Broke my 8 day streak…

Efeg1234

New Member
I’m dreading having to tell my fiancé. She’s been so supportive since I told her about my addiction and it hurts to let her down. Maybe it was naive to think I could do this without any relapses.

I know it’s something I want to stop but in the moment I’m able to justify it and convince myself it’s ok to peek then to look for a little bit longer.

New streak starts today. I’ve given her control of a blocking app and added all the websites I go to.

Any tips or support are appreciated.
 

Fappy

Respected Member
your porn-fucked brain will always be able to justify looking at it. it can come up with all sorts of sneaky tricks to get you to give it what it wants. you can expect that it will attempt to do this again in the future. but you can stop it in its tracks before it can take hold of u. by recognizing it for what it is - a trick of the mind - you can eliminate any urge it might bring.
there is no justification for watching porn.
 
As a partner of someone who is currently restarting after 2 weeks - tell her.
My boyfriend wasn’t telling me at the beginning and when I found out he was doing it the whole time that I believed he wasn’t, I felt betrayed - like he had intentionally hidden it from me. He wasn’t, he just didn’t know how much communication we needed.
Just tonight we set up a whole filter on his desktop and phone, blocked Reddit, safe search enabled everything, and set up a DNS filter that monitors the websites he accesses. Everything we can do to put a barrier.
The main thing for us has always been communication — we are long distance and only see each other every 2 weeks. Weekly updates are a must for us. It got better for me as I continue to research and try to understand it. The sting will always be there — why these women and not me? Why a girl with a low cut tank top on YouTube could be triggering? I love this man. Every time he’s relapsed, he’s told me and we’ve added something else to aide in keeping his mind clean. Utilize your tools, and support your partner if you want full support from her. There will be crying and fights and hurt and anger - be patient, kind, reassuring, and loving. You can do it!
 

Efeg1234

New Member
As a partner of someone who is currently restarting after 2 weeks - tell her.
My boyfriend wasn’t telling me at the beginning and when I found out he was doing it the whole time that I believed he wasn’t, I felt betrayed - like he had intentionally hidden it from me. He wasn’t, he just didn’t know how much communication we needed.
Just tonight we set up a whole filter on his desktop and phone, blocked Reddit, safe search enabled everything, and set up a DNS filter that monitors the websites he accesses. Everything we can do to put a barrier.
The main thing for us has always been communication — we are long distance and only see each other every 2 weeks. Weekly updates are a must for us. It got better for me as I continue to research and try to understand it. The sting will always be there — why these women and not me? Why a girl with a low cut tank top on YouTube could be triggering? I love this man. Every time he’s relapsed, he’s told me and we’ve added something else to aide in keeping his mind clean. Utilize your tools, and support your partner if you want full support from her. There will be crying and fights and hurt and anger - be patient, kind, reassuring, and loving. You can do it!
Thank you!
 
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