Wednesday was a good day. Mind you, I did try to look a couple of times but my phone had a poor connection every time and I gave up. From today's perspective that seems so lame.
Working from home again today and there are no tasks breathing down my next so I need to be careful. Idle hands and the devil and all: I should use timers again and queue up some non-porn distractions for when I need a break.
Hi
@Percival , may I suggest a free ways that have helped me?
A big part of returning to PMO is the utter lack of alternative sources of joy and happiness we have created in our life, because we didn't dedicate time to it earlier.
I found some activities that resonate with me a lot.
Aquarium keeping
Chess
Reading some topics
Blogging
1. these are things I inherently enjoy.
They are fun and somewhat effortless
2. They continue to make me feel good and rewarded long after I stopped
3. They occupy my mind even when I'm not doing them.
Try and find activities like these. This is the core of satisfaction and satiation in non addicted and non dependent minds.
Broaden your life.
Don't just do things that people say are good for you. Find and do those that resonate with you. Have something of a longer term than can take you away from the hollowness of now.
2. Approach behavior like a crime investigation.
Find out the who where what when how whenever cravings set in.
Eg. 2pm, empty house, toilet, phone, site/ model.
This is because many times our behavior is
1. Learned and habitualized through practice and repetition
2. Instigated by environment and surroundings, not premeditated
3. Resulting from lack of choices.
We do some things not because we want to but because we
are used to,
are blind to,
don't know what else to do,
don't have anything else to do.
Knowing this, we can find ways to overcome them.
I hope this helps you!