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Day 1007 no porn
Day 1 no MO

It's strange, quitting porn was so darn hard in the early days but in the past 6 months I've hardly thought about the days or the counter. It's just another thing. I think it's a combo of reasons:

1) Being so far away from Day 1. The urges do become smaller and disappear, with wisps that pop up now and again but not enough to drive serious tests of willpower. This is a really great thing and hopefully encouraging for folks who are trying to quit

2) Having a gf. I don't think about porn much anymore since I've got a woman I'm very attracted to in my life now. I still MO sometimes, but I think the frequency is like 2-4x per month. I don't really ever expect it to exceed more than 2x per week on a steady-state basis, maybe 1x per week is the happy medium or maybe it's 2x per month. That probably ebbs and flows, but I don't abuse MO'ing now either

3) Having other stuff & goals. For me, it's the gym (getting fit) and finding a new job. I try to see friends as often as I can, and do more activities out of the house. It just leaves little time for thinking about porn

4) Avoiding triggers. Twitter is just no good for this, I'm never going back. I don't have IG, Snapchat, TikTok and I haven't logged on into Facebook in months. Avoiding the triggers is ungodly important

I do sometimes think, 'oh I wonder what I'll find there [insert something that would lead to porn]' but I just ignore it pretty easily now. I'm sure with the new AI wave there's all kinds of stuff out there, but I also know that it's probably taken what was once heroin and turned it into fentanyl. And I have a feeling it's not good to put fentanyl on your body haha. No, I truly am content leaving whatever new internet concoctions there are to others, though I hope they too wake up one day and quit

I can hardly believe that I quit porn in 2022 and it's now 2025...just amazing. Also a reminder that time really flies and we should enjoy the present as much as possible, maximizing the joy in our lives (which in and of itself implies no porn).
 
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