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haven’t really had the impulse to watch porn which i’m happy about. i saw @Blondie respond to @First_step_thousand_miles where they spoke about meditation and routine.
i really want to develop better habits especially since come fall im going to be super duper busy. but i just don’t feel like it ughh. especially meditation, im really impatient so i avoid it.
but honestly, i believe it would help me to slow down and get mindful. and actively practice good habits to acquire good virtues. how do u guys deal and cope w this?
haven’t really had the impulse to watch porn which i’m happy about. i saw @Blondie respond to @First_step_thousand_miles where they spoke about meditation and routine.
i really want to develop better habits especially since come fall im going to be super duper busy. but i just don’t feel like it ughh. especially meditation, im really impatient so i avoid it.
but honestly, i believe it would help me to slow down and get mindful. and actively practice good habits to acquire good virtues. how do u guys deal and cope w this?
chap
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what are ur thoughts on masturbating to ur imagination. that’s what i have currently been permitting myself to do as an alternative to porn. i do wonder though however, if when i imagine masturbating—if i do so to my lady that i’m entangled with rn, would u personally consider that to be a form of objectification? i love her very much and desire her more than just infatuously; she is what i emotionally, intellectually, and physically/sexually desire.
so i’d feel much more comfortable imagining engaging in sexual acts that would get me off as opposed to watching real life sexual acts with girls i do not know and have zero connection with whom by the way, may perhaps be forced or pressured into the industry. i feel terrible knowing that a lot of these adult stars are just people trying to live day by day and by circumstance became an av star and may perhaps not like it at all, or worse, are being forced and coerced into doing it. it feels a lot more objectifying watching it than by imagining it.
however, my ultimate goal is to masturbate sensually and not even have to imagine it. but is that really possible? perhaps meditation can allow me to free up my mind so i can masturbate w zero thoughts. but that sounds so foreign and practically impossible. just a query i have that i would like to share with you all. i humbly request a respectful, nonjudgmental safe space. thanks
️ onwards!
so i’d feel much more comfortable imagining engaging in sexual acts that would get me off as opposed to watching real life sexual acts with girls i do not know and have zero connection with whom by the way, may perhaps be forced or pressured into the industry. i feel terrible knowing that a lot of these adult stars are just people trying to live day by day and by circumstance became an av star and may perhaps not like it at all, or worse, are being forced and coerced into doing it. it feels a lot more objectifying watching it than by imagining it.
however, my ultimate goal is to masturbate sensually and not even have to imagine it. but is that really possible? perhaps meditation can allow me to free up my mind so i can masturbate w zero thoughts. but that sounds so foreign and practically impossible. just a query i have that i would like to share with you all. i humbly request a respectful, nonjudgmental safe space. thanks
️ onwards!
Blondie
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Hey @chap. This is a good question. In my opinion, I think there is no problem whatsoever in "objectifying" your Lady. Obviously, there could be limits to that statement, but in the sense that I'm getting at, she's your Lady, and there's nothing wrong with the benefits that come with that right. She can be both an outlet for your fantasies AND a true source of friendship, companionship, and intellectual stimulation. I don't believe one rules out the other. So make of that what you will.
However, I would say regularly MOing can really set you back in your recovery, even if it's to your Lady. This habit is so intrenched with porn, that for many of us, it's very hard to separate the two, especially at first. Obvious, everyone has to do what they feel is right, and it certainly isn't "wrong" but in my experience, abstaining from MO has really helped me in the long run.
Best!
However, I would say regularly MOing can really set you back in your recovery, even if it's to your Lady. This habit is so intrenched with porn, that for many of us, it's very hard to separate the two, especially at first. Obvious, everyone has to do what they feel is right, and it certainly isn't "wrong" but in my experience, abstaining from MO has really helped me in the long run.
Best!
chap
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thanks @Blondie i appreciate the feedback, i certainly attest to your statement and feel better in my justification. however, like you mentioned, i also agree that after so many years of PMO, it is difficult to separate the two. so abstaining from MO is just as important as the former. as of now, i rely on MOing as like an ultimatum-last resort. i can go, as of now, perhaps 3ish days without MOing, but then the urges for PMO come to fruition. My objective goal for now is to rid myself of porn; it seems as if the approach i am taking now has been effective for this recent week. i will continue to monitor and log in my experience. about to hit a week of no porn!
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chap
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successfully deleted my reddit and x account. those two platforms were an outlet for PMO and i'm glad that they are not going to be anymore. i also deleted other accounts that had influence PMO behavior.
i want to create a massive document that lists out my objective goals for the oncoming months. i feel like there are so many corners of my life that i need to work on and i just feel like i can't keep track of it all. how do u kings deal with trying to fix all these areas of your life even when u feel like u can only focus on one thing.
i want to create a massive document that lists out my objective goals for the oncoming months. i feel like there are so many corners of my life that i need to work on and i just feel like i can't keep track of it all. how do u kings deal with trying to fix all these areas of your life even when u feel like u can only focus on one thing.
chap
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13 no P
3 no MO
i’m gonna keep trucking for myself! my favorite lady and i are on the same page about MOing and i feel good about that. 77 days to go to hit 90 no P and 87 days to hit no MO. i’ll continue to respect the unit of one! have an awesome day folks and keep on fighting the good fight! @Blondie @First_step_thousand_miles @Percival @Scottie_B @PrometheusUnbound @Clouds&Dirt @GBS @Kraken
3 no MO
i’m gonna keep trucking for myself! my favorite lady and i are on the same page about MOing and i feel good about that. 77 days to go to hit 90 no P and 87 days to hit no MO. i’ll continue to respect the unit of one! have an awesome day folks and keep on fighting the good fight! @Blondie @First_step_thousand_miles @Percival @Scottie_B @PrometheusUnbound @Clouds&Dirt @GBS @Kraken