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Tryinghere

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Hey all. I figured it’s time for me to finally post my “success” story. My full story is in my journal “Up and Down PIED” if you’re interested.

I started my reboot in September 20, 2021 so I’ll be coming up on 8 months pretty soon
2 relapses during that time and 1 lesson learned about avoiding Instagram.

8 months ago I could not have sex even with viagra. I was depressed and felt like shit. My wife didn’t know what was wrong and my marriage was feeling the effects. Shit, I wasn’t even sure porn was the problem. I was just out of things to try.

today - I can have sex. I still use viagra occassionally as the mental beating I took has done a number on my confidence. But I’m happier now than I’ve ever been. Not only are we having sex fairly regularly, we’ve both been eating healthy and exercising. I weigh less (168lbs) than I did 25 years ago. Thanks m more motivated, have more energy, I’m more productive.

Guys this is the best I’ve been……ever. I didn’t know how bad I felt until I started feeling good. There are some of you on this forum who have been a huge help. You know who you are.

a few tips for guys just starting:

1 - flatline is the devil. It sucks. Know about it. Be prepared for it and know that it’s temporary.
2 - eat right and exercise. This is huge
3 - find a daily practice of some kind. For me it was meditation, then later guitar playing. Idc what it is. Just find something you used to do, or always wanted to do and start doing it every day.
4 - jerking off is ok (depending on your goals). I’ve found that masturbation to sensation or thoughts of past lived experiences has not had any negative effects on erection quality.
5 - talk to someone about your situation (feel free to message me on here if you need to)
6 - just keep going. There will be plenty of times things are awful and you’re questioning whether it’ll be worth it. It IS worth is. You WILL get better.
It’s taken me 41 years to find this level of happiness and contentment. It’s not ALL because I stopped watching porn, but I never would be here today if porn was still a part of my life. One of the top 5 best decisions I’ve ever made.
 
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Dude09

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Congratulations. Happy to hear about your success. I also started my reboot in Oct 2021 and have seen improvements but still need to get better mainly with maintaining erection. This forum has definitely been really helpful.
 
So Glad to hear about your success I wish you nothing but peace, happiness and success

It is your success but you have no idea how much motivation and hope it gives me for my future.

Hope to recover soon
 

Tryinghere

Active Member
One question: did you do hard mode in last 8 months? If yes then for how long?
Hey. I did not do hardmode for the whole time. Mostly used it as a tool to help get out of flatline. I went for about a month....little longer. The thing that really helped with erection was avoiding orgasm while being sexual with my wife. We would fuck around, but I wasn't allowed to cum. That helped immensely
 

Gardenzio

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Congrats for your improvements and thanks for sharing your tips.

The more I read here, the more I understand it's better to be away from Instagram. Even tough it can be a good tool in some contexts, I would say for us rebooters we do better avoiding it.

Wish the best for you. Take care.
 

Tryinghere

Active Member
Congrats for your improvements and thanks for sharing your tips.

The more I read here, the more I understand it's better to be away from Instagram. Even tough it can be a good tool in some contexts, I would say for us rebooters we do better avoiding it.

Wish the best for you. Take care.
I had to get rid of it as well
 
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This success story gives me hope. I have no partner. The last time I was successfully intimate, was in January when a girl came over. It wasn't as good as I thought Id be. A couple weeks ago I had a failed attempt. That caused me to spiral quite a bit.

I'm 34 and considered getting cialis to help me. But in the meantime I am praying at 24 days.
 

Tryinghere

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Just stick with it. I do still use viagra sometime. I also failed to get an erection just a week ago. This is a long and bullshit process. It sucks. This morning, we had the best sex we’ve had in a very long time. There are ups and downs. You just have to roll with it and try to keep a good mindset. Stay active, live clean and healthy. Y’all are doing great
 
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Just stick with it. I do still use viagra sometime. I also failed to get an erection just a week ago. This is a long and bullshit process. It sucks. This morning, we had the best sex we’ve had in a very long time. There are ups and downs. You just have to roll with it and try to keep a good mindset. Stay active, live clean and healthy. Y’all are doing great
Have you ever had your testosterone checked?
 

Tryinghere

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Have you ever had your testosterone checked?
Yeah. I did that at the beginning. Before I even knew it was porn that broke me.
Seriously. When my shit first stopped working, I didn’t think porn was bad. My wife didn’t thing porn was bad. She knew I watched. I w add 39/40 at the time with high blood pressure. I figured that was it. Nope. Testosterone was good. I had a thought in the back of my head that it might be porn. Then one day, I couldn’t get it up even with viagra. That’s when I knew what it was. I quit porn then. The first several months were terrible. Since then it’s been a steady climb. Getting better every day. No, my dick doesn’t always work still, but I’m a million times better now than I was back in September.

how long have you been rebooting?
 
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Yeah. I did that at the beginning. Before I even knew it was porn that broke me.
Seriously. When my shit first stopped working, I didn’t think porn was bad. My wife didn’t thing porn was bad. She knew I watched. I w add 39/40 at the time with high blood pressure. I figured that was it. Nope. Testosterone was good. I had a thought in the back of my head that it might be porn. Then one day, I couldn’t get it up even with viagra. That’s when I knew what it was. I quit porn then. The first several months were terrible. Since then it’s been a steady climb. Getting better every day. No, my dick doesn’t always work still, but I’m a million times better now than I was back in September.

how long have you been rebooting?
Well, I have been trying for quite sometime - several years but the longest I ever went was 35 days.

