Escapeandnevercomeback
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PMO x 2
Right after I finished the post above, I PMOed again, I went straight to the soothing...
Right after I finished the post above, I PMOed again, I went straight to the soothing...
Hey, man! Thanks for the help.Hey @Escapeandnevercomeback. I know that feeling, I have been the same all of my adult life - feeling like a kid or a teenager, emotionally immature and no idea what to do about it. I didn’t want help either, it took a breakup with the only girlfriend I’ve ever had for me to realise I had to get better. I was left with no friends, no network and no way to connect with anyone. So I bit the bullet, went to a therapist and it got me going with the things I needed to do.
I’m 35 now, that was 3 years ago. Believe me, it’s not too late to do that. The only thing you need is the willingness to talk to someone about your situation, like you said. Being exposed is not a bad thing here.
You know, I think in my case I ended up using porn as a way of dealing with life and as a result I didn't learn normal ways to deal with life and ended up more immature than I should be. I didn't really grow.hey man I don't have much to say, except that I'm in a similar place, 31 and been coping with porn and alcohol for a long time. I feel the same way about opening up to someone in real life, ashamed that I'm so immature and that I didn't take this seriously earlier, but I know I have to do it in order to get better, otherwise I just end up in the same old cycle. Hope you find the strength to get back on track
Yes, you're absolutely right.I think there's a clear action step in front of you right now: ask for help. You have circled around it a ton, but never done it. It's tough, but I think that's just the price of freedom for you! If you aren't willing to pay that price, then freedom will be very hard to achieve. If you want to but just can't....well, why not? Find those reasons and work through them, or better yet just take a deep breath and do it without even listening to the reasons.
Here's one idea: make a plan for what steps you would take if you were seeking help, very concrete and specific. Find the organization you would use, find the number or email you would contact them with, draft the email or conversation... Then sometime, just do it. Make the barriers to it as small as you can, to give your willpower a boost.Then just do it sometime.
So did you do it? Agreeing won't get you anywhere unless you do itYes, you're absolutely right.
I know, it won't get me anywhere, I need to do it, I know.So did you do it? Agreeing won't get you anywhere unless you do it