Serious effects of porn on women

ladysudan

Active Member
I'm glad I found this platform where people are honest about their problems and are willing to support each other. I never knew about effects of porn on men until I had joined here.

But one question that still remains unanswered is... What are the serious effects of porn on women?

Both men and women have some common problems when it comes to porn like:
1. Trying to Find (unattainable) perfection in their partners in terms of body, looks, appearance and sexual performance.

2. Normalising the things shown in porn even though it is actually abnormal, rough and unhealthy.

3. Going through a never ending cycle of craving, watching, feeling guilt, trying to quit and then surrendering. This kind of experience leaves us with low self esteem. Also low self esteem can arise in opposite partners when one of them is more satisfied in watching porn.

4. Mental health problems like anxiety problems and some abnormal sexual behaviours.

5. Giving importance to porn more than anything else.

But I would like to know if there are any health issues seen in women if they engage themselves in PMO too much? If no one is aware about the answers...is it because of the fear of facing extreme amount of insult and shame because of which they are not going to talk about their problems ?

Please reply!
 

downhillfromhere

Well-Known Member
If the effects on women are anything like they are on men, I would guess a lot of women experience problems reaching orgasm. I have been having problems with delayed ejaculation, and I can imagine that a similar effect can occur for women as well. I mean - chasing novelty, waiting for the perfect moment etc.

I don’t know if this is what you mean by health issue, but I can see that like men, women might begin to doubt themselves, experience depression or anxiety, might start to think there is something wrong with them and so on.
 

MissDark

Member
My sex life has been influenced a lot by (hardcore) porn, but the trouble is that it's hard to tell wether that's part of me or not. You might consider certain things as abnormal, but I'm not sure if that's a negative thing in itself. After all, there are people that are into pretty rough stuff without being influenced by porn. I have to say that this is something I kind of struggle with. My therapist says my sex life is rather deviant and I have to admit certain things have gone a bit too far perhaps, but other of the abnormal stuff I do enjoy a lot. Then again, it does effect my life in negative ways, so perhaps it is kinda unhealthy.

To me my problems with porn are mainly numbing my emotions and giving too much importance to sex and porn though. I use to escape and I escape a lot. That's not healthy. Personally I haven't had any issues with reaching orgasm.
 

SalientY

Member
My sex life has been influenced a lot by (hardcore) porn, but the trouble is that it's hard to tell wether that's part of me or not. You might consider certain things as abnormal, but I'm not sure if that's a negative thing in itself. After all, there are people that are into pretty rough stuff without being influenced by porn. I have to say that this is something I kind of struggle with. My therapist says my sex life is rather deviant and I have to admit certain things have gone a bit too far perhaps, but other of the abnormal stuff I do enjoy a lot. Then again, it does effect my life in negative ways, so perhaps it is kinda unhealthy.

To me my problems with porn are mainly numbing my emotions and giving too much importance to sex and porn though. I use to escape and I escape a lot. That's not healthy. Personally I haven't had any issues with reaching orgasm.
"Giving too much importance to sex." 100% exactly. My emotions are more of a wreck and I'm more anxious than I have been in a couple years just from withdraw, including other addictions and habits. Bad sexual habits and diefiying sexualitly is so difficult to overcome, but everyone must fight for their life. I know everyone here can do it.
 

Jlied

Member
My sex life has been influenced a lot by (hardcore) porn, but the trouble is that it's hard to tell wether that's part of me or not. You might consider certain things as abnormal, but I'm not sure if that's a negative thing in itself. After all, there are people that are into pretty rough stuff without being influenced by porn. I have to say that this is something I kind of struggle with. My therapist says my sex life is rather deviant and I have to admit certain things have gone a bit too far perhaps, but other of the abnormal stuff I do enjoy a lot. Then again, it does effect my life in negative ways, so perhaps it is kinda unhealthy.

To me my problems with porn are mainly numbing my emotions and giving too much importance to sex and porn though. I use to escape and I escape a lot. That's not healthy. Personally I haven't had any issues with reaching orgasm.
I was listening to a podcast once several years ago, I can’t remember for the life of me the name of the podcast, however the therapist had a discussion about whether porn influences our tastes sexually or if our bodies were somewhat prewired to enjoy such things we just didn’t know it because we weren’t exposed to it. He used food as an example. There are plenty of dishes of food that you’ve never had, yet some you will like right away and some you will not and you won’t grow to enjoy the dishes that did not taste well to you no matter how many times you try to eat it.

now i find some truth to that but some false to that too. I know personally I experimented with things sexually that I was never into and felt uncomfortable with, however once my porn behavior got to the point where I couldn’t control it I started leaning towards those things that I didn’t agree with before hand. I do think there is an influence that porn has, it may not fully change you in terms of sexual preferences but I do think it can influence you to at least go against your morals.

I also noticed that as I’ve been away from porn and thinking with more clarity i identify more with my feelings before porn than during porn. Just my thoughts, I found the discussion interesting and thought provoking at least.
 

MissDark

Member
Thanx for the input @Jlied. I can see your point, but I think it's not that weird to like things that also go against your morals in a sexual setting. The fact that they go against your morals is what gives them a thrill. I do agree that porn is an easy source of things that go against your morals and that there is definitly the chance of escalation. And of course there is going against your morals and going against your morals. I don't think our morals are definitly right all the time and therefore going against your morals isn't necessarily wrong. Sometimes our morals are just pretty ridiculous. But perhaps that's a different discussion.
 

Jlied

Member
Hey Dark, thanks for your thoughts. I think you are right in that sometimes our morals are good, but I’m not sure that they are ever ridiculous as long as they are morals you’ve created based on your life and experiences as opposed to morals that you are told you should adhere too. I do think morals are ever changing just like we are as people, the more you learn the more you may realize a set of morals you adhered to we’re out of ignorance or for the sake of making others happy, but I do think morals are important and giving yourself a basic outline as to who you want to become as a person. Without them we’re lawless and it makes it easier to do whatever we please without having to be responsible for our own actions. Porn certainly makes it easy to detach from reality and responsibility and go against the way we want to be. Thanks for the thought invoking reply you gave me.
 
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