You got this mate. Seems like we're at pretty similar day counts (I've just hit day 7).Day 8. Gone monk mode this time so 8 days of no O, could be the longest I have ever gone! Feeling good though. Been reading up about the benefits of quiting porn and I am so ready for my life to turn that corner
Hi mate, I would massivly appreciate that. I'm finding this forum so helpful for keeping myself accountable. So let's not let each other down! We can do this!You got this mate. Seems like we're at pretty similar day counts (I've just hit day 7).
Here's to us both sticking at it. Thanks for helping to keep me accountable, hopefully I can help to do the same for you.
Thanks man, appreciate the message. You're right that it feels great to move forward and not just sink into a downwards spiral. Another day stronger!Hey matey - just to say you've done so well to not lapse with everything else going on. Try to hold onto the thought of how much worse you would have felt had you gone to that familiar old comfort blanket. It's never, ever worth it. Regardless of how down you are, the brain fog ... You can still have the knowledge that you've had a good day and you're still growing, still moving forwards when you're able to chalk another mark on that day tracker.
Yeah I am UK based. Manchester normally but I am in the Midlands at the moment as living at my parents house since the wife asked for some space. Has been good for me to have a different environment and the commute to work is only just over an hour so its doable!I can fully relate to the dreams about P... It's crazy isn't it when you think about it. Definitely a sign we need to rewire those neural networks!!
So I don't have the experience myself to comment on the O during a reboot, but my instinct is that contemplating the massage/anything that doesn't involve genuine human connection is the thin end of the wedge, and would likely lead to places you wouldn't want it to. At least that's how I'm pretty sure it would end up with me.. ('researching' where to get a massage and then before you know it, peeking at other stuff and then full blown P)... I also don't imagine you would feel great afterwards even if you didn't involve P in it...
Anyway, no idea if that's at all helpful but always happy to offer my perspective. Just as I really appreciate yours on my own journey.
We've got this... Ps I may have missed this detail, but are you Uk-based? (I am, which is why I ask out of curiosity!)
All the best to you. I have been through a divorce before and it does hurt, but my life got better in the end. I thought what you said here was interesting. In another way, maybe if you didn't have the last two years, you wouldn't have be at day 14 now with a new way to process your trauma. Just a thought.Maybe if I had of been like that these last two years I wouldn't find myself where I am now.
Thanks man. Appreciate the support from someone that has been through divorce. I appreciate your perspective on things too, like it is these hard challenges that make us all stronger.All the best to you. I have been through a divorce before and it does hurt, but my life got better in the end. I thought what you said here was interesting. In another way, maybe if you didn't have the last two years, you wouldn't have be at day 14 now with a new way to process your trauma. Just a thought.
Anyways, keep up the good work!