Blondie
Respected Member
Stay strong @SimonM.
I know it can get frustrating to be quite a distance from ground zero but yet still be struggling with something so evidently juvenal in our thought patterns. However, 30 years of thought patterns and habits WON'T and CAN'T change on the fly, no matter how much we wish it could. I've seen a pattern here at RN and in my own thoughts, that we often think something good should happen instantly; but that's just us caught up in the same trap of short term thinking which got us here in the first place!
Long term goals take long term planning.
Nothing in life worthwhile can happen in just 90 days, especially something that's been going on for so long. I don't say this to be a downer but to be realistic. I'm almost a year out from ground zero and yet I still find myself sometimes having random flashbacks etc. and wondering where the hell that thought came from? Do they happen less than they use to? Absolutely, however, they still happen. I have to remind myself that I'll never be perfect, but more importantly, I still have a long ways to go and that's okay.
Quitting porn is not a weekend retreat.
Best brother
I know it can get frustrating to be quite a distance from ground zero but yet still be struggling with something so evidently juvenal in our thought patterns. However, 30 years of thought patterns and habits WON'T and CAN'T change on the fly, no matter how much we wish it could. I've seen a pattern here at RN and in my own thoughts, that we often think something good should happen instantly; but that's just us caught up in the same trap of short term thinking which got us here in the first place!
Long term goals take long term planning.
Nothing in life worthwhile can happen in just 90 days, especially something that's been going on for so long. I don't say this to be a downer but to be realistic. I'm almost a year out from ground zero and yet I still find myself sometimes having random flashbacks etc. and wondering where the hell that thought came from? Do they happen less than they use to? Absolutely, however, they still happen. I have to remind myself that I'll never be perfect, but more importantly, I still have a long ways to go and that's okay.
Quitting porn is not a weekend retreat.
Best brother
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