still not back to what it used to be. Hopefully I’ll see improvements as time goes by. Sticking to the process. Porn is a matter of past for me.