Thanks
@chap - I read your string earlier today. You’re 40 years younger than me so I am not certain if what I can say translates directly. But the mantra I have been on about (and bored certain people senseless no doubt) is that I couldn’t just keep on doing roughly the same things and expect to get better. So for me porn had to just go…cold turkey on that. Very difficult, but essential. Then I realised that MO had to be changed or I was just paying lip service to the concept of recovery. If you stop watching porn but keep the neural pathways open by MO to fantasy then you’re very slightly asking for trouble. People don’t like hearing this, but honestly (at least for me) it makes total sense. In recovery I MO’d about once a month which was SO different a lifestyle change, and that change was the critical one.
My penis is thicker and slightly longer. The morning glories are magnificent. Everything you hope for comes true. You pay a high price because you bite your knuckles off in frustration but when the results come through you know it’s the pathway. I am a real man now.
Possibly easier for a 62 year old than a 22 year old, but I reckon it’s still the way. Read all the stuff on Your Brain on Porn and the legendary Dr Gary Wilson (now sadly RIP), and learn what we’ve done to our brains. There’s a wonderful TedTalk on YouTube called The Great Porn Experiment, about 15 minutes long. Watch and learn and realise you’re not alone, you’re not a freak, and we can recover from this shit.
And good luck. Keep posting. You inspire me.