I need help

Quit_now

Member
Pls ban / kick me if I am in the wrong forum. I deserve it anyway.

sorry to use it as a confession thread

I am 30s now and happily married? With a kid. I wouldn’t say my marriage is bad but it’s just normal.

I used to watch porn on a two days once basis about 10-15 years ago.

with the Covid Pandemic it became once a day cause of WFH.

made some friends who brought me to happy ending massages. Now I am fantasizing the massage as the porn didn’t seem to do enough.

help. My partner doesn’t know about it now.

But I really wanna quit this. I haven had sexual intercourse. Mainly a handjob so std are safe.

but it’s getting easier and easier for me to spiral down into more porn > more sex.
 

aymentech45

Member
@Quit_now Do you have PIED, Do you hate to have sex with you wife and If you watch porn you can't satisfy your urges, please Mr, mention all problems so to be easy for readers to know your situation and help you.
 

Quit_now

Member
Sorry for going in circles.

1) I have an intense urge to watch porn whenever I am bored
2) having sex with my wife doesn’t feel as good as watching porn
3) handjobs/masturbation seems more satisfying to me than the need to bang.
4) I could watch porn n Jack off daily but I cannot have sex daily
 

aymentech45

Member
My advice is to quit porn as soon as possible, I know it's hard but that's the price of rewiring your brain. What actually happened to you is that your sexual behavior and genital mindset have taken the wrong road, toward masturbation and porn use, as our brain can't distinguich from real inputs from fake inputs and the huge amount of pleasure that porn gives, your brain marks that masturbation and watching porn as the best way to feel happy and to reproduce and marks having sex unsatisfactory process. You only can get your normal sexual desire and have fun with your marriage by quiting porn forever, the urges are temporary because your altered brain chemestry that should happen to feed your brain needs of dopamine, you must not respond to no matter how bad It is because you have two choices then, whether go deeply inside the hole or climb the hole, belive me over time It will vanish. Hey bro I am sorry to tell you that the only way to get back your life and get rid from this non-existed world is through pain and patience. Don't upset or be afraid I we will help you.
 

Quit_now

Member
My advice is to quit porn as soon as possible, I know it's hard but that's the price of rewiring your brain. What actually happened to you is that your sexual behavior and genital mindset have taken the wrong road, toward masturbation and porn use, as our brain can't distinguich from real inputs from fake inputs and the huge amount of pleasure that porn gives, your brain marks that masturbation and watching porn as the best way to feel happy and to reproduce and marks having sex unsatisfactory process. You only can get your normal sexual desire and have fun with your marriage by quiting porn forever, the urges are temporary because your altered brain chemestry that should happen to feed your brain needs of dopamine, you must not respond to no matter how bad It is because you have two choices then, whether go deeply inside the hole or climb the hole, belive me over time It will vanish. Hey bro I am sorry to tell you that the only way to get back your life and get rid from this non-existed world is through pain and patience. Don't upset or be afraid I we will help you.
Thanks!

I usually watch porn on Firefox / puffin. Browsing sex forums which in turn entices me to go for handjobs.

I am thinking of counseling / therapy but it’s expensive.

I have deleted all the porn watching apps. This is my first day not watching porn so far. It’s pathetic but for the past years I have never spent maybe less than 24hours not even going to a porn site.

I am going to use this site as a daily checkin. I have started marking down events on my calendar to state the days I am porn / handjobs free
 

Quit_now

Member
I am close to no porn for 24 hours.

never thought I was addicted but oh my god….

it’s painful to not watch porn for a day..
 

aymentech45

Member
Imagine your brain like a cat with 4 legs, what if the cat loose a leg, It will probably overtime learn how to walk with 3 legs. The same your brain when you stop watching porn it's like the leg it was lost, but with patient and courage you brain will learn to live without porn and forget about it but the pain and the horrible taste of bad thoughts is the price that you should give to make your dream real. What are facing know is the hardest part in the recovery process but you have to face it, you have to face your fears and develop your awareness. Remember "The very thing that discourages you, is the very thing that develops you"
You can share with me whatever you feel, any question, I am here bro because I really know this very well.
 

Quit_now

Member
Imagine your brain like a cat with 4 legs, what if the cat loose a leg, It will probably overtime learn how to walk with 3 legs. The same your brain when you stop watching porn it's like the leg it was lost, but with patient and courage you brain will learn to live without porn and forget about it but the pain and the horrible taste of bad thoughts is the price that you should give to make your dream real. What are facing know is the hardest part in the recovery process but you have to face it, you have to face your fears and develop your awareness. Remember "The very thing that discourages you, is the very thing that develops you"
You can share with me whatever you feel, any question, I am here bro because I really know this very well.
Thanks!

few more hours to 24 hours.

I am suffering from
Covid now so it feels so exciting to go touch my penis or rather just watch some
Porn. Literally vomiting every now n



ranting here really helps.

trying to watch the stock market doing all sorts of things to evade porn. Left alll the porn related Reddit groups as wel
 

aymentech45

Member
Great job, remember you have two choices then, whether go deeply inside the hole or climb the hole, every time you conquer those urges and thougths, It's a step forward.
 

Quit_now

Member
Day 3 now… half the day gone… half more to go.

wondering isit easier coz I am so sick with Covid that I have no mood to watch porn.
 

aymentech45

Member
It's good, but don't "stop watching porn" for temporary reasons such covid, instead, always think of the damage, the measurable consequences, and what you will get if you never go back to it, like getting your marriage back and your life, anyway keep going bro
 

Quit_now

Member
Covid getting better. Day 3 successful. Slowly n slowly. Forcing myself to track no fap days on calendar daily. It keeps me on my toes
 

Quit_now

Member
It's good, but don't "stop watching porn" for temporary reasons such covid, instead, always think of the damage, the measurable consequences, and what you will get if you never go back to it, like getting your marriage back and your life, anyway keep going bro
Thanks! Checking in here daily to keep myself sane. Thank you for your kind words
 
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