hi, i’m chap :)

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Kraken

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chap said:
@Blondie @PrometheusUnbound @GBS thank you brothers. i’m hurting, but im getting by each day. there is always something that can be done. thank u for ur thoughts. i’m sending u all my grateful vibes

4/90 no PMO
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Sorry to hear able your struggle Chap. Take care of yourself and remember that the time after a slip is an opportunity in itself. Think about what you need and be proactive about getting those needs taken care of. Try to be kind to yourself and avoid porn. In my opinion, M is fine and don’t worry about how much you M right now. Just focus on the main things in this time of difficulty. Lock it down and heal. Sending you love man!
 
chap

chap

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1/7 no PMO

it’s been a rough couple of days. countless relapses. poor, impulsive decisions. low motivation, no desire to do anything, loss of appetite, stress snacking. i’d be lying to all of u brothers if i said i am okay. but i have been trying nonetheless, and today marks a bright path for now.

i am grateful for the continued support i have from all of u. give me strength to accomplish my goal of free pmo for a week. ik i can do it. and i will do it with my head up and a smile.

i’m going to shower and head to bed now.
 
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Kraken

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chap said:
1/7 no PMO

it’s been a rough couple of days. countless relapses. poor, impulsive decisions. low motivation, no desire to do anything, loss of appetite, stress snacking. i’d be lying to all of u brothers if i said i am okay. but i have been trying nonetheless, and today marks a bright path for now.

i am grateful for the continued support i have from all of u. give me strength to accomplish my goal of free pmo for a week. ik i can do it. and i will do it with my head up and a smile.

i’m going to shower and head to bed now.
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Great work keeping up the habit of posting on here. You’ve experienced a big emotional blow and some coping is totally cool. Just remember you have choices in what you chose to cope with. Instead of p you could m. Instead of m you could do a run. That’s a very simple example and life is not that simple I know but I want to encourage you to find small wins and you will be back on track before you know it. Your progress is not erased. It’s still here, ready for your return.
 
chap

chap

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2/7 no PMO

really felt like doing some m at the least, but i want to prove to myself that i can at least get myself to a week of no pmo. i reminded myself to return to the forum since i felt the urge. i have regained some motivation for the night and will use the restroom, drink some water, brush my teeth, put on my retainers, and get to bed.

i have some work to do tomorrow morning, but i was hoping i could spend the day tomorrow afterwards to do a silent retreat. it may cost me time doing school, but i think i need this for myself. perhaps i will have some time later in the evening once i return home to do some homework. good night brothers. stay strong, and thank you for your strength!
 
chap

chap

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5/7 no PMO

i was very productive today, and i am satisfied with my execution. still have plenty of room for growth but a great place nevertheless. creating a training program for myself since i gained nearly 40 pounds in excess weight; i already signed up for my next marathon which will be in august, exactly 44 weeks from today.

i've been more upbeat these last couple days. however, my dreams have been unpleasant with each one dealing with my separation. i have been journaling since the break up, so it is interesting to see how the process of my healing in some way or another. managing my time is my greatest area of improvement, so this week will be another opportunity to continue to practice the routine i am aiming towards.

a list of a few things i want to do in my free time instead of distractions:
• read descartes
• research for an essay i want to write on the concept of love
• read my recent comic pulls
• practice statistics and precalculus problems
• work on either one of my two novel stories
• tidy up my room/get rid of things/do laundry/wash dishes
 
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chap

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i want to do more vows of silence and meditation. anyone have any good sources for meditation for beginners? additionally, any thoughts on "meditation with music". i like to listen to music a lot, and a lot of that music is usually very calm, sad, instrumental music. does listening to this kind of music, inhibit results from meditation. i'm curious for some thoughts on this. thanks
 
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chap said:
any thoughts on "meditation with music".
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Personally, I avoid meditation with music. I don't have much experience with it but I practice meditation to find contentedness and a silent moment of deep reflection. Music gets in the way of that for me. If you're practicing meditation for other reasons, doing guided meditations with/without music can help I believe.

chap said:
i like to listen to music a lot, and a lot of that music is usually very calm, sad, instrumental music. does listening to this kind of music, inhibit results from meditation.
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As for listening to calm, sad and instrumental music, I don't know if they slow down progress. From personal experience I can say this type of music can get me in the same mood. Although "very calm" and "instrumental" sounds good at times, "sad" does not. I'd say: experiment.

chap said:
anyone have any good sources for meditation for beginners?
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Most importantly though, concretize what you seek to achieve with meditation. Using those as keywords when looking up techniques will refer you to the right ones.
 
chap

chap

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7/14 no PMO

time goes by quickly. but not quickly enough. time is weird. one week of no pmo, i am content with my progress. 2 weeks since my break-up, feels so long ago but like it just happened yesterday. it's lonely out here without her, but things are bright. routine is developing, and i'm turning my life around, one page at a time. this too shall pass, and i will become a stronger man—for myself, for the world, for her. goodnight brothers.

terrific tuesday
 
chap

chap

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9/14 no P
1/7 no MO

yesterday was pretty chill. had class, grabbed some new comic drops, and went for a run. running has been super duper hard recently since i have gained weight and have ankle/foot pain in my left foot. i commend anyone who tries to start running when they are on the heavier side; it is NOT easy. i am considering getting my bike fixed and using that to exercise while i heal my ankle.

thankful thursday, brothers. i am thankful for my family, my friends, for the memories/experiences i shared with my late love, my education and constant pursuit for knowledge, and my pursuit to become a better person
 
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Kraken

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Here for you Chap! It’s great to see you posting regularly so soon after a slip. For running after not running for a long time, I recommend doing a walk run style program where you incorporate walking for a certain amount of minutes before running for a certain amount of minutes. Also I would recommend seeing a phyiso / physical therapist for the ankle pain. Those folks are often overlooked but they can really help with problems like that.

Sending you long distance support!
 
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