Another story - probably the same as everyone else

Blondie

Blondie

Respected Member
300 days @GBS, what an amazing feat! I'm so happy for you. I agree it is "just" a number, but it is great and motivating to look at.

You truly have made a great change in your life, and that is to be commended. Definitely pat yourself on the back and have one on me, a digital credit! 🍻🍻

Hope you're having a great holiday.
 
Last edited:
Ezel

Ezel

Respected Member
Lionidas would be really proud of you @GBS . You did well champion, i wouldn't expect anything less from you. God bless you.
 
GBS

GBS

Respected Member
Thanks all

@Nico - keep going and don’t look back
@SimonM - one of my first original correspondents, always follow your proevery time you write. Total honesty is hallmark. What a man.
@Blondie - words are insufficient. Helped me so much. I owe you, pal. Truly. Let’s keep writing.
@TakeActionNow - one of the wisest. Were you a poet in a former life? Never writes bollocks. Never.
@Ezel - it was just a blip. That was all. You’re another one I always read. I look you up daily and if it hasn’t gone bold my heart sinks!
@Beautiful1973 - such a help and inspiration. So glad when you joined. You deserve so much. Stay patient and cool.
@Jlied - “Jails” - a very very good man. You mark me laugh and cry. Quite a skill. A hero too.

Talk soon wonderful people.
 
Jlied

Jlied

Active Member
GBS said:
Thanks all

@Nico - keep going and don’t look back
@SimonM - one of my first original correspondents, always follow your proevery time you write. Total honesty is hallmark. What a man.
@Blondie - words are insufficient. Helped me so much. I owe you, pal. Truly. Let’s keep writing.
@TakeActionNow - one of the wisest. Were you a poet in a former life? Never writes bollocks. Never.
@Ezel - it was just a blip. That was all. You’re another one I always read. I look you up daily and if it hasn’t gone bold my heart sinks!
@Beautiful1973 - such a help and inspiration. So glad when you joined. You deserve so much. Stay patient and cool.
@Jlied - “Jails” - a very very good man. You mark me laugh and cry. Quite a skill. A hero too.

Talk soon wonderful people.
Click to expand...
1672195040948.gif
Thanks Geebs, you’re one of the reasons I keep cracking on with this group home!
 
GBS

GBS

Respected Member
301 days. The road lies ahead for us all.

My therapist used to ask me whether I got urges, but she’s stopped asking. That’s one of the best signs right there. At my last session I asked her if she was still concerned and she said that was obviously my question not hers. I said I wasn’t going back but I am a red blooded man and somehow there’s a tiny bit of me that can still remember the excitement of it.

So what is that excitement? It’s a really good question to answer because it’s everything right there. We just need a way to get ourselves aroused because being aroused is all we know. Getting to the point where being aroused isn’t the be all and end all is the crossing of the line into sobriety’s safe haven.

I actually want to be aroused often but I suppress it and know it will happen in time and when it does it will be natural. Natural in both meanings of the word. Natural because it’s the right place and the right time, and natural because I will feel my wife’s skin on mine. Let that be the need to be aroused and nothing else ever.

I also look forward to coming on here daily, because reaffirming my desire to get to the natural state is also addictive. Finally an addiction that is good for me. Have a good porn free day, all.
 
GBS

GBS

Respected Member
302 days.

Massive family gathering yesterday. Brother is trying to pack up smoking and was on edge the whole time. I have tried packing up but really struggle. Arguably for me giving up porn was easier. Not saying I have recovered yet, but I reckon I am getting there.

Have a good day everyone. Do not let porn be part of it. Just think, right now, how many people are jacking off to it. Literally millions. And to many of them it is obsessive or on it’s way to being obsessive. I was one of them. I used to be. I am not going back.
 
Jlied

Jlied

Active Member
Thanks Geebs, the visual is sobering you mention above that millions of people are held captive to their vices. I know it’s not just porn that prisons people. It’s just sad to think about how many unhappy people there really are out there. Kinda gives perspective when you see some people just having a hard go if things and their attitude towards life in general. Reminds me to try and be more understanding and slower to come to conclusions about a person.
 
GBS

GBS

Respected Member
Good words @Jlied . The cleansing that is the heart of Reboot Nation isn’t just about avoiding pornography. It’s, for most of us, why we started but the conversion is way wider and sophisticated. I feel able to comment on flower arranging. I feel able to avoid alcohol exactly when I want to. I can concentrate on what someone is talking about however dull it is. I am less bossy and more a leader. I am a nicer bloke. It’s as simple as that. I would like to think that all of these improvements are because I am abstaining from masturbation and avoiding any form of sexual image.

This Cleansing is possible for every man and every woman. It’s a tough sell though. That’s the hard thing. You know when you’re addicted to cigarettes or alcohol or gambling or heroin. I didn’t realise how screwed up I was. I did realise I was doing something wrong and damaging my relationship but I didn’t see the problem for what it was.

How on earth do we preach the word? And stay masculine. And believable. And honourable. I am proud of my own achievements and if I have helped another person do the same than I am prouder, but how on earth do we get the word out? Way early on in my posts I referenced a man I know who is a dear friend. Unmarried. Teacher. Ex-alcoholic. Bit if a ladies’ man. Big gambler. Massive porn user. I told him I had given up and it was the best thing I had ever done. He said, and I think I quote verbatim “I would never even think of giving up”. Right there is the problem. Not married so what’s the problem? It’s a very difficult sell as I said.

303 days. This number will keep climbing. I promise you.

Quickly on the Mrs GBS situation. She looks fucking gorgeous. Drives me wild. Seems in good mood despite a difficult couple of weeks and our hosting a huge bash here. Starting to relax. Off to see my elderly parents today and daughter is back to university. Things will quieten down. Maybe, just maybe things will progress. Not getting carried away with it. Just good old hope rearing it’s head again.
 
GBS

GBS

Respected Member
304 days.

Not much to report.

I am about one week dry from masturbation as well. Starts to get the first signs of tricky after about a week. What I do have is extremely full plums. In 7 and a half months I have masturbated a total of 5 times. This is new territory for me. I haven’t seen a naked female in 10 months nor touched my wife’s arse in that time. So I know what the word discipline means.

it seems boring to reiterate what I have been saying on and off for the last 8 months I have been on here, but it’s simply the truth. No escaping that fact.
 
GBS

GBS

Respected Member
OK. Crazy as this may be, I have a pact with @Jlied and I am going to post a picture of myself for 24 hours On my profile. So you can see how I possibly am not George Clooney’s double after all. George is way uglier. Going live with this at pretty close to midnight UK time.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Top