Another story - probably the same as everyone else

GBS

Respected Member
Thanks @DIMA-NBA - loving your string right now. Flows well.

1,030 days sober
6 days no MO

Wife today said she wanted to talk about intimacy then, because the two boys were around, didn’t. Not worried and desperately trying not to get too optimistic. My fella thinks I should get carried away as he’s almost on permanent 24 hour readiness. Like he has the fire equipment on and could strart up the fire engine within 20 seconds of getting the call. I am stretching the analogy whilst I fail not to get carried away !
 

GBS

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1,038 days sober
14 days no MO

Made the big mistake of asking my wife why she never wanted to discuss things in detail. Let me skip to the end….I am now the owner of a brand new arsehole.

Ah well….been here before. Trick is not to use this downer as a reason to MO. I have every excuse plus I am on 14 days…..we shall see.
 

joepanic

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1,038 days sober
14 days no MO

Made the big mistake of asking my wife why she never wanted to discuss things in detail. Let me skip to the end….I am now the owner of a brand new arsehole.

Ah well….been here before. Trick is not to use this downer as a reason to MO. I have every excuse plus I am on 14 days…..we shall see.
Last time my wife tried to tear me a new arsehole over discussing something I felt needed to be discussed I went out the door with a pillow and a blanket saying I would rather sleep in the car than live with someone who was not interested in how I felt about something that needed to be discussed..... Needles to say she never tried that one again
 

joepanic

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1,041 days sober
1 day no MO

Well thanks for trying to help, @joepanic , but I don’t think I will try what you suggest. I am 62 not a petulant teenager!
Age shouldn't really matter I will be 54 in a few weeks and who is the Petulant Teenager? Relationships work best when there is open communication. I remember this being key to a reboot in the eyes of one or 2 partners here at RN. perhaps it is not as important as they say. There is no way I would ever stay in a relationship without it.
 

NYC

Member
I did feel that the open communication helped my soul, my healing, like releaseing the demons from within. Its like trapped gas, uncomfortable until released, and while maybe embarassing when released, it is a big relief.
 

GBS

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1,042 days sober
2 days no MO

My reference to a petulant teenager is what I think I would be if I threatened to sleep in the car. That’s all. I do have some good communication just not on the most important subject.
 

GBS

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1,046 days sober
6 days no MO

Things really very good (if unexpectedly) at hone. Argument of a week ago now seemingly long gone. New challenge has presented itself - someone in a community activity I run has way overstepped the mark. So the need for a measured but appropriate approach and resolution is require. I am much calmer and respectful these days so I am the right person to do it. Wife is being phenomenal in her support although she almost gets over involved when there are emotions in play (which there most definitely are). It creates a good atmosphere for togetherness and means I ge overexcited at the prospect of more
 
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