I like this solution @Sammyjo. I've had to learn to do this myself, even just in normal conversations. Sometimes I get back home and the Lady wants to talk about my day or hers, however, I often just don't feel like talking at the moment, even if nothing is wrong, so I've learned how to say something like that. It seems so simple, but it's something I'm still working on.We spoke at length about this today. Our solution is that when he needs to shut down for a bit he'll say something like "I love you, but I need some space, this is not the end for us", hopefully that will ease my mind while he thinks and I won't go on the attack.
Get to the gym, it really does wonders.Today, my sadness is making me feel like breaking things. Instead I will go to the gym.
Try listening to Limp Bizkit Break Stuuf. I am apologetically music oriented.
Here's LYRICS ONLY song videoI know Victoria's secret
And girl, you wouldn't believe
She's an old man who lives in Ohio
Making money off of girls like me
Cashing in on body issues
Selling skin and bones with big boobs
I know Victoria's secret
She was made up by a dude (dude)
Victoria was made up by a dude (dude)
I guess I'm not sure what you are suggesting here. Could you further explain?I wonder if you might be open to trying a different approach, if you are feeling emotionally safe enough to change the narrative????
A difficult question I had to ask myself was, how I was showing up in the relationship in our time apart and then when coming back together.
I was thinking of something romantic......how would it feel for you to take control and plan something for his return......do you feel emotionally safe enough to reach for him like that?I guess I'm not sure what you are suggesting here. Could you further explain?