What benefits have you felt and experienced so far?As long as you are trying, you are good. I am now day 48day with no Porn, but I know that I can't let my guard down. I watched a movie yesterday night. It was a 16+ movie but had many nude scenes. There was no urge or any emotion and it gave me a feeling of control. My mind is telling me that you are now strong and can safely watch such movies. Well I know from past that it is not true. This is an invitation to relapses. So I come here and write about it. Writing helps me to clear my thoughts and understand my actual situation and not get carried away by mind. So friend, come and write about your feeling when you get an urge. You can clear your mind and overcome the urge. So try writing here, when you get urge.
The most significant benefit is not living with guilt and shame as it felt like not being loyal to my wife and kids. I always dreaded getting caught in the act by my wife or even worse the kids. Even then I could not stop it. It is a miracle they have not caught me. My wife might be knowing and pretending to not know. I don't know, I have not tried to find out. To me other benefits are insignificant. It just did not feel so great after the act, but I just kept going there. Having good control over my actions is a great feeling and knowing that I am doing it with great effort makes me feel stronger. I think my teenage son is also getting trapped in this. How can I guide him when I am also guilty?What benefits have you felt and experienced so far?
Appreciate you always, pal.This is good @FreedomFromTheStruggle_11.
I recognize many of these same patters in myself. I too have lost "friends" etc. over the years, wondering what I did wrong, or why they ghosted me. Over the years I turned to porn to "Fix" my sadness over this matter, and yet it never did anything but make me feel worse.
Dig deep within yourself, that is the path to healing.
Good stuff here, you might have "relapsed" but you discovered something about yourself in the process and thus can grow from it.
Best to you.
I don't think you have to try MO to judge yourself. MO is also not natural and ok not to get hard with only touch after an age. It is natural, but you might be able to do it if you make it a habit but still bad as PMO. So stay away from it like PMO. You may feel that you are loosing your sex drive and ability, but ability will come back automatically. No need to train for it.Day 3 or 4 of no porn. Day 1 of hard mode. Last night I decided to try MO without porn. I could only get hard by thinking about a girl I used to find attractive, but not by touch alone. It told me that I need to keep rebooting and obviously it's way too early for any huge improvements. Especially since i keep relapsing. It also told me that I'm too hard on myself when it comes to hard mode. Starting out, I wanted hard mode all the way, but continued to fail. Testing myself last night gave me really good information and told me that I need to buckle down, keep working on my struggles and reboot. Sometimes Testing is a good and positive thing in this journey. So I apologize to myself for being a jerk. Lol. Also, I got through some pretty nasty urges to watch porn last night. I wanted it, but I want to quit so much more. So I didn't give in. I told the urges to bring it on this time. Really feel like I'm growing with all of this and it will all give me the success that i have wanted for so long.
I know what you're feeling freedom, it's like a curse to us, i thought of it the same way. But it's a curse worth breaking. Like you just said you are worth it. Man, if i could just go back in time to the first nude i ever saw, to tell myself what's coming and to give him a glimpse on the future. But we all know that's not possible. The only moment we got is right here and right now that's it. I'm sure you can make it count. You went 100 days once, you can do it again, and one day you will keep going past that and leave all that behind you.Late last night, I had another relapse. It was my rock bottom. The rock bottom of rock bottoms. It was my 2nd relapse in 3 days and all of my relapses are getting closer and closer together. I wasn't kind to myself, my body or my brain last night. My body didn't want what the addicted part of my brain wanted, but I did it anyway. It wasn't satisfying at all. In fact, it felt absolutely numb. Like I was on autopilot. Then it hit me, I haven't felt genuine pleasure in a long time in anything. And if I don't quit, I'll just continue to feel more numb and I'll eventually end up with pied. Mentally, physically and emotionally I can't do this anymore. For my own sake. I finally can see what this stuff can do to me. I'm worth stopping for. I've always wanted to stop for others, because I never felt worth it enough to quit for me. But now I do. I'm worth it. I don't wanna feel numb anymore. I'm ready for whatever these next few months have in store for me. I'm not gonna make anymore promises, I'm just gonna see what tomorrow brings. I know I can do this.