Donewiththis
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Without sounding like you are making excuses for the behaviour? I tried explaining it to someone and I felt like I was just justifying why I do PMO.
"I watched porn all my life and it has now fucked my brain up. So even if I try to quit, something will eventually trigger me to get that urge. Because I messed up my brain so bad, I have a really hard time fighting the urge and usually just give in to it."
I obviously did not explain it exactly like that, but that is definitely how it felt like I was explaining the situation.
The response that I got was that if I really wanted to quit, I would. They quit smoking cold turkey for their spouse before their marriage and never looked back. It's a selfish and defeatist attitude.
I mean I get their point, and it probably is the cold hard truth. I just don't want to sound like "woe is me", nor do I want anyone to pity me. I just want to be able to explain the situation and have the person understand what I'm going through and how hard the journey is going to be for me.
"I watched porn all my life and it has now fucked my brain up. So even if I try to quit, something will eventually trigger me to get that urge. Because I messed up my brain so bad, I have a really hard time fighting the urge and usually just give in to it."
I obviously did not explain it exactly like that, but that is definitely how it felt like I was explaining the situation.
The response that I got was that if I really wanted to quit, I would. They quit smoking cold turkey for their spouse before their marriage and never looked back. It's a selfish and defeatist attitude.
I mean I get their point, and it probably is the cold hard truth. I just don't want to sound like "woe is me", nor do I want anyone to pity me. I just want to be able to explain the situation and have the person understand what I'm going through and how hard the journey is going to be for me.