Does it get any better?

Today was the most stressful day since my recovery journey. It got so bad to the fact that I gave in to P just to get some sleep. My sleep cycle has been ruined and honestly I'm a bit lost. I don't know if I'm going to beat this but I'll not give up. I'll get back up and try again
This question always rings in my head will I get better. I'll try and try but shouldn't give up cos I need to get better. I can't keep on hurting the people I love. They deserve better and so I must commit to this If I want freedom
 

TryingHarder

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Yes, it gets better. Keep doing what you're doing. You will feel much better the longer you stay away from porn and regain control over your life.
 
Thank you @TryingHarder. Thank u for the encouragement. I really needed it especially in times of uncertainty. P really knows how to make your life feel worse than it could ever feel. I'll pick myself up and try again and maybe change a few things in my strategy towards this.
If I may ask, which steps have helped you during this journey? Especially I'm the long run cos if I cannot be honest, going a week without P seems to a hefty challenge for me
 

DmdsDmt

Active Member
Today was the most stressful day since my recovery journey. It got so bad to the fact that I gave in to P just to get some sleep. My sleep cycle has been ruined and honestly I'm a bit lost. I don't know if I'm going to beat this but I'll not give up. I'll get back up and try again
This question always rings in my head will I get better. I'll try and try but shouldn't give up cos I need to get better. I can't keep on hurting the people I love. They deserve better and so I must commit to this If I want freedom
Im sorry to hear that ur struggling man. About the sleep problems tho, ive heard about this from Andrew Huberman, that first hour when you wake up, you should get outside and look at the sun/sky for at least 10 mins. That will regulate your circadian rithm. Ive had bad sleep too, but i did this for 3 days and my body started to sync up with the sun and got very tired at around 10 and could sleep well. But yeah, it can be many factors. Also cut the blue light screens towards the evening. Hope it helps and wish you luck on your journey!
 

Go Flow

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Thank you @TryingHarder. Thank u for the encouragement. I really needed it especially in times of uncertainty. P really knows how to make your life feel worse than it could ever feel. I'll pick myself up and try again and maybe change a few things in my strategy towards this.
If I may ask, which steps have helped you during this journey? Especially I'm the long run cos if I cannot be honest, going a week without P seems to a hefty challenge for me
Continuously Adjusting is the name of the game, so it's great that you said that. It's also important to accept that it's par for the course for the foreseeable future and since some one like you is struggling to do a week, then you also know that you have to deal with the emotionally draining baggage that comes with that truth. It's so easy to give in when we are carrying so much emotional weight, and our lower ego/subconscious just can't wait for those weak moments to pounce on us.

love the idea of getting outside in the a.m. Great idea. I also practice going deep within when I do wake up during a broken sleep. I'm getting stronger and more resilient, like a muscle. I've been doing it so long now, I sometimes actually enjoy the discomfort or being awake.

Also, I've stopped stressing that I've woken. I just tell myself that this withdrawal doing it's thing and that actually my body is craving to get back to sleep. so I give my mind permission to relax. It's lll bout perspectives and the subsconscious doesn't know if you're bullshitting it. just be convincing by believing in the TRUTH that our bodies love two things more than anything:

One: Food
Two: Sleep

Try also some over the counter sleep products. in the UK there is a good one that comes in a blue pack, but take for too long and you can feel like a zombie. But it can act as an aid until you establish a stronger relationship with broken nights. It's helped me a lot.


best of luck!
 
Im sorry to hear that ur struggling man. About the sleep problems tho, ive heard about this from Andrew Huberman, that first hour when you wake up, you should get outside and look at the sun/sky for at least 10 mins. That will regulate your circadian rithm. Ive had bad sleep too, but i did this for 3 days and my body started to sync up with the sun and got very tired at around 10 and could sleep well. But yeah, it can be many factors. Also cut the blue light screens towards the evening. Hope it helps and wish you luck on your journey!
Thank u @DmdsDmt. It's been such a struggle sleeping lately but I have limited my time on my phone and take Into consideration of basking in the sun in the first hour I awake. Tbh.. I would use some sunlight as I'm mostly at home and should work on getting out more. Thank you again
Good luck on your journey as well
 
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If I may ask, which steps have helped you during this journey? Especially in the long run cos if I cannot be honest, going a week without P seems to a hefty challenge for me
Its not easy at first, but the more consistent we are with it, the better it is. Something that helped me get through it was replacing the habit and keeping busy. The more I focused on other things like meditation, gym/excercise, work, friends, hobbies, and general self improvement the less I thought about P.

I feel like no one ever talks about how much knowing yourself helps. Maybe its just me but I found that the more I understood about myself and why I started porn, the easier it was to put roadblocks and focus on other things.

Try reading "Atomic Habits - James Clear" it talks about human habits and how to remove bad habits and create positive ones
 
Its not easy at first, but the more consistent we are with it, the better it is. Something that helped me get through it was replacing the habit and keeping busy. The more I focused on other things like meditation, gym/excercise, work, friends, hobbies, and general self improvement the less I thought about P.

I feel like no one ever talks about how much knowing yourself helps. Maybe its just me but I found that the more I understood about myself and why I started porn, the easier it was to put roadblocks and focus on other things.

Try reading "Atomic Habits - James Clear" it talks about human habits and how to remove bad habits and create positive ones
I'm currently reading that book and it's amazing. I'm trying to know myself better and work on aspects that help me grow as you stated. I've also noticed a loop in which I'm always so down and sluggish during the 4th to 7th day of my journey and that's when I'm most vulnerable. I'll try my best to put it some road blocks and be consistent and just trust the process.
Thanks for the advice. All the best on your journey!
 

SmokenMirrors

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I thought the exact same when I started back in September. After a rocky road I'm pn day 150 of no porn use and I can tell you that it gets so much better! You'll be more confident, happy, excited and your zest for life will come back! I believe that my porn use rendered my soul to be blunted at the tips and everything appeared grey and bleak, that has all gone now! Keep up the good fight bro!
 
I thought the exact same when I started back in September. After a rocky road I'm pn day 150 of no porn use and I can tell you that it gets so much better! You'll be more confident, happy, excited and your zest for life will come back! I believe that my porn use rendered my soul to be blunted at the tips and everything appeared grey and bleak, that has all gone now! Keep up the good fight bro!
Thanks bro! And much appreciated for the reply. I'll pick myself up and give it another try
 
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