Blondie
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Love it!Diamond hard boner this morning
I'm glad to hear you're getting back into the gym. Nice. Keep killing it man.
Love it!Diamond hard boner this morning
Haha yeah this one was odd, I don't really even know if I've had an erection this hard for such a sustained period of time. Can't complain hahaLove it!
I'm glad to hear you're getting back into the gym. Nice. Keep killing it man.
Thank you my man! Seeing the girlfriend tomorrow so I'm pretty content with that hahaTwo more days brother. Two more days!
Fuck ya! Any plans to celebrate?
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This makes me so happy, @First_step_thousand_miles. You've put in much work so you definitely deserve it. It's great to hear that the lady and you are doing well. That is what this is all about. Getting right with women and our relationships with them.I guess the main thing that makes me feel good these days is PROGRESS. Being with a girl I really like and continuing to make progress on no porn, gym, and just enjoying life (reading books, talking with friends, etc). I feel like I haven't been in such a properly good state in a while. It's not perfect but it's better today than it was a year ago or even two years ago in many ways. Life feels....exciting again. And that's a beautiful feeling
My pleasure, it's been quite the ride doing this together, and an honor!You are my Day 1 man, thanks for sticking with me through all my turmoil. How's life with you my man?
First of all, congratulations passing over the threshold of 900 days. Fucking awesome my man! Secondly, good job staying strong throughout temptations.Crossed 900 days. Honestly had some urges past few days but it's related to a trigger point -- as I mentioned early on in my journey, one of the categories I used to MO to was animated crap. These days I obviously don't look at any porn but I do watch anime and read some manhwa (Korean version of manga basically)
Yes, this sounds to be problematic, especially if it's really becoming tempting. It's good that it's lower on the rector scale than it was before, but if you're feeling it's becoming an issue, than yeah, give it the boot for now, or maybe forever. I think this is one of those things that is a real gray area and different for all of us. We all know porn is not an option, and that's a real clean distinct line to draw, but where do we draw the line for other activities? What may be good for one man will not be good for another. Or even, what's not good right now might be okay within a year from now, but you need to listen to yourself and be honest and ask, is this really helping me or not? Do what you have to do. It's fucking disgusting that there are so many ads for porn on sites like that. What the hell? Any way, good job.On manga -- this is the problem. For some reason, this triggers my brain. Still like 2-3 out of 10 compared to when I started (when urges were >7 out of 10) which speaks to how far I've come but also in a way feels like it's a 'gateway' drug back into porn. Other issue is on any such regular manga site, there's all these adds for porn! Wtf even a normal story now is gonna mean you're bombarded by at least softcore porn. Which means there's only one conclusion -- I just have to stop reading it. So that's my resolution
This is nice. Yes, I still have FB but I hardly use it these days, and it's been that way for a few years now. I just don't see the point, and often it made me feel "bad" about life and about what "other people" were doing. Who knows, maybe as my life gets better and more defined I won't care so much, but it was a time suck too, and I don't really see any point in going back, besides just checking in once in a while.Double post today but as I was making this important resolution, I figured I'd bundle them together at once. I just deleted FB app from my phone and logged out on web browser. Realized I was wasting time on it, often found content that kind of upset made / made me less satisfied with my life / etc. I didn't delete my account itself in case there are uses for it in the next few years, I'm only 28 right now. There are still -- once in a very blue moon -- social events that people still plan with it, or it can be used to find events for activities one is interested in. But I am planning on deleting it entirely in the next 3-5yrs.
I guess you could just not use your phone unless you're actually using it as a phone. Or, read a book on there that's uplifting and educational. Podcasts are also a great idea. You could also start playing games, but that just seems to be another time suck, or at least it is for me. Of course, there's nothing wrong with a time suck here and there, just as long as it's purposeful and not accidental and takes hours of your day when you weren't meaning for it to.I also have this habit of reading the news on my phone when I'm bored, esp. if there isn't social media to scroll through. I guess the next thing is finding replacement activities on my phone if I'm not going to 1) use social media or 2) read the news. Any ideas?
This makes me so happy, @First_step_thousand_miles. You've put in much work so you definitely deserve it. It's great to hear that the lady and you are doing well. That is what this is all about. Getting right with women and our relationships with them.
Truly an honor man, feels like we're in the trenches of WW1 -- seeing your fight gave me so much motivation for my own. I hope in some small way I contributed to your journey as wellMy pleasure, it's been quite the ride doing this together, and an honor!
I'm doing well these days. I've been pretty busy with life, so I'm not spending so much time here, which I think is a good thing. I'm still working out, losing weight, and working on these new career goals I've been changing up over the summer. Life is good. Many changes going on but that's a good thing.
It was hard brother, but I feel like I'm past the bulk of the painful period. Temptations these days are minimal without triggers (like the manga I mentioned earlier), and I just avoid triggers. Life is goodFirst of all, congratulations passing over the threshold of 900 days. Fucking awesome my man! Secondly, good job staying strong throughout temptations.
