Hey
@FiveFortyFour, sorry to hear about people giving you shit for not having a girl. I know the pressure to have a girlfriend/wife can be huge, especially as you mentioned, in more traditional circles.
You're single because you're not good enough. You don't have a good enough job or a good enough physique or big enough dreams.
However, this is the worse thought that can occupy your mind, even though it's understandable to have. Let's just say even IF it is true, or semi true, so much of it is within you control. What do you think you could do to fix some of that? Even one thing? Whatever that is, discover it, then work on it with you all your heart!
I find it funny that we still judge men and women on these old standards in our society even though 50% of marriages do not make the cut and end in divorce. Ironically, for us men, that percentage is even more alarming, since most divorces are initiated by women, somewhere between 70-90%! Let that sink in for a moment lol. Bottom line is, us dudes sign up for some insane shit just to have some companionship, constant sex and hopefully, a good place to raise kids. I'm not against marriage per se, but these days I would be extremely careful who you decide to do that with.
Just because you need sex and companionship, doesn't necessarily mean you need to walk down the aisle. However, if you are a more conservative type, I understand you might think the old way is the only way, which I can respect. However, just be real careful who you chose to walk down the aisle with, and whatever you do, don't just do it for sex or "she's the only girl who has ever liked me" excuse, because that is a bad frame to be in when entering marriage.
Stay strong man
Best