GBS
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Thanks @downhillfromhere and @Nico . Therapist didn’t unlock it all but was helpful. Also following therapy also spoke with wife and (some) sympathy was received.
Bottom line is that recovery for a partner is tricky and can take literally years. I slightly have to suck it up, and the attendant issue of me having a changing sexual mind is just a fact of life. That said she (my therapist) said I should ask my wife about increased affection. So I did, and also explained that I was occasionally sad and lonely. It got a good non defensive response. Although there was the occasional “I did suffer for 20 years, you know” thrown in at one point.
We’re going to do something more than just upright hugging but she said the knot inside her may tighten. I said if it does we shouldn’t do it. I realise that’s shooting myself in the foot but it has to be about her.
Despite what you may think, this put me in a good place, And just being able to say I was sad and lonely without feeling I was putting pressure on was cathartic.
198 no PMO and 46 no MO. Good numbers.
Bottom line is that recovery for a partner is tricky and can take literally years. I slightly have to suck it up, and the attendant issue of me having a changing sexual mind is just a fact of life. That said she (my therapist) said I should ask my wife about increased affection. So I did, and also explained that I was occasionally sad and lonely. It got a good non defensive response. Although there was the occasional “I did suffer for 20 years, you know” thrown in at one point.
We’re going to do something more than just upright hugging but she said the knot inside her may tighten. I said if it does we shouldn’t do it. I realise that’s shooting myself in the foot but it has to be about her.
Despite what you may think, this put me in a good place, And just being able to say I was sad and lonely without feeling I was putting pressure on was cathartic.
198 no PMO and 46 no MO. Good numbers.