Good luck! Men often report that they feel more attractive to women when they slow down masturbation. They also feel more attracted to women, of course. Happy hunting!Day 362 -- Definitely feeling some porn like urges, these are not natural urges. I can clearly tell. Definitely not strong urges (that's the benefit of being nearly 1yr porn free!) but I can tell there's the 'addict' brain trying to get me to masturbate. The reason why I think is that I've been overdoing MO
I've decided officially, I'm going to do 90 days no MO starting on my 1yr anniversary. It's the next step in my healing. Shoutout to @Blondie for persistently mentioning it (finally got through my thick skull) that the best thing for me is no MO at all for a big stretch. I've never done 90 days no MO despite staying off porn for nearly a year.
I'm going to take that 90 day period to churn that motivation / extra semen energy into a couple big parts of my life including 1) exercise and 2) long, self reflection (including journaling) -- I guess it's not unlike a form of therapy really. The common thread / main goal is to improve myself holistically during that period because I really do want to start dating again in a real way. I want to be a man I can really be proud of. I'm happy to have gotten this far in the reboot but I realize I need to kick this mother up a notch and take it to the next level
Porn is a problem no doubt, but it's opened the pathway for me to solve the other things I'm not quite happy with in my life. This is a God-given opportunity for me to really, really self improve. I'm starting to get hyped for this process
Haha you read me too well. Yeah I might once more before the 1yr, but that's it. Thank you sirSounds like a good idea and that you've had a breakthrough in your thinking.
Be careful not to overdo things before the one year anniversary though! There's always a tendency to try to squeeze as much as possible in before we start abstaining.
Absolutely man. Slowly I feel like I've been going the opposite direction, so now I know to course correct!Good luck! Men often report that they feel more attractive to women when they slow down masturbation. They also feel more attracted to women, of course. Happy hunting!
Thank you my man. Really just a big breakthrough / realization, the urges didn't feel natural. As I was driving home from work, several times I noticed the urge (not natural) to go masturbate. Wasn't super strong but could certainly feel it pushing me to do it vs. it happening more naturally. I think these little signs indicated it's the porn pathways rather than the natural urge, which also really explains the arousal levels not being as high as they should be. I think I've done some damage here in past few months as I haven't used porn or even looked up sexual images even, but did read a ton of random stuff on reddit that was sexual and I realize now I reactivated some of those pathways. It felt subtle at the time but now I shake my head.
You got this brother, no worries. It's all about being keeping it real at the end of the day.I know I have been posting some kind of sad stuff on here for the past few weeks, I can't tell you how grateful I am to multiple folks that have born with me through it all
Love you man, your unwavering support has been absolutely priceless. I'm incredibly grateful to be on this journey with you, and looking forward to joining you in the 1+yr club!You got this brother, no worries. It's all about being keeping it real at the end of the day.