lightspear42
Member
I can't tell you how many times I have looked at porn and masterbated. I have been trapped in the cycle of porn ever since I was about 15 years old. So this all started when I was a teen and has never been fully dealt with. I was able to stop for extended periods during my 20s and early 30s. Perhaps 6-8 months before I would slip back into the cycle of quit/trigger/relapse/remorse. I would tell my wife about it. She would cry. I would feel dead inside. And then I would go a while before I did it again.
Rinse, repeat. Rinse, repeat. And here I am 37 this year. So I have been addicted to porn for about 22 years. But lately it has gotten much, much worse.
I have been tracking myself and my porn problem in detail since the beginning of February. It has not stopped or even slowed down. Maybe a little at the first week of February. But after that I just go back every Monday. I was also able to go a little longer in June. But recently I have slipped back. What I am into is getting more intense.
I thank the Lord that he has kept me back from anything illegal. But what I am into is still pretty addicting and smutty. I have never been able to say what I am into, ironically, outside of a fetish context. I am into forms of BDSM and addiction fetishizing. So I am triggered by the feeling of being triggered.
So, here I am. The porn is getting darker. My wife doesn't fully know about my addiction. She knows that I have a problem with porn but that is it.
I hope that through this I can begin to break this cycle that I am in and start an actual recovery. I plan on continuing to talk to my wife about my struggle. But I can't go too far with her for fear of breaking her spirit. I also have an accountability partner. But I fall into cycles of just not telling them about how I am doing. This is something that I hope to break with this forum. You can't escape porn without community and I am not trying to. But if I don't go to my community they can't help me.
Let this day be my first in a new turning point. I will check in here and I hope that I can finally beat this thing.
Rinse, repeat. Rinse, repeat. And here I am 37 this year. So I have been addicted to porn for about 22 years. But lately it has gotten much, much worse.
I have been tracking myself and my porn problem in detail since the beginning of February. It has not stopped or even slowed down. Maybe a little at the first week of February. But after that I just go back every Monday. I was also able to go a little longer in June. But recently I have slipped back. What I am into is getting more intense.
I thank the Lord that he has kept me back from anything illegal. But what I am into is still pretty addicting and smutty. I have never been able to say what I am into, ironically, outside of a fetish context. I am into forms of BDSM and addiction fetishizing. So I am triggered by the feeling of being triggered.
So, here I am. The porn is getting darker. My wife doesn't fully know about my addiction. She knows that I have a problem with porn but that is it.
I hope that through this I can begin to break this cycle that I am in and start an actual recovery. I plan on continuing to talk to my wife about my struggle. But I can't go too far with her for fear of breaking her spirit. I also have an accountability partner. But I fall into cycles of just not telling them about how I am doing. This is something that I hope to break with this forum. You can't escape porn without community and I am not trying to. But if I don't go to my community they can't help me.
Let this day be my first in a new turning point. I will check in here and I hope that I can finally beat this thing.