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anubu0

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No it doesn't count as failing. You stopped the urge! Sure it would have been better if you stopped the urge before you M'd at all but that's not what happened. You were about to be fully consumed but you stopped! Now you identified that you didn't want to M so just work on dismissing the urges before they materialize at all.
 
tghn

tghn

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Thanks for the response Anubu0! This is the first time in 13 days that my mind really did not remain focussed at all. It was like I was dreaming but woke up just in time… this journey will be more difficult than i wanted to believe after all…
 
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Nick Wall

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tghn said:
Day 13 - pffff I failed myself… i did not O but I did M with fantasy. My mind wandered off and I seemed to forget about my goals.. just when I was about to O i quickly went onto the forum.. now I am reading a book. Does this count as failing? This is a wake up call for me, as it all happened so fast
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I'm on day 14 (of a hard-mode reboot) and on day 4 I did just like you, no O but M (with ig pics). I know it may sound like cheating but I still keep counting the days (it was my only slip, I have been perfectly clean since), crush perfectionnism with ruggedness, whatever happens, just don't let yourself think it's over. Stay strong!
 
tghn

tghn

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Day 0 - this was such a rough week for me. Since monday I PMO’d 10 times. I fell back into my old habits even more extreme then before. I feel so empty right now but the memory of how I felt 10 days into no pmo motivates me to start again. Lets go!
 
TryingHarder

TryingHarder

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Sorry to hear this. 10 times?! 😟 Try to use it as a learning opportunity: what happened? What triggered the relapses? What can you do differently next time?
 
tghn

tghn

Member
I forgot all my motivation and my mind told me; ahh it won’t cause that much harm! This all comes together with a very stressful week..
thanks for the reflection tips @TryingHarder
What happened: forgot my motivation and PMO 10 times over 6 days.
What triggered it: girls on instagram
What can i do different next time: block all influences which can trigger me.
 
TryingHarder

TryingHarder

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What can i do different next time: block all influences which can trigger me.
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Hell yes. Don't think that is actually you in your profile photo, but whoever that bad ass is, imagine him pummeling Instagram and whatever else might lead you back to porn. ;)
 
TryingHarder

TryingHarder

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When I think about all the times I PMO because of a bad day at work or stress or whatever, I now tell myself: Will jerking off in front of your computer solve ANY of these problems? Uh, no. Good work, dummy. Now you have a mess to clean up, and your problems are now laughing at you. 🙃
 
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tghn said:
Day 0 - this was such a rough week for me. Since monday I PMO’d 10 times. I fell back into my old habits even more extreme then before. I feel so empty right now but the memory of how I felt 10 days into no pmo motivates me to start again. Lets go!
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You'll get out of this pit brother. We all believe in you. Let's do this !
 
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