I just am nervous because I have no morning wood and when I talk to women I feel nothing. Like I face-timed with this girl tonight and I felt nothing. It adds to my anxiety. Especially the first time now. Like I just get nervous for sex but the last time it worked well with a woman was in the morning.
 

Tryinghere

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Well, I have been trying for quite sometime - several years but the longest I ever went was 35 days.

I just am nervous because I have no morning wood and when I talk to women I feel nothing. Like I face-timed with this girl tonight and I felt nothing. It adds to my anxiety. Especially the first time now. Like I just get nervous for sex but the last time it worked well with a woman was in the morning.
I hear you. The anxiety is the worst part honestly. Sex should be fun, not panic inducing. I’m learning right now actually, that it’s the anxiety that is taking the longest to heal. It’s brutal. I’m sure it will fade though. Everything else has.

The no morning wood thing. The feeling nothing thing. Those are just some symptoms of withdrawal. It gets worse….at least it did for me. I hate to say that but…..it is what it is. There was a point in time when I thought I would never get hard again. I think I went almost a month with zero feeling in my dick at all. There was a point where I thought I had become asexual. I had zero desire for women, men, masturbation, porn, whatever. Cold showers helped a lot during this time. At the very least It would get me out the door in the morning. I also started a daily meditation practice around that time. It helped.

honestly the trick is to just keep going. 35 days is a great start, but it’s only the first step. I’d be willing to bet that if you made it to 120 days you would see some real differences. I know is seems like a long fucking time. But all you have to do is another 35 days twice and you’re almost there. Besides, what’s even the point in using porn? Literally the only thing porn has ever done for you is break your dick and put you on a forum talking to other dudes who also broke their dicks. Point is, why go back? A quick dopamine hit. That’s what you’re doing. If you know that, and recognize it. It’s easier to avoid it. I apologize if I sound like a dick. It’s not my intention.

I’ve learned a lot during my reboot. There are plenty of tips I could give. Just private message me and we’ll talk. But when you boil it all down, just don’t watch porn and you’ll get better…….slowly. So fucking slowly. You can masturbate without porn (I’d recommend avoiding orgasm all together for at least a little while though), but don’t masturbate with a screen.

good luck dude. Let me know if I can help.
 

Gardenzio

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Well, I have been trying for quite sometime - several years but the longest I ever went was 35 days.

I just am nervous because I have no morning wood and when I talk to women I feel nothing. Like I face-timed with this girl tonight and I felt nothing. It adds to my anxiety. Especially the first time now. Like I just get nervous for sex but the last time it worked well with a woman was in the morning.

Hi bro. You know, in the past I was very anxious with unknown girls. When I was really dove in a porn life, around 2016's, I really felt a huge social anxiety, and I didn't figure out a reason for it. Then I understood my porn routines caused to me too much social anxiety, and when I concluded my first 90 days journey (it was around beggining 2017's) free from porn, I felt a huge improvement in my social anxiety, but still anxious in facing girls...

I then realized problably my social anxiety with girls was due to my life routine. I spent most of my hours at home, I did not have good numbers of hobbies, socialization or relationships with different people/girls, and was probably obvious I would have social anxiety with girls due to my lifestile.

Do you know what improved too much this social anxiety? Dance classes. hahah In the beggining (2018), when I needed to face the shyness, it was a bit unconfortable for me, but when I felt I was improving a lot as dancing abilities as social abilities, I decided I should never stop attending dance classes 'till I really felt confident with myself. I did 6 months of dance classes, then I stopped to do an exchange (which also improved way way much more my social abilities and lowered my social anxiety in general), and turned back to dancing in this 2022's.

That's the best thing I did to myself in terms of social abilities... Today I really almost don't know what is social anxiety. I feel more sociable, more friendly, and I would say with 95% sureness it was due to the dancing classes I attended.

Consider doing something you like and something that can insert you in situations where you can face your dilemmas and improve yourself.

All the best.
 
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Tryinghere

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Hi bro. You know, in the past I was very anxious with unknown girls. When I was really dove in a porn life, around 2016's, I really felt a huge social anxiety, and I didn't figure out a reason for it. Then I understood my porn routines caused to me too much social anxiety, and when I concluded my first 90 days journey (it was around beggining 2017's) free from porn, I felt a huge improvement in my social anxiety, but still anxious in facing girls...

I then realized problably my social anxiety with girls was due to my life routine. I spent most of my hours at home, I did not have good numbers of hobbies, socialization or relationships with different people/girls, and was probably obvious I would have social anxiety with girls due to my lifestile.

Do you know what improved too much this social anxiety? Dance classes. hahah In the beggining (2018), when I needed to face the shyness, it was a bit unconfortable for me, but when I felt I was improving a lot as dancing abilities as social abilities, I decided I should never stop doing dancing classes 'till I really felt confident with myself. I did 6 months of dance classes, then I stopped to do an exchange (which also improved way way much more my social abilities and lowered my social anxiety in general), and turned back to dancing in this 2022's.

That's the best thing I did to myself in terms of social abilities... Today I really almost don't know what is social anxiety. I feel more sociable, more friendly, and I would say with 95% sureness it was due to the dancing classes I attended.

Consider doing something you like and something that can insert you in situations where you can face your dilemmas and improve yourself.

All the best.
This man speaks the truth
 
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