Finally sick and tired of being sick and tired

Blondie

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Sorry to hear that Freedom. All we can do is get back up and keep on moving!

Last night was the most pathetic pmo relapse I've ever had. It's definitely a good thing to motivate me.
I definitely know what you mean when you say that. When you've been away for a while, going back does not have the same "pleasure" as it use to, which is actually a great sign of improvement!

You're going to kick this habit, I know it.

Remember, you're not starting at zero.

Best
 
Today was so much better. The last 2 days I was groggy and just wanted to hide. I did binge Monday, I'm not proud of that. But it happened. After that, I vowed that I am now done with pmo forever. Today I felt a bit more energy. I'm not as tired as I was yesterday and Monday. I was able to get on purpose today and help some of my friends and encourage them. Connection really seems to help me with urges. It's that lack of love and Connection that I feel like drove me to the screen in the first place. Grief and loss of love and connection. I feel like if I can find love and connection daily, and stay on my purpose that it will make this journey so much easier for me. I just need to stop being so impulsive. I was doing well with putting spaces in front of my urges and figuring out why I was having them. Until Early Monday morning. I couldn't sleep and was bored. Instead of doing something to solve the boredom, I went to pmo. It's like @Ezel told me, we all have the choice to relapse or to fill that need with healthy actions and choices that will help us and not leave us feeling empty and depressed. Feeling better about this reboot, then any of the other attempts I've made. I wanna hit a year on hard mode. Only 363 more days to go.
 
I made this earlier. Gonna give it all I have this time.

Urge checklist

Short term goal - 150 days

Long term goal - 1 year

If I get an urge I will: Not impulsively give into the desire. Instead, I will put a space in between my urge and my response. During that time, I will try to figure out why I'm having an urge. I will go inside my mind and see what I'm really feeling. Maybe I'm trying to escape an uncomfortable feeling or emotion. Maybe I'm in need of connection, purpse or a relief from boredom, anxiety or stress. Going to the source of my thoughts and needs instead of acting on an impulse to run to pleasure will help me narrow down what I actually am trying to get and fulfill with porn.

If I need (insert need here) I will.

Connection/love - Text a friend and check on them. Encourage them and see if they need anything. Talk to family.

Purpose - Encourage friends, go on the forum and encourage others struggling with the same thing I am.

A relief for stress/anxiety - Take some deep breaths. Calm myself down and see what is stressing me out or giving me anxiety. Go outside and give myself some time. Go through what has me stressed and anxious and see how I can make it better if it's possible to fix.

Boredom - Go on the forum, text friends and connect, get on my purpose, listen to music, read.
 
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I made this earlier. Gonna give it all I have this time.

Urge checklist

Short term goal - 150 days

Long term goal - 6 months - 1 year

If I get an urge I will: Not impulsively give into the desire. Instead, I will put a space in between my urge and my response. During that time, I will try to figure out why I'm having an urge. I will go inside my mind and see what I'm really feeling. Maybe I'm trying to escape an uncomfortable feeling or emotion. Maybe I'm in need of connection, purpse or a relief from boredom, anxiety or stress. Going to the source of my thoughts and needs instead of acting on an impulse to run to pleasure will help me narrow down what I actually am trying to get and fulfill with porn.

If I need (insert need here) I will.

Connection/love - Text a friend and check on them. Encourage them and see if they need anything. Talk to family.

Purpose - Encourage friends, go on the forum and encourage others struggling with the same thing I am.

A relief for stress/anxiety - Take some deep breaths. Calm myself down and see what is stressing me out or giving me anxiety. Go outside and give myself some time. Go through what has me stressed and anxious and see how I can make it better if it's possible to fix.

Boredom - Go on the forum, text friends and connect, get on my purpose, listen to music, read.
Weldone Man! But I noticed there isn’t much gap between your Short and Long term goals just a Month difference, but it’s all up to what you feel you can. This is definitely a right mind send. Stay Strong, and I advise you to spend more time outdoors than indoors, also minimise your use of phone, pc, tv or any other thing that you can potentially access porn. You’ve got this!
 
Weldone Man! But I noticed there isn’t much gap between your Short and Long term goals just a Month difference, but it’s all up to what you feel you can. This is definitely a right mind send. Stay Strong, and I advise you to spend more time outdoors than indoors, also minimise your use of phone, pc, tv or any other thing that you can potentially access porn. You’ve got this!
Didn't even think about that!! I'll definitely look it over and maybe stretch that goal!
 
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