The Road back to Good Times - Restoring Back to Factory Resets

Aryan

Member
[ Day 1 ]

So I am starting the journey again. I am happy that I was able to restrain myself from M for 24 days. If I talk about porn, it's now 30 days plus and I am still continuing successfully. Yesterday was relatively an easy day.

At night, I usually have the same temptations, but I was able to resist them by reading and meditating.
 

downhillfromhere

Well-Known Member
Great, I like that you are being so forward with what happened. It’s easy to just think that what you watched could be a grey area, but you’re holding yourself to a standard and I think that’s admirable!
 

Aryan

Member
Great, I like that you are being so forward with what happened. It’s easy to just think that what you watched could be a grey area, but you’re holding yourself to a standard and I think that’s admirable!
Thanks, @downhillfromhere . I believe I can only get the complete benefits of joining this fabulous community if I am completely honest on this forum. Moreover, I can be 100% transparent here because there is no fear of judgement and absolutely No Competition.

Also, I am not here to play the numbers game. I am here to share my experiences, learn from others, and transform my bad habits into good ones by taking inspiration from all of the community.
 

Aryan

Member
How are you holding up @Aryan ?
@WinkTinkTillium : Hey, thanks for asking. It's not too good or too bad. Talking about P, it's now 38 days, but with M, I have to relapse again. I will be starting with day 1 again from today.

It was a long weekend. I was out of town and I was on a date with an old friend after nearly two years, who I always found gorgeous and sexy. After spending a day with her the mind was full of all kind of thoughts full of fantasies and I am not able to resist to temptations and M.

M is always a stress reliever. I have to soon find a strong alternative to it.

I was not able to stick to my routine of meditation because of travel. I have started it again today.
 

WinkTinkTillium

Active Member
Hey @Aryan 38 Days no P is absolutely amazing! I completely understand how difficult that scenario was for you and understand how it led to M. Was the M to porn or porn fantasy? Sorry to dive into it but my point is it may not be the full set back you think it is if the desire was driven by a real person versus a digital screen. Resetting to Day 1 is your call and i am glad you have a refreshed spirit but definitely dont let it bring you down too much because you have made and are continuing to make great progress and rewiring to real people is part of the healing process
 

Aryan

Member
Thank you, @WinkTinkTillium , for your unwavering support.

Well, the M is for foot fetish fantasy, continuously craving in my mind for a real person. I have had this strong foot fetish for ever and last week I went out for a date with a friend who had the most gorgeous feet and legs, so it was almost unbearable to resist and therefore I relapsed.

I am resetting it to 1 because for years I had this bad habit of using M as a trigger to sleep at night. It was a bad ritual that I finally started to get rid of because of this community. I was so addicted that I even got used to M without any erection, so getting rid of this was even a bigger challenge as compared to porn. I did it for 24 days last time, so I am at-least trying to get past that number.

Please help me understand how you and most of the other people count M if you do it for real people. How often do you think it is reasonable?
 

WinkTinkTillium

Active Member
@Aryan glad to be here however i can for all of us!

So i am not at the point yet to incorporate M into my routine, and to be honest i may never again. However my initial goal is 90 days no P M O hard mode. After 90 days i will begin to engage in sex with my lady counterpart again. if it works great, if not then i know i can keep trying but will need more time to heal. I will ask her not to do oral sex since that was tied to the porn fetishes i seeked the most. just standard sex and rewiring.

During my years of failure even M to no porn led me to a hyper overdrive libido and i would then binge to M and then find my way back to porn, so personally i dont know if i can trust myself and am airing on the side of caution.

However after my 90 days is complete if I M'd to non porn fantasy thoughts of my lady, I would not count it as a reset even if it put me into a flatlife. Flatline would just mean i wasnt ready yet.

The only thing 90 days onward for me that would be considered a reset to zero would be any use of Porn (pictures video or mental fantasy based off my old porn habits.

I hope that helps! Others who are on streaks longer than 90 may be able to share some great insight. you can tag them and ask :)
 

Aryan

Member
@WinkTinkTillium : Thanks for your answer. I love your attitude and fighting spirit: " you are putting in your best efforts and the best thing is that you are OK and are willing to put in more efforts even if things don't work out after 90 days.

Your insights are really helpful, and your thoughts are very clear. I will try to in-corporate the same attitude as yours.
 

Aryan

Member
P - 43, M- 0

[ Day 1 ] :
I will be starting again after only 3 days.

The pattern continues. On weekends during the night, I find it very hard to resist M. Most of my plans till date are not giving the results I am seeking. It's really hard to get thoughts about your fantasies out of your mind. Somehow, despite all my efforts, it's the thoughts about my fantasies that are still in control of my mind.

Note to self : I will keep on fighting till I succeed.
 
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