Tubalcaine
New Member
First of all english is not my native language so expect some mistakes.
I've diagnosed myself with PIED a week ago even if i probably got it way longer.
in a few month i got an appointment with an andrologist to check for physical problems but i'm pretty sure its in my head since i did all the test recommended here.
the thing is i never new that i got PIED for probably 4 years because my wife is asexual or has no desire for sex however you call it.
we are together for 10 years now and are married for 3 years, she is lovely and pure hearted but absolutly prudish.
for the first 5 years everything went fine, but whenever i got the desire i had to convince her, talk to her into it for hours, create the mood, just to be "headached" a lot(1-2 times a year i was successfull).
she never did the first step. anyway, at some time i came to the point that i had to decide to quit this or live with her the rest of my life, so i married her and to not "disturb" her with my desires i decided to go fulltime solo whenever i had the need to.
but now she want kids ... and i though we'll just continue where we stopped around 5 years ago just with more participation on her end but i couldnt get it hard.
for the first few month i just though "im not in mood that can happen, it worked perfecly fine the last few years just with myself".
but as i said, a week ago i came to the conclusion that may be not the case but my exessive consumption of P with MO (nothing wierd, just much, at least 1 times a day, 5 times at max when i had the time, sometimes for hours just out of boredom but allway with P.
Since i read a few of the recovery storys and how hard it seems to be i dont know how to motivate myself to go through the same.
i could do this for her to have kids but then i'm afraid that i come to the same point where it all begun.
to beg for the rest of my life to get lucky every few month or to quit sex for the rest of my life, she cant change, we talked about this a lot.
it probably wont become better with kids.
i play games a lot, and on my spare time i'm one some imageboards for memes mainly, these are my main hobbys since i can think and in both activities its hard to avoid every P. i tried to avoid everything P related for one week now and its not possible, so i would have to change my whole life forever for ... a not very fulfilling future since i dont want to leave or betray my wife.
I've diagnosed myself with PIED a week ago even if i probably got it way longer.
in a few month i got an appointment with an andrologist to check for physical problems but i'm pretty sure its in my head since i did all the test recommended here.
the thing is i never new that i got PIED for probably 4 years because my wife is asexual or has no desire for sex however you call it.
we are together for 10 years now and are married for 3 years, she is lovely and pure hearted but absolutly prudish.
for the first 5 years everything went fine, but whenever i got the desire i had to convince her, talk to her into it for hours, create the mood, just to be "headached" a lot(1-2 times a year i was successfull).
she never did the first step. anyway, at some time i came to the point that i had to decide to quit this or live with her the rest of my life, so i married her and to not "disturb" her with my desires i decided to go fulltime solo whenever i had the need to.
but now she want kids ... and i though we'll just continue where we stopped around 5 years ago just with more participation on her end but i couldnt get it hard.
for the first few month i just though "im not in mood that can happen, it worked perfecly fine the last few years just with myself".
but as i said, a week ago i came to the conclusion that may be not the case but my exessive consumption of P with MO (nothing wierd, just much, at least 1 times a day, 5 times at max when i had the time, sometimes for hours just out of boredom but allway with P.
Since i read a few of the recovery storys and how hard it seems to be i dont know how to motivate myself to go through the same.
i could do this for her to have kids but then i'm afraid that i come to the same point where it all begun.
to beg for the rest of my life to get lucky every few month or to quit sex for the rest of my life, she cant change, we talked about this a lot.
it probably wont become better with kids.
i play games a lot, and on my spare time i'm one some imageboards for memes mainly, these are my main hobbys since i can think and in both activities its hard to avoid every P. i tried to avoid everything P related for one week now and its not possible, so i would have to change my whole life forever for ... a not very fulfilling future since i dont want to leave or betray my wife.