Day 369 (no PMO)
Day 22 (no looking at porn or porn substitutes)
"It's not that I'm so smart, it's just that I stay with problems longer." – Albert Einstein
It would be nice if simple, successful responses to every situation were obvious, and the steps towards (beating a porn addiction) yielded immediate change. Sadly, reality doesn't work that way. In recovery, our job is to stick with the process as long as it takes. Recovery asks us to be patient and stick with the process because there are no immediate solutions.
Gifts of Recovery: Daily Meditations for Men and Women in Recovery From Sex Addiction, Timothy D. Stein
Whether it's beating a porn addiction, getting your boner back, or losing weight, we are impatient. Doing the work, putting in the effort, resisting bed behaviour, and letting time pass are too damn difficult – why can't I just take a pill and lose weight, produce lotsa testosterone, and get an erection of steel in 60 seconds? Believe me, I am not the most patient guy, and yet when I think of the colossal amount of time I wasted with porn and masturbation, I think I can accept that it will take a year or more for me to recover from this goddamned addiction.
Mayor of Flatlineville