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GBS

GBS

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PrometheusUnbound said:
Exemplary stuff @GBS !!
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Thanks Prommers.

Little update here - on vacation for two weeks. Very sadly dog became very ill on second day of holiday and was put to sleep last Sunday. It is so SO hard to lose a dog and we are all suffering. Dogs give and give, their love is unswerving and unconditional. So when they pass on it is deeply painful. He had a wonderful life and we must always keep that in our minds. So going to be possibly a little absent from here for a bit but I will keep tabs, Stay clean everyone.

1,275 days sober
37 days no MO
 
Gracie

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Sorry to read about the loss of four pawed family member. It is always so hard. Had our feline family member put to sleep earlier this summer. A rescue lived 16 years with feline virus. He was our Mr. Personality our door greeter. Always hard. I still cry. They are our furry angels.
 
GBS

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Cheers blond one. Yes 1300 approaches. Actually I celebrated 3 and a half years without porn a cou-le of weeks ago. So I realise these are good numbers. I won’t ever go back, but it would be nice if I could experience what I have been working towards - a healthy sex life. Just have to keep waiting.

1,291 days sober
53 days no MO
 
GBS

GBS

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1,298 days sober
60 days no MO

As most of you know, I have found my freedom not just from being on here, but from regular SAA (Sex Addicts Anonymous) meetings. There has been much discussion on RN as to the psychological potential damage done by labelling ourselves as “addicts”. I, for one, was happy enough in the early stages accepting I was an addict but I did so with the basic principle in mind that I had altered my brain. Now I have made changes to my behaviour and my brain, the label of being an addict sits less comfortably. But I still go to meetings where the mantra is what it is. So what’s my point? Well….

Do excuse the simplicity of this, but I listened to a radio show the other day on 5 live (that’s a UK radio channel by the way) that was talking about alcohol addiction. Doctors, so the show said, are disinclined (actually stronger than that) to say to anyone who seeks treatment for alcohol addiction that they’re addicted and the addiction needs addressing. They say it’s not addiction, it’s dependency. I don’t think this is a hair split, I found it compelling as a mindset.

So, whilst I am not complacent and I can easily recognise the mild urge feeling which rises to the surface occasionally, I am not dependent on porn. I can very easily survive without it. I am in control. It’s not a game changer for me exactly, but it does allow me the space to recognise what it was I was admitting to at the start of my journey. I was never an addict, but I was dependent.

Have a happy day without porn. Cheers all.
 
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