Yeah a lot of wisdom here -- you bring up a great point that sometimes somethings can be give a boot for some time, and can later be ok. Others maybe you just permanently give up. I think manga is one of those things for me I'll just give up. Because if I'm nearly 2.5yrs into my reboot and that's giving me temptations (in a way that even a semi nude woman in a regular movie sex scene doesn't) that means it's better to just kick it out of my life. And with the gf, working out, and reading books I don't have as much time for it anyway (which will only become harder as I get older anyway). So there isn't enough of a good reason to keep it around. You're right, it's not helping and it's not meaningfully lifting my quality of life even without the negatives either. I'll miss it a bit but it's not all-important. Just sad how much softcore-type porn has infiltrated our lives in such a wayYes, this sounds to be problematic, especially if it's really becoming tempting. It's good that it's lower on the rector scale than it was before, but if you're feeling it's becoming an issue, than yeah, give it the boot for now, or maybe forever. I think this is one of those things that is a real gray area and different for all of us. We all know porn is not an option, and that's a real clean distinct line to draw, but where do we draw the line for other activities? What may be good for one man will not be good for another. Or even, what's not good right now might be okay within a year from now, but you need to listen to yourself and be honest and ask, is this really helping me or not? Do what you have to do. It's fucking disgusting that there are so many ads for porn on sites like that. What the hell? Any way, good job.
This is nice. Yes, I still have FB but I hardly use it these days, and it's been that way for a few years now. I just don't see the point, and often it made me feel "bad" about life and about what "other people" were doing. Who knows, maybe as my life gets better and more defined I won't care so much, but it was a time suck too, and I don't really see any point in going back, besides just checking in once in a while.
Yeah that's solid, maybe more podcasts and books. Both of those seem good, as well as just mental wandering which we used to do pre smartphone.I guess you could just not use your phone unless you're actually using it as a phone. Or, read a book on there that's uplifting and educational. Podcasts are also a great idea. You could also start playing games, but that just seems to be another time suck, or at least it is for me. Of course, there's nothing wrong with a time suck here and there, just as long as it's purposeful and not accidental and takes hours of your day when you weren't meaning for it to.
Either way man, you're killing it man. It's been a pleasure doing this journey with you.
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Yes INDEED! Love this.my god, I haven't been this close to content in YEARS. It's incredible, all the porn in the world could never fill this hole in my heart
It truly does feel like we are in the trenches together, the trenches of a postmodern hellhole! You definitely have contributed much to my journey as well my friend. Thank you.Truly an honor man, feels like we're in the trenches of WW1 -- seeing your fight gave me so much motivation for my own. I hope in some small way I contributed to your journey as well
Since I've been out of university, I've had no access to a gym so far, thus I've been relegated to doing workouts at home. Thus, I've been doing squats, pushups, and body movements etc., which I've really come to enjoy. Also, I'm hiking everyday which has been fantastic for my mental health as well. The greatest part is that I've just been consistent with this part of my life, also with my eating habits, so I've been consistently losing weight, body fat, too, almost to 19%.What split are you following?
I love how you're willing to give up something that seems to be a constant pain in the ass, thus, thinking long term about the true benefits of being porn free.I think manga is one of those things for me I'll just give up. Because if I'm nearly 2.5yrs into my reboot and that's giving me temptations (in a way that even a semi nude woman in a regular movie sex scene doesn't) that means it's better to just kick it out of my life.
Yeah each generation fights a different battle I guess! Except the boomers, they truly were blessed hahaYes INDEED! Love this.
It truly does feel like we are in the trenches together, the trenches of a postmodern hellhole! You definitely have contributed much to my journey as well my friend. Thank you.
All good man, I love the hiking! Getting out in nature and exercise together is like a holy grail for mental and physical health. Gotta do what you enjoy. Frankly, I was getting a bit tired of lifting 3x weekly mentally speaking too so it's a good change. Did some cardio this morning listening to a podcast and it was awesome! Sounds like you're doing it right with a healthy mix of cardio and weights. Look into band training if you're at home, it's a great way to resistance train at home with more consideration for your jointsSince I've been out of university, I've had no access to a gym so far, thus I've been relegated to doing workouts at home. Thus, I've been doing squats, pushups, and body movements etc., which I've really come to enjoy. Also, I'm hiking everyday which has been fantastic for my mental health as well. The greatest part is that I've just been consistent with this part of my life, also with my eating habits, so I've been consistently losing weight, body fat, too, almost to 19%.
What you're doing seems to be working, so stay with it. I'm glad you found a way to work around injuries, hopefully twice a week will be better for you.
It's all about the long term future man! Porn itself is a short term solution, long term is to quit and find joy with a partner. Same thing I think for other parts of life. The last 'external' negative in my life is over-reading the news. I have to read some as it relates to my work but I have to get more disciplined on not checking news over the weekend or after work hours.I love how you're willing to give up something that seems to be a constant pain in the ass, thus, thinking long term about the true benefits of being porn free.
Love you man, keep killing it as well!Love it!
Keep killing it man.
Love ya, Blondie